The friend's two children, the eldest is a boy, named Tao Tao. From a young age, he was bullied and did not fight back, even if the child felt very wronged and cried, he did not fight back, and colleagues felt very distressed about it for a long time.
Later, after a period of careful observation, it was found that the problem was in the colleagues themselves and the child's grandmother, because Tao Tao was the first child in the family and had spoiled him since he was a child.
When playing outside with children, there is a little contradiction, adults will come forward to solve it for him, younger than him, colleagues will educate him to let his younger brothers and sisters, and adults older than him will come forward to help him coordinate with others. In the long run, Tao Tao lacked the opportunity to face and deal with contradictions alone, which also led to his slow development into being bullied and not knowing how to fight back.
And because he is often bullied by others and does not know how to fight back, Tao Tao often loses his temper and cries at home because of a small matter.
If the child is always in a "I am too wronged" mood because he has been bullied, he will be surrounded by this negative energy, and his temper may become more grumpy and he is more likely to cry frequently.
We should keep children away from this bad emotion of being bullied, cultivate children's ability to solve problems on their own, learn to protect themselves, and stay away from being bullied by others.
Don't always talk about your child being bullied
Some parents see that their children have been bullied, they will repeatedly say endlessly, "You look at other people's children, and then look at you, how is it always like this, etc.", adults have always hung up on the fact that children dare not resist and are timid, making the whole family anxious. As everyone knows, such words will invisibly make children feel timid, and will also make children feel unconfident, become only promises, and dare not resist.
Children are bullied and told to parents in the hope of getting comfort from their parents. We must comfort him and give him enough warmth as soon as possible. If you do not comfort but accuse the child, over time, the child will be more reluctant to talk to his parents about the grievances he has suffered, and his personality will become more and more cowardly.
Tell your child what to do if they are bullied through picture book stories
For children who have been bullied, there must be correct educational indoctrination from an early age. And picture books are the best reading materials for reading and education, the picture book can imperceptibly teach children what the story expresses, and the themes of picture books are diverse and cover a wide range!
From the picture book, we can guide children to correctly recognize bullying and give children courage. You can also let the child know that it is not right to bully others from an early age, it is not a fun thing, and it is also taught that the child should not be an indifferent bystander, but help each other.
I have read many picture books about bullying to my daughter, and my daughter's favorite is this set of "Children's Anti-Bullying Picture Books" (a full set of 8 volumes).
This set of picture book content can make children dare to refuse, know how to face bullying, start from the source, have a clear understanding and face of bullying, and let children deeply recognize that "like themselves, but also respect different friends"!
The set of books is rich in content, explaining different types of "school bullying" from multiple angles, which is in line with the characteristics of children's reading and helps children learn to understand and distinguish bullying incidents. And the style of the pictures is very popular with children.
For example, in "I Don't Like to Be Ridiculed: What To Do When You Encounter Hidden Bullying?" In this book, George is always ridiculed by his classmates as a "short and fat little potato", so much so that he always does not want to go to the classroom. What should I do if this happens?
When a child encounters hidden bullying, he must not hide things silently in his heart! Silence and tolerance will not solve the problem, but will also make the perpetrator worse. When encountering such a situation, you can try to tell the adults about the encounter and ask them for help. More importantly, to become strong from the heart, you can't deny yourself because of this.
Children are bullied, in fact, many parents do not know how to solve, in the end it is the adults who take the place of the children to solve the problem. But children do not have the ability to master how to fight bullying, and when they encounter bullying, they will only emerge endlessly.
Therefore, we must teach children to understand this knowledge in advance and learn to resolve the crisis on their own.
My daughter loves this set of picture books, she has read them no less than ten times. When I usually socialize, I am also very relieved to know that she will take care of it herself.
If you want to give your child early prevention, you may wish to read the knowledge in this set of "Anti-Bullying Children's Picture Books" with your children to improve your anti-bullying ability and reduce bullying. If you like it, click on the link below.
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We all want our children to know how to protect themselves, have a strong heart, and can not be bullied in social life.
The child's first bullying should be handled well
What should we do when our child is bullied for the first time? In addition to calming the child's emotions, it is also necessary to let the child know that there is nothing terrible about this and can be solved. If the child is bullied, we must encourage the child to fight back moderately, refuse the unreasonable demands of others, and blindly tolerate it will only make the other party inch.
When my daughter was in the first grade, she was once bullied by her at the same table, and she was a naughty kind of boy at the same table, and when the class was over, the boy threw my daughter's eraser and pushed her. My daughter got angry, slapped her face at the same table, beat the classmate to tears, and then the daughter went directly to the teacher's office to explain the situation. Then the teacher informed the parents of both sides, saying that my daughter had beaten her classmates and invited the other parents to the school.
When I got to school, I calmly asked about the situation. After knowing the general situation, I calmly asked her at the same table why you were bullying your classmates. The daughter's tablemates know that they are not afraid to speak up, and the parents of the children have nothing to say, and criticize the children vigorously.
Since then, my table mates have never dared to bully my daughter again. After that, her daughter was bullied again, and she also knew how to learn how to protect herself.
In fact, many times, if the child is bullied by others, does not know how to deal with it, and always endures silently, he will slowly become cowardly and have no self-confidence. Therefore, we must deal with the situation of the child being bullied for the first time and teach the child how to protect himself.
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When a child is bullied by others, we must give the child strength and security, so that he has the courage to face the problems encountered. Allowing children to learn how to adapt to the environment and society is an experience that will only grow after the child actually experiences it himself.