At that time, Zhu Yuchen's mother took a fancy to Huo Siyan and tried her best to make her his daughter-in-law, Huo Siyan shook her head in fright, and said publicly: "His mother was deceived by my appearance, I was very fierce to my boyfriend, she wanted to marry Zhu Yuchen a new wife, I am not suitable." ”
Now, more than ten years later, Huo Siyan has long been married to Du Jiang, and has given birth to a lovely son, Zhu Yuchen is 43 years old, still not married, not that he does not want to, but he does not dare.
As the saying goes, when you marry a wife, you should marry a virtuous person, and you should not marry a ma bao man, but on the contrary, Zhu Yuchen is the ma bao man who is "afraid of everyone seeing people".
But his mother was particularly happy to think that Ma Bao Man was very cute.
She loved her son with her whole life and was eager to take care of everything for him, but this love imprisoned Zhu Yuchen and made him unable to enter the marriage.
In her wishful thinking, the mother pushed her son into the abyss of affection.
Today, Zhu Yuchen is 43 years old, but no one dares to marry him, such a mother-in-law is suffocating, Zhu Yuchen is her puppet, how can the daughter-in-law resist the power?
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Zhu Yuchen was born in Shanghai, he also has an older sister named Zhu Beibei, both sisters and brothers are the heart of their parents, eating, drinking, living and traveling are treated equally.
But the mother's love for Zhu Yuchen is even stronger, in her view, the son is her heaven, her earth, and the meaning of her life.
Therefore, Zhu Yuchen's childhood was happy and depressed.
Her mother hoped that Zhu Yuchen would develop morally, intellectually, physically and physically, so she decided to let him learn piano.
Playing the piano is boring and boring, Zhu Yuchen is very resistant, he eats raw beans, go to the rain, only hope to get sick and escape those hours of study.
His mother saw through his little trick, and after Zhu Yuchen was well, she gave him additional training.
If Zhu Yuchen did not obey again, his mother would pinch his arm, a piece of blue and a piece of purple, until Zhu Yuchen obediently practiced the piano.
Under this pressure, Zhu Yuchen thought of death, he reached out and touched the electric door, but soon, he shrank his hand back, Zhu Yuchen was afraid that he was dead, and his mother could not stand it.
Unable to resist or die, the only thing Zhu Yuchen could think of was to flee.
In 1997, 18-year-old Zhu Yuchen applied for the Central Academy of Drama, but unfortunately, he failed the list.
But because of the misfortune and blessing, Zhu Yuchen met Tang Wei, who also fell off the list.
The two adolescents were quickly attracted to each other, and they agreed to re-read together and retake the exam the next year.
The only day to warm up with Tang was Zhu Yuchen's rare relaxed time.
A year later, Zhu Yuchen was admitted to the Central Academy of Drama as he wished, and became a classmate with Deng Chao, and Tang Wei regretted once again falling off the list.
Fortunately, with the feeling of drinking water, Tang Wei decided to go north to accompany Zhu Yuchen to school, and he could also feel the atmosphere of the art academy.
In addition to studying, Tang Wei had to go to work part-time to pay the rent of 300 yuan per month.
She had thought that Zhu Yuchen would come to the cottage to warm up with herself when she was not in class, but as a result, on the day of the opening of the school, Zhu Yuchen's mother traveled thousands of miles to send her son, and Tang Wei could only silently watch Zhu Yuchen's back as he entered the school door, envious and blessed.
Unexpectedly, a scene that embarrassed Zhu Yuchen appeared.
Entering the dormitory, Zhu Yuchen was going to make a futon, and his mother stopped him: "Son, you wait a while, mother is coming." ”
After laying out the futon, she immediately asked Zhu Yuchen's roommate, "Do you sleep and snore?" Don't mess with my son. ”
Zhu Yuchen was shy and eager to find a seam to drill into, and as a result, the seam had not yet been found, and her mother once again said something amazing.
She opened the window and saw the wall full of climbing tigers, and in her mind, she immediately thought that there would be small bugs in the creepers, and the bugs would crawl into the dormitory and bite his precious son.
Zhu Mu's brain hole opened widely: "Can I use boiling water to burn this climbing tiger to death?" ”
The housemates froze, Zhu Yuchen directly "died", quickly pulled his mother out of the dormitory, for a long time, the housemates did not pay attention to Zhu Yuchen, they felt that this boy was not good.
After a long period of contact, they found that Zhu Yuchen was a poor person, and they actually began to sympathize with him, and the relationship also became better.
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Escaping from his mother's clutches, Zhu Yuchen grew long hair and called this a literary fan, in fact, it was his belated rebellion.
Zhu Yuchen was very spirited, learning to perform with his hands, and soon became the leader of the class, but his relationship with Tang Wei became weaker and weaker.
In 2000, Tang Wei finally entered the Chinese opera after four battles for the college entrance examination, and as a result, she became Zhu Yuchen's ex-girlfriend.
The two who once worked together for a common goal became the most familiar strangers.
I don't know if after many years, Zhu Yuchen will regret whether this relationship will be regretted, after all, this is the only love that her mother did not intervene in.
After graduation, Zhu Yuchen ran the dragon suit and hung around for several years, and never broke into the hall of fame until he met Zhao Baogang.
In 2006, Zhao Baogang was preparing to shoot "Struggle", which needed a group of energetic young people, and Zhu Yuchen became the best candidate for "Huazi".
Zhu Yuchen ate the dividends of the blockbuster drama, and his life began to hang.
Zhao Baogang liked Zhu Yuchen very much, and two years later, he starred in "Who Decides My Youth".
Mother Zhu watched her son develop better and better, and could not sit still, just when she retired, she pondered, simply went north, and took care of her son wholeheartedly.
So, she carried a large iron pot straight to Beijing, and in the package, she also brought 80 hairy crabs.
Mother Zhu's positioning for herself is clear and clear, as her son's "Filipino maid", no matter where her son goes, she must give him a warm kitchen.
It can be said that the place where Zhu Yuchen is there is home.
Zhu Mu got up at three or four o'clock every day and prepared various "nutritional products" for Zhu Yuchen, such as soup water to quench thirst, pear water to moisturize the lungs, mung bean soup to relieve the heat, juice to supplement VC, and so on.
Zhu Yuchen's assistant had to carry these bottles on his body, set the alarm clock on his mobile phone, and let Zhu Yuchen drink them on time every day.
At the end of the day, Zhu Yuchen could not drink a few sips of pure water, I don't know if it was overnutrition, in those years, Zhu Yuchen became greasy, and his face was not good.
Zhu Yuchen thought about resisting, and was afraid of hurting his mother's heart, so he could only bear it silently, and the Internet became a place for him to vent his emotions.
Here, he expressed himself unscrupulously, but suddenly one day, he found that his mother copied the content he posted on the social platform word for word, and collapsed instantly.
He no longer sent content, the vent of emotion was blocked, and Zhu Yuchen was extremely depressed.
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Fortunately, her mother did not go to the shooting scene, which became the only place for Zhu Yuchen to breathe.
In 2009, at the shooting scene of "Love Must Be Perfect to You", Zhu Yuchen shared his sugar water with Huo Siyan to drink.
Huo Siyan felt that it was very delicious, and Zhu Mu boiled double parts of sugar water every day, so that Huo Siyan could also supplement nutrition.
Compared with Zhu Yuchen's resistance to sugar water, Mother Zhu liked Huo Siyan's well-behavedness, so she shouted that she wanted Huo Siyan to be her daughter-in-law.
But how clever Huo Siyan was, she lied that she already had a boyfriend, and dispelled The idea of Zhu Mu matching them. Later, in a show, Huo Siyan publicly said: "His mother was deceived by my appearance, I am quite fierce with my boyfriend, his mother wants to marry Zhu Yuchen a new wife, I am not suitable." ”
In the following years, Zhu Yuchen has not looked for a girlfriend, not that he does not want to find it, it is that he is looking for it, and his mother is not satisfied. Zhu Yuchen simply did not look for himself, and his mother felt that whoever was suitable, he would go after whom.
Just then, Jiang Yan appeared.
Jiang Yan is 7 years younger than Zhu Yuchen, graduated from the Beijing Film Academy, has white skin, beautiful legs, and most importantly, she makes a good dish.
Once, Zhu Yuchen brought home a cucumber made by Jiang Yan, and her mother was surprised to see it, this knife work was perfect.
In her mind, she immediately made up a picture of Jiang Yan washing her hands and making soup for Zhu Yuchen, and encouraged Zhu Yuchen to chase after Jiang Yan.
Zhu Yuchen chased after Jiang Yan smoothly, and he thought that he could start the world of the two of them with Hemeimei from then on.
Unexpectedly, my mother picked up Jiang Yan again.
She felt that Jiang Yan wore less, bare shoulders, bare waist, bare thighs, and then pestered Zhu Yuchen to break up with her.
Jiang Yan is the age of youth and beauty, or an actor, she will naturally show her beauty, moreover, showing her body is not a crime.
But Zhu Mu stubbornly believes that wearing less = frivolous.
Zhu Yuchen really likes Jiang Yan, he is not willing to leave her, but he cannot convince his mother to accept Jiang Yan.
Gradually, Jiang Yan saw Zhu Yuchen's hesitation and also understood Zhu Yuchen's attitude, so she asked Zhu Yuchen: "When you look for me, it won't be because I can cook and take care of people, right?" Do you think I'm right for you, or am I right to be your wife? ”
Zhu Yuchen was dumbfounded by the question, and the two immediately broke up.
The failure of this relationship hit Zhu Yuchen very hard, he closed himself off, no longer in love, and people became fatter and fatter.
Perhaps, for a new beginning, or perhaps to let her mother change her concept, in 2018, 39-year-old Zhu Yuchen took her mother to the variety show "My Family's That Boy".
As a result, Zhu Mu's remarks made the program ratings reach a new height, but Zhu Yuchen was also completely labeled as a "ma bao man".
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Let's take a look at what Mother Zhu said:
As for what role a woman plays in marriage, she says:
A woman should be a good wife and mother
Regarding the image of Zhu Yuchen as a "ma bao man", she said:
Mama Po's appearance is very cute
Regarding her position in Zhu Yuchen's life, she said:
I treat my son with my whole life, I have no ego at all, I can give, I can top two Filipino maids
Regarding Zhu Yuchen's feelings, she said:
I know every relationship he has, and I will interfere
Zhu Yuchen once told her: "When I feel that I can take responsibility, mother, you can rest assured, I will start a family." ”
This sentence reveals Zhu Yuchen's fear of marriage, but her mother believes that Zhu Yuchen does not dare to get married, because he himself is too childish.
If the son's marriage has not landed, she is not in a hurry and can understand, after all, even if a man is fifty or sixty years old, he can marry a girl in his twenties, and it is not too late to have children.
However, the daughter is also in her forties, still has not entered the marriage, she grew up watching her mother's dedication to her brother, but also afraid of marriage: "I can't bear this responsibility." ”
A pair of children, when facing marriage, talked about the word "responsibility", but Mother Zhu was not moved, she still stubbornly believed that women should pay for the family, should sacrifice the ego, and achieve the next generation.
But is it really good for her children to do this?
Facing the camera, Zhu Yuchen cried: "Why is there no one willing to stay by my side?" ”
The answer is self-evident, it was his mother who blocked all his marriages.
In Mother Zhu's plan, After Zhu Yuchen got married, she was going to live with her.
She even believes that being able to marry into the Zhu family is a blessing.
But this blessing, no one wants, let alone no one dares to ask for it.
Probably controlled enough by her mother's paranoia, not long after the show, Zhu Yuchen was exposed to her love affair with jewelry designer Du Ruo.
Du Ruo is at the forefront of fashion, dressing in a style a bit like Jiang Yan, exposing her legs and her belly button, and tattoos.
I don't know, how Zhu Mu felt after seeing it.
However, after 4 years of love, the two still have not entered the marriage, perhaps, Du Ruo is waiting for the day when Zhu Yuchen gets rid of his mother's control, after all, no one wants to be under the same roof with such a mother-in-law.
There is no doubt that Mother Zhu loves Zhu Yuchen, and it is precisely because of her love that she can treat herself as a Filipino maid and work hard to live.
But this was not the maternal love that Zhu Yuchen wanted.
When the child is a child, the mother can block all the wind and rain for the child, but the child will grow up one day, they are independent individuals, to face the various aspects of society.
A mother loves her child, and a child is filial to her parents, which is already the best relationship.
Cuteness should be moderate, but also keep a distance.
If Mother Zhu does not want her son and daughter to end up alone, she must quickly let go and let them find happiness.
As for Zhu Mu, she should also focus on her own life, going to square dancing, going to travel, practicing calligraphy, painting, arranging flowers, and so on.
Children and grandchildren have their own children and grandchildren, do not interfere in the name of love, interfere in the child's life.
Love from the heart, keep a proper distance, and so on.