"Dear Child" was a hit, poking at the pain points of countless people. Everyone finds their own shadow in it.
Sometimes, we often wonder who has read the book of marriage.
A thousand readers have a thousand Hamlets.
Every couple has loved each other with all their hearts and formed a couple with a beautiful vision of the cultivation of love.
However, after returning to the life of chai rice oil and salt, the contradictions between the two became prominent day by day, and communication became weak and pale.
Busy with work, busy with family, the adult world is always full of stress and confusion.
We are running for three meals a day, struggling for a small family, slowly losing ourselves, forgetting why we got married in the first place, is it to complain and quarrel?
Many couples quarrel, the elderly will advise: bedside couples at the end of the bed, it is good to have children, hurry up and have a relaxation of the relationship between husband and wife.
Really, I've always wondered how this theory came to be.
There must be a reason for the contradiction between the two sides, even if it is a trivial matter, it is the unbearable lightness of life, it is the collision of the values and life concepts of both husband and wife, what does it have to do with children?
Of course, after the birth of the child, the husband and wife have a common blood connection, have a common care and love object, and communicate with each other frequently. People are so strange that they can disagree or talk to each other. Feelings are all together.
However, it cannot be denied that some people, after having children, the contradictions are more intense. Especially for novice mothers, who experienced the indescribable hardships of pregnancy in October, gave birth and everyone rejoiced, but only novice mothers were depressed alone.
Postpartum mother due to changes in body hormones, emotions become sentimental, if not to get the understanding of the partner and the support of the family, it is easy to fall into the emotional vicious circle, the mood is not good ➡, love to lose temper and love to be picky ➡ is not understood ➡ emotions increased, the final result is that some people are strong to survive, some people see the roof.
The saddest thing is that the husband thinks that he is unreasonable and often says perfunctorily:
"You think too much!"
"Are you idle at home and flustered, thinking wildly all day long?"
The closest people are also the ones who hurt each other the most, because they are not defensive, because they have complete trust, because they are truly delivered.
There is no disappointment without expectation, and no emotion without disappointment.
The love and honey are consumed in the daily chores of life. Who is not yet a little princess, blindly paying, no feedback relationship, will only go farther and farther.
Xiao Lu and Fang Yinuo divorced.
Xiao Lu and Zhu Zhu's ambiguity was only the last straw that crushed the camel.
Without Zhu Zhu, their marriage may be maintained, repeating the marriage of most middle-aged people, a pool of stagnant water, and continuing for the sake of responsibility.
They may divorce, not perish in silence but explode in silence.
In fact, from this point of view, the appearance of Zhu Zhu promoted them to quickly cut each other and readjust the trajectory of their lives, which is not a good thing.
However, tomorrow and the accident do not know who came first, Hehe is sick, has leukemia, and needs a bone marrow transplant. The child's illness brought back the couple who had parted ways and linked the four families together.
After experiencing the failure of matching and the refusal of bone marrow to donate, things fell into a desperate situation, at this time the doctor's advice was like a dawn in the darkness, illuminating the hope of Xiao Lu and Fang Yinuo, but the proposal to let them have another child also plunged them into a long silence.
In the face of such a situation, no matter what choice is made, it is wrong, and it is right to make up your mind to take that step.
Ordinary people like us, in the face of such a test question, really prefer to choose to see God ourselves rather than make a choice.
When I saw this, I remembered the movie that Xu Fan played in the Wenchuan earthquake.
Xu Fan plays a mother raising two children in it, and when disaster strikes, the two children are pressed in the same place, which makes it difficult to rescue.
Two can only choose one, or choose one to save life, or neither is chosen, and the child has no way to live.
This choice is really too difficult for a mom. Whoever she chose, her heart went with it.
Back to "Dear Child", it is the same, saving the child's life or following the emotional choices of the heart, so that everyone is anxious.
Seeing this, no matter what the ending is, I find it difficult to be complete. Maybe that's the truth of life.
Romain Rolland said that true bravery is to recognize the truth of life and still love life.
May each of us still be able to live towards the sun after experiencing the tribulations of life.
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