Many people know Huang Ali, starting from her official divorce.
Not long ago, she finally quit the gorgeous "waste wood husband" - Justin Kashiwata, and embarked on the glorious road of independent heroine.
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Blessings were sent in unison, and public opinion was surprisingly consistent.
Huang Ali, Asian American, the world's most daring talk show actress.
In 2016, on a Netflix talk show, she stood up 7 months pregnant and wore her iconic glasses to perform her debut film , Little Cobra.
"Let's finish talking quickly, because I'm going to pee in almost ten minutes."
This special opening sentence not only ignites the field, but also tells the physiological normality of the embarrassment of pregnant women.
In the hour after that, she drove wildly, talking about sex, widowhood, sexism, racism...
When Yang Kasa was scolded as a because of a sentence of men are ordinary but confident, and Siwen could only use the brother who slept on my top bunk to allude to the relationship between husband and wife, her scale in our opinion, probably had to be silenced the whole time.
But it is such a person, the discussion triggered by her divorce is not lost to any top female star, so that countless people across the Pacific Ocean to praise her.
Because her passage full of and is incomparably real, and unspeakable, the pain of contemporary women.
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Sherry Sandberg, Facebook's chief operating officer, wrote a book called "One Step Forward," in which she encouraged all women to boldly "sit at the table" and pursue the life they want with boldness and enthusiasm.
Huang Ali said, "Shut up! Bitch!
Because her lifelong dream is to lie flat, get married, and rely on men to raise:
"I think feminism is the worst thing for women, our original job, is not a job, how good our life is!" 」
So the smartest thing we can do is continue to play dumb in the next century, stay at home all day snacking, and watch the Ellen Show because we're too stupid to take any responsibility. As a result, some women have to show off that we can do anything, we can do anything!"
Huang Ali's declaration of waste firewood is no joke.
When she was a student, Huang Ali was still relatively hardworking, and studied at UCLA (University of California, Los Angeles) in college, specializing in racial discrimination.
But after graduation, she did not embark on the path of a scholar, but became obsessed with stand-up comedy.
New York is the most developed place for stand-up comedy in the United States and even in the world, so she came to New York with a lonely courage.
In order to survive in New York, she rotates every night, from one venue to another, and at most she can speak 9 times a night, often at two or three o'clock in the morning.
But even so, she is still extremely poor, renting a house shared by 6 people, tired and wanting to treat herself, she is only willing to spend $3.50 to buy half a chicken, and when she wants to eat dessert, she can only take cough candy instead.
At that time, Huang Ali was ugly and poor, and she had no hope for the future, she just wanted to lie flat.
One day in 2010, she went to a party and caught a glimpse of the guy who looked like Keanu Reeves, Justin Kashiwata.
Not only was he handsome, but he also came from a well-off family, graduated from Harvard Business School, and more importantly, he was single.
Huang Ali made up her mind on the spot: "We must soak in this man."
In the following days, she did everything she could to catch Justin's curiosity, even kissing, and she deliberately arranged for the fifth date.
She is not reserved, but wants to convince the other party that her body is a "secret garden".
After all kinds of routines, Justin is conquered, but for Huang Ali, it is only the beginning, and during the five years of their love, she will get up on time every day, wash and cook for him, and serve him properly, which is a silly and shrewd calculation:
"I didn't make him food out of natural kindness, I did it to make him dependent on me, based on long-term financial investment considerations, because I didn't want to go to work anymore, he graduated from Harvard Business School, and I didn't want to work anymore." 」
She fantasizes every day about using marriage to save herself, as long as she marries a rich person, she seems to be able to live a superior life, yoga, afternoon tea, sisters show off their rich parties...
But Justin never said, so Huang Ali began the ultimate marriage promotion dafa, not only nagging herself, but also mobilizing all the resources around her, and soon after, Justin knelt down on one knee and gave her the ring of her dreams, and Huang Ali tearfully harvested the fruits of her long-standing cultivation.
However, near the wedding, the in-laws sent a prenuptial agreement to list the property clearly, which is simply that during the marriage, the marital property still belongs to the individual's name, and in the future divorce, they do not want to divide each other's property.
Huang Ali, who has calculated everything, missed the most crucial one: the reason why rich people are rich people is because their ability to manipulate money is different from ordinary people.
In this way, Huang Ali put on the wedding dress, but also lost her dream, on the night of the wedding, she helplessly changed into civilian clothes and tossed on the stage of the small theater...
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It can't be said that Huang Ali's bamboo basket is empty, at least she has one thing that has been very successful, that is, she has raised her husband into waste firewood, and she can no longer be separated from her.
Even during pregnancy, she still had to take care of all the housework and take care of her husband's food and living, and he was at ease, and the excuse was just busy work.
But in fact, Huang Ali is not idle, she does not dare to put down the talk show, because this marriage has always filled her with a sense of crisis.
Soon after the marriage, she found that this handsome and golden husband actually owed a loan of seventy thousand US dollars, although each managed his own money, but Huang Ali could not stand idly by.
So she still had to stay up late to write, running between small theaters every day to make money for him to pay off debts.
Love will always be pasted with thick filters, and marriage will tear it apart one by one, and the heavier the filter, the worse it falls.
Since she got married, Huang Ali wakes up every day like a war:
She needs to endure the torment of pregnancy reactions, while trembling and guarding the small life in her belly, while galloping in the workplace, afraid of falling behind;
After experiencing the pain of childbirth, I still have to endure the pain of nipple breakage to milk the child, and even suffer from postpartum depression;
At 8 o'clock in the morning, when she was busy and crazy, she made breakfast for her husband and took care of the children's food and drink, while her husband would squat on the toilet for more than half an hour at this time, every day.
He cleverly evaded the responsibility of child-rearing, but whenever he did something, he would be put on the altar.
As Huang Ali said, her husband only accompanied her to a maternity examination, and was praised as a good father, and he just sat there and played with the fun when his wife drew blood.
"Men do little things and become model dads, while women make the slightest mistake as garbage moms."
This kind of motherhood kidnapping of women is also an unspeakable pain for Chinese mothers.
In 2018, Huang Ali was pregnant with her second child, and once again walked onto the stage of the talk show with a big belly, holding back the and urine, standing for more than an hour, and she was extremely funny with exaggerated tone and controversial body movements.
And what is public opinion?
They discuss Huang Ali's handsome husband and say that she is really blessed;
Praising her husband for "being able to support his wife to tell such a large-scale paragraph", it is really personable;
When she talked about the pain of reproduction, he dismissively mocked her for "complaining about the difficulty of childbearing while having a second child";
Even when she was talking about sex publicly, she strongly accused her of "carrying a child to do this kind of thing, what does your husband think!" ；
But in fact, her husband is very happy, living in the mansion she bought with a PS5, wearing a Rolex watch she gave, watching wool with the high-speed Internet she bought...
He didn't care about Huang Ali's scale on the stage, the bigger the scale, the faster the money came, he could use the money to live a luxurious life.
And all this is Huang Ali's dream, but the person who shields the whole family from the wind and rain has become herself.
Once she had tried her best to marry him, now she asked herself again and again why she had to force the guy to put herself in "prison" like an idiot in the first place.
After suddenly realizing, she finally saw clearly: "It's not that I trap him, but that he traps me."
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Speaking of talk shows with a big belly, Huang Ali was probably the first, because the actress "disappeared once pregnant".
The workplace has never been a place for pregnant women to fight, they will be seen as trouble, drag, empty pay, even if they still work hard, do not do a lot of work, but colleagues will still feel that you are messing around, in the talk show industry is the same, or even more demanding.
Before becoming popular, Huang Ali's ticket price for a performance was only $10, and she had to shout the Internet to sell it, and now her performance tickets have been speculated to $1,000 by scalpers.
In addition to the envy of her peers, she disdainfully said that her success was only because of her status advantage, no one was willing to recognize her strength, and no one expressed affirmation and sympathy for her spirit of still working with a pregnant belly.
In 2016, she became a hit on Netflix talk shows, but before that, she had been deeply involved in the field for more than a decade.
In that special scene, her paragraphs came by hand, seemingly very casual, but in fact, each paragraph was carefully polished, and when performing offline, she would pay attention to the audience's reaction to each stem, and a paragraph would have to get at least twenty applause from the audience before it would be put into the regular performance.
Her passages are full of and farts, but behind the vulgarity is her deep perception of her own predicament.
Others dare not say, she dares; the neglected details of life, she strives to dig; the unspoken rules behind the rules, she spreads out in a funny way on the surface.
She cherished every opportunity to perform, even if she was not paid, she would work hard, and after she became famous, she participated in the "Allen Show", there was no shelf for big coffee, and it was her only request to let the other party prepare water, floss and tissues.
She succeeded, from a poor ghost who was always worried that she would not survive, to a rich woman with one of the best in the field of talk shows.
But so what? When she becomes more and more conspicuous, people around her will always tell her that women must not climb too high, otherwise your husband will feel threatened.
So she trembled when she came to the door with a lot of good opportunities.
In 2019, Huang Ali wrote and directed a movie "Two Big Guesses", invited the former male god Keanu Reeves to make a cameo, and the two staged a shocking kiss.
She worked 12 hours a day for the film, so busy that she forgot to go to the bathroom, and even so, taking care of the children was still her own business, and her husband was very inactive about all this.
Rubbing Huang Ali's popularity, he even circled female fans, enjoying their hookups and ambiguities.
Huang Ali, who used to be, said she couldn't afford to get a divorce, and even if she was tired and crazy, she hoped that "we can be together forever."
But now, she finally understands: "The biggest lie that women brainwash themselves into saying is to convince themselves that the meaning of "having everything" is limited to two things: family and career."
This has long been a social discipline of women, and women themselves are one of the accomplices of this force, unless you dare to put your middle finger on it and say "Go f**k yourself."
On April 13, Huang Ali finally officially announced her divorce, dumping the man who had no eggs, and the insulting prenuptial agreement she signed perfectly protected her property.
When the talk show shines into reality, this ending is the strongest reversal in life.