When it comes to behaving decently and measuredly, this topic is no stranger to everyone. When words such as "elegant self-confidence" and "aristocratic temperament" are rendered on the Internet, what is true elegance is a question that many people may not have thought hard about.
The simple decoration of the external image such as dressing is by no means the beginning of elegance, and the temporary conversation may also be just a disguise, the real elegance and confidence, generous and decent, but also depends on the connotation, even if the clothing is simple and clean, the appearance is flat, but the conversation is polite and courteous, and it is also really decent.
In this era, many people look at the problem and think about things only on the surface, rarely think about the essence, in terms of whether a person's behavior is appropriate, we can see it from the way of dressing, treating people and things, ushering in and sending, and handling the attitude of large and small events in life.
Usually a person dresses like a silent language, revealing a lot of information about the owner. Including personal preferences, temperament, personality, consumption concept and other values.
Generally speaking, women should not wear more than three pieces of jewelry, and there should be a distinction between primary and secondary. For example, jewelry with personality, generally one piece can be, and the color of jewelry should not be too much. If the necklace is sparkling, then earrings and rings should be understated, etc.
When attending a banquet or wedding, you must remember to be dignified and decent, not too exposed, and not too outstanding, so as not to steal the limelight of the host.
In social life, we are often faced with rejecting others. Not knowing how to reject the art of others often brings considerable trouble to yourself.
In the book "Decent", it is mentioned that you must be decisive when rejecting others. Hesitant refusal is easy to misunderstand and embarrass yourself. But if the rejection is too decisive, it will give the impression of hard or unreasonable life. Therefore, it is very important to grasp the scale.
Rejecting others will not only make you feel sorry, but also make the other person feel bad, in order to eliminate this feeling, we should try to make the atmosphere light and positive, if the words are euphemistic and friendly, it is easier to make the other party accept.
Therefore, when we resolutely refuse, on the one hand, we must give a reason for the refusal, such as having arranged other things that day, and then apologize to others for inviting, and at the same time we can say to each other that we will accept the invitation next time we have the opportunity, so that the other party can receive information that we care about this relationship and friendship.
However, it is actually very inappropriate to use "too busy" as an excuse, everyone can say that they are busy, but once busy becomes a reason, the message received by the other party will definitely be "in your heart this matter is not important" message.
If you are really busy at work and need to work overtime, we can also give some other plans to make up for it, for example, there are two hours on Sunday night, or you can't attend a party, but your wife can participate instead of yourself.
If a friend is at a party and you really can't show up, there is a clever way to convey your concern and celebration, such as sending a little drink or other gifts, which will definitely make the friends present happy.
As for being rejected, you must also learn to put yourself in the shoes of others, so that the other party does not have a psychological burden, and if appropriate, you can reply to the other party with such a sentence: "Thank you for giving a reply so quickly, I am sorry to let you help, I hope you don't care." ”
On the other hand, when rejecting others, try to replace "dislike" with "not good" or "inappropriate". This means that the negative attitude is reduced, and it also means the weakening of personal preferences, turning subjective will into objective factors, without personal likes and dislikes, and it is easier for the other party to accept.
For example, when someone asks us if we want to have a cup of coffee, if we say, I'm sorry, I don't like to drink coffee, it is equivalent to rejecting the kindness of others. Just think, if the host family does not happen to prepare only coffee and boiled water, the other party will feel more embarrassed, after all, not everyone can easily remember the dietary preferences of others. Moreover, this answer is only a subjective preference, and the rejection is relatively blunt.
But if we reply " I'm sorry , I can 't drink coffee physically , I can have black tea or warm boiled water " , then neither of us will be embarrassed , and the host has more options to make other suitable arrangements.
Let's talk about apologizing. There are not many people in life who can take the initiative to apologize, most people often ignore the problem directly after causing trouble to others, do not apologize, have no sense of guilt, and will not take the initiative to propose solutions and corresponding commitments, and even feel that others are looking for trouble for themselves.
They often make the spender of money get a "big package of money to buy gas" when buying bad things. Therefore, if we can meet friends who are willing to apologize and help us share the trouble, we must maintain this friendship.
Some shrewd people are not really shrewd, after all, if you want the business to continue for a long time, word of mouth is very important, others have suffered a loss, will they be on the second time?
Moreover, online shopping is very popular now, many merchants are constantly improving in terms of pre-sales and after-sales, looking for acquaintances to buy things, encountering shrewd businessmen who can only think of themselves as unlucky, and online shopping encounters strangers who have not met often more reliable, more sincere and friendly than those they know. Many online stores can fully stand in the customer's perspective and try to help them reduce trouble, rather than creating trouble.
And those who do not apologize or take the initiative to propose solutions and corresponding commitments after causing trouble to people, of course, are very undesirable, or even do not care about the other party's emotions, are obviously unreliable people.
An honest and reliable, well-behaved person, when encountering trouble, will definitely take the initiative to apologize, neither make excuses, nor shirk responsibility, truly upright and generous people, when they learn that their behavior brings trouble to the other party, the first thing is to put themselves in the other's shoes to understand each other's mood, after all, there is trouble in the sale or need to apply for after-sales,
Proper behavior is fundamentally to communicate with people with a friendly attitude, not only to be able to think about problems from their own point of view, but also to consider problems from the perspective of others, so that they are comfortable and do not embarrass others.
The details of people getting along with each other are often determined by these inconspicuous small things, and the essence of decency is actually the embodiment of the truth of doing things in the details, so a person who behaves decently is also a trustworthy person with moral character.