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In any relationship, the attitude of two people to the relationship is mutual.
Men want to get the woman's sincerity, women want to get the man's favor, but no one wants to be the one who pays more.
Because the more you give, the higher the sunk cost will be, and the person who never pays in the relationship will leave decisively when he wants to leave.
When men and women interact, he will make all kinds of demands on you, and even when it comes to making friends, there will be many restrictions.
Women must be clear that what a man wants to love in his feelings is not an obedient woman, not a woman who does not have the ability to think independently.
Sometimes, when a man makes several demands on you, the more you refuse, the more he will love you.
1. Ask you to resign and get married
When a man is in love, he also wants to be with a woman, he hopes that the woman does not have contact with any other man, and he hopes that the woman is the only one in the world.
When men love women so much, they ask women to resign and get married.
Men will even say to you: "Only earn four or five thousand yuan a month, every morning to squeeze the bus, late to squeeze the subway, it is really too hard, I will raise you, we get married early, you don't have to go to work." ”
Don't doubt the sincerity of the man who said this to you, and when he said it to you, he really wanted to do it for you.
Men will change in their relationships, and when you really become a woman without a job as he expects, become a woman with a palm of your hand, no matter how much he loves you, in a chicken feather married life, he will one day dislike you.
But he forgot that it was he who broke your wings and made it impossible for you to fly.
When a woman rejects a man's request to resign and marry, the man who truly loves you will cherish you and understand you even more; the man who doesn't love you at all will only leave you.
However, some men leave, which is really a good thing.
2. Ask that you no longer contact your parents
Some men always feel that after a woman marries you, she is the person in your family.
Even the mother-in-law also feels that when the daughter-in-law enters the door, she is a member of the man's family and has nothing to do with the woman's family.
In fact, this is the wrong idea. No matter who a woman marries, she and her parents have the closest blood relationship in the world, which no one and nothing can stop.
No one feels that after a woman gets married, she should abandon her parents, be filial to her in-laws, and serve her own man well.
If a man asks you to break off contact with your parents after marriage, and even says that in the future, for the New Year's Festival, you can only go to your mother-in-law's house, not to your mother's house, this is an unreasonable request that women should refuse.
No matter how much you love a man, you should never turn your back on your parents and abandon your own parents for a man, and in this world, the person who loves you the most will always be your parents, not the man in the marriage.
Please remember that if a man makes such excessive demands on you in the first place, you should not feel that you are doing something wrong, but because the man's point of view is wrong.
What you have to do is to leave this man as soon as possible and not waste time and energy on such a man with three wrong views.
Please always remember that a man who truly loves you will only love Ya and Wu because of you, only because he loves you, is filial to your parents, and is good to your parents, not because he wants you to leave your parents.
Because that kind of man doesn't love you at all, he just wants to control you.
3. Reject your growth and progress
Many women are very enterprising, because they know that in this life, people only rely on themselves, not men, let alone marriage.
When women pursue progress every day, when women pursue careers, the man who loves you the most will support you unconditionally behind your back.
Because he knows that the best lover is to achieve the best of each other, not to drag each other's legs and consume each other.
When women are more progressive, the more demanding they are at work, it will also affect the progress of men around them, and the best state in their feelings is that two people progress together, improve together, and meet a better life together.
When a woman is trying to improve, when a woman stays up late for work and plans, if the man around you is always hitting you, always sarcastically, always mocking you, it shows that he really does not love you.
He wants you to become an ordinary person like him, the same, does not like your progress, he does not like your promotion, he hopes that you have no ambition, no pursuit of life, live with him in peace, no idea about life, no expectations for men, just live in mediocrity.
He wants you to live forever, he gives you the vision, has not seen the wider sky, has not seen this world, a really good life, he hopes that the world you understand, is the world he built for you, you will stay by his side for a lifetime, dead heart.
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If a man wants you to be a woman without dreams;
If a man wishes you a mediocre and miserable life in this life;
If a man wants you to have no other choice in this life, please be sure to stay away from this type of man.
In your life, you should decide for yourself, and what you want to live into is also up to you.
A man who truly loves you and will not make unreasonable demands on you, when a man makes these three demands on you, please be sure to keep your head clear and do not promise:
When a man asks you to quit your job and get married, please refuse, because work is your lifelong confidence and courage.
When a man asks you to stop contacting your parents, please refuse, because parents are the people in this world who love you unconditionally.
When men don't want you to improve, please be sure to refuse, because the life you want to live, you have to rely on yourself to achieve.
Man these three requirements, when you refuse, he will love you more, not only love your youthful body, but also love your soul, love your inner, love your mind, love your mind.
A woman who remains independent can slowly move forward in this life and live as she wants.
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