It is said that everyone will meet 8263563 people in their lifetime, will know 3619 people, will be close to 275 people, and most of them will just pass by us. But people who have never known each other or who have been close will eventually be scattered in the sea of people.
It can be seen that we live in a realistic society, whether it is the various people we meet on the road or the people who get along with each other day and night, they may become the objects of our dislike, making us feel disgusted and rejected.
Most people show obvious looks and expressions when confronted with people they hate, and the result is often tearing their faces, breaking out unnecessary quarrels, and finally spending time and energy to alleviate the situation.
There are also some people who will try their best to ensure that everyone is not guilty, live their lives in a calm and harmonious manner, even if they hate someone in their hearts, they will not show this emotion and tendency.
After all, everyone is in an ever-changing social environment, tearing their faces with a person today, and maybe having to share an office with him tomorrow, which will put them in an awkward situation.
People like this are labeled "good old people" on their faces, but they are suppressing themselves in their hearts. In the long run, they often feel that they are living in a nest and at a loss, and let their lives and moods enter a dead end.
Still others, when people they hate, cover their ears and pretend to be confused when people they hate appear. For example, if you meet face to face, but pretend that you don't see it, when the other party is air, turn your head and leave. Although I don't want to admit it, this attitude has actually told the other party that you are ignoring him, and it will also cause some bad results.
In fact, hating a person, there is no need to do this, with the following method is better.
To hate a man, it is better to indulge him
For nasty people, indulgence and obedience are a better way, as long as the other party does not have a real impact on your interests, there is no need to argue with him.
Since a person will make you feel particularly disgusted, it shows that there must be some loopholes in his life, you don't like him, and naturally other people will hate him.
Such people tend to look up to their own abilities, disdain the achievements of others, treat people too harshly, and bring their own sharp edges.
In the face of the more annoying people, the more you must be calm, so that you can avoid self-loss because of your calm heart and light clouds, but also make the other party feel good about yourself, thinking that you have no flaws, impeccable, too late to self-reflection, too late to restrain the horse from the cliff.
In the end, reality will teach him the harshest lesson, and what he does will naturally usher in the maximum regurgitation, at which point we will truly win.
Keep your distance and find a way to alienate him
As the saying goes, "Words don't speculate more than half a sentence." ”
Hating a person, there is no need to bother with him, keep a distance from each other, stagger the time spent together, and avoid too much intersection with him, so as to make yourself feel comfortable.
When a girl first entered the school gate and joined the student union, she was summoned by a student union cadre and did a lot of dirty work. Some students are not accustomed to it, and occasionally speak up for her, but others cannot really empathize with her after all, and cannot solve anything for her.
Later, a fellow villager gave her an idea to find someone to change her position, so she found the school leader through acquaintances, transferred from the literary and art department of the student union to the affairs department, and was no longer shackled by that person, and her mood was indeed much better.
Hate a person, you should think of a way in time, choose to stay away as soon as possible, stop loss in time, and avoid unnecessary consumption.
The idea of inaction in Lao Zhuang's philosophy has long told us that when the other party is exposed and easily dominates and influences us, we must avoid its sharp edge, change places, and preserve our strength.
For those who have stepped on you and hurt you, we will inevitably feel disgusted, but don't take him too seriously, let alone repeatedly entangled with him, do your own thing, live your own life, you can do it.
Gain yourself and allow yourself to grow
As the saying goes, "When you run fast enough, you can't hear the gossip." ”
Many times, a person is always too focused on the people he hates, but will be disturbed by those who hate, so that he has not been able to continue to improve, and has been stuck on a narrow track.
The reason why these people are like this is often because they don't have a big pattern and a big atmosphere, and they don't understand that when they stand tall enough, many people will no longer care.
When you stand on the top of the mountain yourself and look back at the people you hate, you will find that they are only a very small point at the foot of the mountain, like ants, and it is not worth your great efforts to dislike and hate.
Don't interfere with your own pace of progress because of such people, but try to run forward with a more positive attitude, until you throw those who hate far away, then it will definitely be "another village of willows and flowers".
I love this quote: "You have to work hard quietly and then amaze everyone." ”
When you climb to a high place after quiet efforts, your vision and pattern are no longer what they used to be, and at this time, in the face of those who hated at the beginning, you may not care and laugh.
In this materialistic world, there are all kinds of people, for these people, whether you like or dislike, it is not worth beaking, because human beings, as social animals, always need to integrate into various groups and environments, and in these groups and environments, there will always be some collisions and contradictions, and there will always be people who are sharp and aggressive.
Under such conditions, if you have a lot of gentle and kind people around you, then you are very lucky, please cherish the time with them, do not live up to them.
On the other hand, if you are surrounded by some disgusting people, like small flies in a spider's web, which annoys you, you should not be too angry, you can use the above methods to deal with.
Instead of getting angry with these nasty people and generating excessive internal friction, spend more time and energy to climb up, and you will find that the scenery at the top of the mountain is so pleasant, everything is clear, windy and smooth.
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