If housewife is a high-risk profession, would you agree?
Hello, dear parents, I am Matt, a family education instructor, tutoring families with more than 800+, I believe that every parent can become a good parent, as long as they are willing to change.
The Fangshan District Court in Beijing once ruled on a divorce case, which was not complicated in itself, but the case sparked a wide discussion in society.
This is a very ordinary divorce case, full-time wife Wang and her husband divorced, in addition to the normal division of property, because the woman was at home full-time during the marriage, bearing a large number of family expenses, child support, and support for the elderly, she asked the man to give compensation.
After investigation and evidence collection, the court finally awarded 50,000 yuan as compensation.
50,000 is really too little, ah, let's calculate the account, now hire a nanny in Beijing, at least 5, 6,000 a month, this is only at home for 4 to 5 hours, do housework, wash clothes only. This 50,000 is not as good as the nanny's annual salary.
Isn't it insulting that a stay-at-home mom is not as good as a nanny. Five years of marriage was sent off with 50,000.
Therefore, housewife is not a high-risk occupation.
Now more and more women leave the workplace to return to the family, become full-time mothers, there are also many men back home to become full-time fathers, here to all full-time mothers and fathers three points of advice, do not make their marriage into a loss-making deal.
First, you can have no workplace, but you can't do without a career.
Leaving the workplace and returning to the family, the mind is focused on the lover and the child, and the home becomes the only one. Such a life year after year, day after day, a person without financial resources, it is easy to have a psychological gap, but also will make the other party have a condescending feeling.
It is recommended that stay-at-home moms and dads, although you leave the workplace, does not mean that you can not do anything other than do housework, cook, and take care of children.
Those who say they don't have time are just making excuses for themselves.
You have to find yourself a career, a part-time job, a side hustle, and do one thing you can do. With income, a lot of things change.
Second, having a husband and children, but also having yourself.
A woman should not lose herself after having a husband and children, such a woman must be very angry in the family.
If you put your children and husband first, then you can only aggrieved yourself. Such a life is very painful, there is no happiness to speak of.
What is called to be yourself, dignity, independence is the most basic.
Those who are often angry have no dignity to speak of, and if they want to be respected by others, they must learn to be independent.
If you are attached to each other, then talk about independence.
Independence comes from thought and action, and we must dare to take the first step.
Third, now and in the future, there is no future without a plan.
Women should think about their future, pay wholeheartedly, and may not necessarily have a corresponding return.
To plan for your future, at least have this mental awareness.
Silly women are always counting on others, and in their hearts, it seems that as long as they have a husband, there is hope for the future.
Don't think like this anymore, the future life depends on yourself, and how to go this way, you have to think about it yourself.
The world is like this, you meet good people for a lifetime, when you meet bad people, then you suffer for a lifetime.
So, stay sober, a stay-at-home mom or stay-at-home dad, don't be preoccupied with the family, try to learn something, do something, learn to plan for yourself.
Men and women are independent of each other and interdependent, so that such a family is the most stable.
If you also have similar family education problems, you can find me for counseling, this issue of the content is here, thank you for the attention and praise of parents, we will see you in the next issue.