Life is a practice of the self.
Everyone has their own way of life, and you can't measure the lives of others with your ruler.
What's more, we can't manage so much, and it is enough to live our own lives.
In the second half of life, a person's best way of life is: do not gossip, do not care about idle things, and do not be idle people.
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Not to gossip, it is upbringing
There is a saying in the "Aphorisms and Walls": "Meditation is often thought of oneself, and idle talk is not about others." ”
To a small extent, gossip is nothing more than a few gossip after tea and dinner; to the larger extent, gossip is a low-quality performance of wanton speculation and evaluation of others.
No matter how big or small, every gossip you say, your image will be greatly reduced in the hearts of others.
Slowly, you will find that there are fewer people willing to talk to you and fewer people who are willing to listen to you.
Buddhists often say "oral karma," and to say hurtful gossip in their mouths is to create karma for themselves.
Ruan Lingyu, the first generation of Chinese actresses, put three bottles of sleeping pills in the porridge and took medicine to commit suicide.
At that time, she was only 25 years old, and she was full of flowers and had unlimited prospects.
The trigger was because a tabloid commented on her private life and maliciously speculated.
In your unbridled gossip, the truth has long since changed.
Later, public opinion mutinied, and Ruan Lingyu was overwhelmed and decided to leave this world.
Talking about right and wrong gossip, you can still kill people without seeing blood, but the mouth karma has created too much, and sooner or later the retribution will come to you.
As the saying goes: "The depth of the water is silent, the person is steady, the heart is good, and the action is long." ”
The most basic cultivation and kindness of a person is to keep his mouth shut and not to gossip.
Because you never know what others have experienced, you are not qualified to play right and wrong behind your back and judge your head.
To be a human being, you cannot go with the flow, but you must learn to be a wise person who does not listen to the sound of chewing his tongue and does not say anything about others.
Having good thoughts, being cautious in words and deeds, and not gossiping is the wisdom of dealing with the world and the practice of our whole life.
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Regardless of idleness, it is cultivation
In the "Awakening to the Everlasting Word", it is said: "Do not do things for yourself and take more care of them, and do not speculate and do not force words." ”
In this world, there are only three things: their own affairs, other people's affairs, and God's affairs.
We can't control God's affairs, we must manage our own affairs well, and other people's affairs must not be provoked.
A person's greatest stupidity is to casually meddle in other people's idle affairs, thinking that they are warm-hearted, but in fact, they will bring trouble to others, and they are also finding discomfort for themselves.
I once read a joke, but the truth is deep.
A child was eating ice cream, when an adult suddenly came up to him and said to him, "Little friend, eating ice cream is not good for your health." ”
Unexpectedly, after the child listened, he asked the adult an unrelated question: "My grandmother lived for more than 100 years, do you know why?" ”
The adult teased, "Is it because I don't eat ice cream?" ”
The child said, "No, because my grandmother never bothered." ”
Other people's affairs are really not our turn to worry, so don't always think about interfering with others with your own requirements.
There is a cloud in the poem: "Closed door to the front month of the court, pay the plum blossoms to open their own." ”
Other people's lives, whether good or bad, don't worry about it, just be indifferent.
Otherwise, provoking other people's idle things will only make the other party miserable, and also waste their time and energy.
Controlling your own hands, not provoking other people's idle things, making people comfortable, and being happy yourself is a real win-win situation.
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Not to be idle, is to maintain
There is an old Chinese saying: "Idle people are worried, lazy people are sick, and busy people are happy." ”
It is a blessing to be busy, but idle people will be discouraged, and perhaps it will become a disaster.
Being an idle person, with nothing to do, it is easy to think wildly, slack and lazy, and it will be sentimental and sickly.
Learn to find something to do for yourself, the heart will be full and interesting, and the body can be full of vitality.
The old man Qi Baishi is 90 years old, still working hard, and insists on making 5 paintings a day.
But once, on his birthday, he was busy entertaining guests from morning to night, and he didn't have enough energy at night, so he lay down and went to sleep.
The next day, when he got up and didn't eat, he would bring up his pen and draw, and no one would stop when he persuaded him.
He told his family: "I didn't paint yesterday, so I want to paint a few more today to make up for yesterday's 'idleness'." ”
With qi lao's reputation, he does not have to make a name; qi lao's age will not seek profit.
He just felt that the daily activities, painting, writing and writing, but less thinking, more childlike, the whole person can be comfortable a lot.
Not being an idle person is the way for the old man Qi Baishi to encourage himself, and it is also the best maintenance for the body and mind.
For example, in "Persuasion to the People", it is said: "I do not see idle people with long energy, but I see that people are hardworking." ”
People, when they are busy, forget their troubles, forget their age, and forget their time.
People who can't stay idle, have a full life, have a happy mood, have no time to get old, and their bodies will live younger and younger.
Walking in the world, you can occasionally idle to adjust yourself, but you can't be an idle person who has nothing to do and waste yourself.
Busy, can cure all troubles, but also the best health in the world.
May you and I spend the rest of our lives without gossip, regardless of idleness, without idleness, and with confidence and determination to go to the future and rush to a better life.