A lot of times, we don't seem to be good at rejecting or parting.
Some people like us, even if we obviously don't like each other, we will not be able to open our mouths at all, there is no way to directly say that we don't like us, we will only choose cold treatment, in a more perfunctory way, hoping that the other party can retreat from the difficulty.
When we are with a person and later want to separate, we will not know how to say it at all, and will only avoid it in various ways.
We always think that no longer take the initiative, the other party does not respond when the initiative, silently estranged, will make the other party understand our thoughts, can let the other party choose to let go, which will not be so hurtful.
Speaking of, not directly mentioning breaking up with the other party seems to be for the sake of the other party, in fact, this is really not necessarily necessary.
That will only seem very unclear, and it will only make the other party not understand at all.
A relationship, whether it's together or a final separation, is always the best.
If you don't say it directly, the other party will not understand.
A friend next to her, for a long time, she obviously felt that her boyfriend's attitude had become very strange.
No longer take the initiative, even if she takes the initiative, sends messages to the other party, and asks the other party to meet, the other party is only a variety of pushbacks, especially perfunctory, always saying that she is very busy, a look of obvious hiding from her.
Although her boyfriend is obviously alienating her, she does not think so, and she still feels that she has done something wrong, so the other party will be like this, and she also feels that the other party has encountered something, and she is very worried.
In this regard, she not only did not shrink back because of the other party's coldness, but just became more attentive and prepared, a look that wanted to share for the other party, save the other party's heart, and let the other party reconcile with herself.
We always think that we don't say break up, use our own indifference to express their intentions, the other party will understand our meaning, will be more interesting, in real life, the other party really will not.
Even if you have doubts in your heart, you will only choose to believe us and think about things in a good direction.
Everyone is an independent individual, what others think, others don't tell us, we will never be so clear, what we think, if we don't say, the other person really will not understand.
Breaking up this kind of thing, with its various hints, all kinds of twists and turns, but also hope that the other party can understand, directly tell each other, will be the most useful.
Say it, it will be more worry-free.
Think about it, when we want to break up, it means that we don't want to have any contact with each other anymore, we don't want to waste any time and energy on each other, and we only hope that the other party can stay away from us.
However, although we have this meaning, when we don't tell each other, the other person really won't be so enlightened.
In the eyes of the other party, they will only feel that each other is still lovers, each other is still a couple, each other still has a future, and they should always be together to maintain this relationship and make the relationship last.
With this in mind, when we are not quite right, the other party will really desperately rush to us, and keep spending their minds on us, so that even if we are reluctant, we still need to deal with each other.
As a result, the other party will always delay ourselves, and we will always be disturbed by the other party.
It's not a good thing for the other person, or for ourselves.
On the contrary, if we are willing to tell each other that we want to break up and decide not to continue, even if the other party is reluctant, slowly we will still choose to accept and choose to let go.
After that, the other party does not have to waste his feelings on us, and we do not have to worry about the other party all the time, and we can live our own lives in the way we want.
Tell each other, more really end.
If you have a crush on someone, if you haven't spoken out and figured out whether the other person likes you, then in the years to come, even if several years have passed, we may still not be able to let go.
There will always be an unfinished plot, and it will always feel that each other is not finished.
The same is true for breaking up with a person, we don't want to be separated from each other, just vaguely, we haven't said a word of separation, and the people we love will actually be in the same mood as us.
If we never say break up to the other party, then whether we disappear directly or directly deal with it coldly, the other party will always have thoughts, and have luck, always feel that there is something missing.
The mood of always thinking about it, always not being sure, will really be particularly tormenting, which makes people very uncomfortable.
Instead of always embarrassing each other, so that we will not be at peace in the days to come, we always feel that there is still a debt, when we are separated, we will be more calm, just be blunt, in fact, it will be better.
Just thank the other party for their efforts, and say to the other party that it can only go here, when we can do this, the other party will feel that we are very frank, and then more able to accept the reality of the end, we can no longer feel so guilty, can easily move forward.
In the years to come, each other can really no longer be tied down, and they can be okay with each other.
If you want to break up, it is best to say it directly and tell each other directly face to face.
We always think that it would be better not to say it and disappear directly, but in fact, it is more irresponsible and more hurtful.
When two people break up, the most uncomfortable thing is that they can never continue with each other, but even the breakup is just a dodge.
The matter of feelings, whether it is like or not, whether it is a breakup or not, clear and clear, generous, that is actually better.
No one can do without anyone, we don't have to think of each other as fragile, feel that the other party can't bear it, and don't have to treat their avoidance as affectionate, even breaking up only makes each other uneasy.
Say it clearly, directly say break up, the other party will understand better, more able to die.
At the same time, we will also appear to be quite courageous and responsible.
Text/Tan Meng
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