Many people in the recently popular "Dear Child" say that this drama is because the light in the play is very dim, the streets and roads are wet every day; the weather is gloomy; there is no sunlight; children tear their hearts and lungs and cry constantly; the whole drama gives people a great sense of depression, making people feel inexplicably anxious, and even have the idea of marriage and fear of life.
But I think this drama is very real, no filters, no exaggeration, all the actors acting very online, there is no absolute villain, but the human nature is also expressed to the fullest.
I was also chasing this drama, and seeing that the bullet screen was commenting like this, I was already afraid of marriage; the picture was too depressing; it was too suffocating...
But I also see different words, too real, I seem to see myself at that time, this drama really worked hard...
Indeed, I saw a lot of small details in this drama, and it is really real, Ren Suxi's acting skills are exploding, and the sense of substitution is super strong! At the beginning of the shot, there is no dialogue, Fang Yinuo picked up the makeup remover to wipe his cheekbones, and then revealed the pregnancy spots on his face due to hormonal changes in the body, and the sides of the pregnant belly were torn apart to form a terrible pregnancy pattern because the child was older, and she looked at herself in a bit of a daze in the mirror, showing that she was a little disgusted and helpless to cry after seeing these changes.
Want to eat something spicy because of pregnancy and have to avoid the mouth, even sleep is unstable, all kinds of back pain, feet are still edema, these all portray the real state of pregnant women.
Then to the pain of giving birth to a child, especially the moment when she was pushed out of the operating room after giving birth to a child without relatives to greet her, Fang Yinuo was hit at that moment, and even because of the incontinence in bed after giving birth, Xiao Lu helped her deal with it, but because of the disgust of repeatedly washing her hands because of the smell, she remembered it in her heart.
Fang Yinuo as a novice mother, because of the inexperience of raising children, and want to give the best to the child, the personality should be strong, and all kinds of exquisite, plus the children at night are also noisy, a night also has to be fed several times, due to the husband's lack of strength, did not sleep at all.
Everything that Fang Yinuo has experienced, the novice mother feels the same, the child is small, can only rely on himself to slowly perceive the needs of the child, crying is because he is hungry, or pulled, or where uncomfortable, so he will be busy, even collapsed, the child cries, the mother follows the crying.
In reality, most of the fathers are the same as the fathers in the play, unable to understand the physical and mental changes of the mother, thinking that with the child is not tired, she can also make up for sleep during the day, and she can also sleep when she starts to sleep.
Xiao Lu thinks that he works hard, goes out early and returns late, is tired and tired, wants to save more money, so that life can live better, in fact, his father is already escaping psychologically, afraid of quarrels at home, crying of children, afraid of a little want to escape.
And Fang Yinuo was disappointed when he was most needed, he was the husband who could not wake up, or worked overtime until dawn, she took care of the child herself for a night, the child had a fever to go to the hospital, his phone could not be called, the heroine thought that compared to money, she needed to have a reliable husband around her.
Fang Yinuo is a teacher, in the face of the arrival of the newborn, she still did her homework, also invited the sister-in-law, at first the sister-in-law took good care of her so that she felt warm, and then because of a midnight feeding after the sister-in-law fell asleep, she took care of the child until dawn and slowly lost her good feelings, and because of her mother's words, she was afraid that some bad-hearted sister-in-law wanted to rest herself and feed sleeping pills to the child.
Fang Yinuo on all kinds of nervousness and suspicion, listening to the sound on the door of the nanny's room, taking the milk bottle washed by the sister-in-law and smelling it fiercely, and then confirming that when the sister-in-law fed the child, she was not lightly angry, and one night nagged and let Xiao Lu go to say that xiao lu went to talk about the sister-in-law, Xiao Lu felt that he was worried, she herself directly let the sister-in-law sleep with her the next day, saying that it was convenient to take care of the child at night, just like this, she did not discuss with her husband and directly dumped him in the guest room.
Later, because of the child's illness, she was caught off guard, and the sister-in-law thought that the child would fade by eating more Dora jaundice, and as a result, the child was more and more seriously asked to be hospitalized to take blue light, but Fang Yinuo was nervous to the point of six gods and no master, because he could not see the child, and he was anxious to find a doctor to ask for a separate treatment, on the grounds that the child was crying so much that the medical care could not take care of Ben. After receiving the hospital's refusal, she cried helplessly on the bench.
Later, after arriving home, Fang Yinuo was still unforgiving because of this matter, and Xiao Lu's words of breast milk jaundice made her backlog of negative emotions in her heart erupt. When Xiao Lu comforted her again that the doctor said that the neonatal jaundice problem was not big, she slapped the table and shouted: "What is not a big problem, what is a big problem?" ”
Because the sister-in-law did not say goodbye, the sister-in-law who asked for the moon could not pick up at once, and Xiao Lu found his mother to help and then increased the contradiction.
The big grinning mother-in-law brought the old clothes that Xiao Lu Xiaoxu had treasured for a long time to wear for her granddaughter, and the mother-in-law thought that the children who wore hundreds of clothes were healthy and healthy. Fang Yinuo thought it was dirty, and girls could not wear boys' clothes.
The mother-in-law let her drink pig's foot soup, thinking that it is good to milk, the mother is fat and strong, and Fang Yinuo thinks that too greasy will block the milk and be easy to get fat.
The mother-in-law loves to smoke and loves to play mahjong, Fang Yinuo hates smoking will affect the development of children, and playing mahjong will teach by example.
Because the children's clothes were not washed separately, the mother-in-law believed that the clothes of the family were washed together before, and the children were healthy and healthy when they grew up. Fang Yinuo believes that adults have more bacteria in clothing and children have low immunity.
The mother-in-law holds her granddaughter and likes to shake it, thinking that the child knows that the adults are safe, and Fang Yinuo thinks that the child is too small to shake the child will have brain damage.
Fang Yinuo's requirements are many, and even what time does the child feed? What time is pulled? What time to sleep is all required by the mother-in-law to record the time in a small book, and there is no mistake. The concept of parenting in different eras has worsened the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
In the end, because Gao Caiping accidentally let the stroller slide from the ramp and roll over, the child rolled backwards, Fang Yinuo's mother scolded Gao Caiping, and threatened not to need her to serve, and for her daughter to retire 2 years early to take care of the confinement, Gao Caiping chose to swallow the anger for her granddaughter and son to stay and cook, clean up, and finally because Of Xiao Xu's insertion, the biggest contradiction between the two families was detonated.
In fact, a mother-in-law like Gao Caiping looks like a flaw, but belongs to a person with a straight heart and a good heart, when Xiao Lu wants to divorce Fang Yinuo, what she said is very touching: "I know that you are stubborn, you think of good things, ten cows can not pull back, Xiao Lu hurt your heart, the tree is afraid of picking the skin, pain!" I also understand, I did not educate Xiao Lu well, my level of education is not high, I also hurt you in my heart, it is very hard to take the child alone, the life is very sad, how is it also a mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, before I did not help, nor did I add less to your chaos, I can use my place later, you say directly. ”
"Dear Child" is very careful to polish the details, acting very grounded, Fang Yinuo is a responsible mother, always want to do everything personally, but ignore the feelings of the husband, Fang Yinuo is definitely having psychological problems after giving birth to a child, since having a child, she is completely abstinent, sensitive makes her distrust of the nanny, because of professional reasons she likes to preach, strong and selfish, excessive pursuit of perfection, coupled with her perverted parenting style, triggering a mother-in-law relationship, family wars, a chicken feather, Xiao Lu is not willing to return to this home, tired , so chose to avoid the problem. She had turned herself into a widowed marriage!
Film and television originate from life, but it is far from the cruelty of life. People's Daily criticized this drama by name for selling anxiety and dare not get married? Don't want to have children? This kind of life is suffocating? But I think that only people who have had children understand and are qualified to judge, the reality is like this, this kind of life is very real, life is not filtered.
The problems in the play are real, and the movie has a live-action version, which is actually more difficult than that. Tv dramas are not selling anxiety, but just bringing together the sufferings of ordinary people in a family. Anxiety can be empathetic and empathetic, and this is the harsh reality, in which the plot with the baby believes that every mother has empathy. This TV series really relived my anxiety and despair.
For what to say after watching this drama makes people afraid of marriage, fear of life, I want to say: I'm sorry, this is life, that is, chai rice oil and salt, mortgage, car loan, mother-in-law relationship. Don't glass heart, it is good to recognize the truth early, perhaps the original intention of this drama is just to give people a wake-up call, hope to see some problems in the marriage of others, let us think about marriage, what should be cherished, what should not be more real, there is no absolutely perfect person in this world, there is no absolute good and bad. At the same time, I also hope that the majority of male comrades will understand the emotional changes of women after giving birth, and give them full understanding and care.
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