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Good evening, I'm Lao Wang.
Today's sharing is the real chat ghost to develop a strategy.
stop!
Don't scratch it off, it's probably the most straightforward chat guide you can find.
There are no mysterious twists and turns, and some are just simple to heinous truths, which is common sense. And many of them are ignored by everyone, the reason is not difficult to understand, too many people want to take shortcuts, always believe that there will be some chat cheats.
I can tell you with certainty that those bells and whistles are useless, there is no need to engage in any chat topic arsenal, simple, convenient, and can be used is the last word.
The following things teach you as long as you understand, learn to learn to learn from each other, it is really not so difficult to get rid of the list, you can completely chase the goddess in your mind.
First of all, I want to uncover a truth that may subvert most people's imaginations, that is, many girls don't know what kind of person they want to be with until the relationship is established.
What does this mean? Three.
First, girls may have their own set of mate selection criteria, but even if you don't meet them, it doesn't matter, there is still a chance;
Second, most girls are passively waiting on the issue of mate selection, and seizing the opportunity to take the initiative early is conducive to attracting her attention;
Third, as long as your hardware reaches or approaches the minimum requirements for mate selection of the target object, the rest is to improve the experience in the process of getting along.
To sum up, when you meet a woman you like, under the premise of basically ensuring that the conditions of both parties are similar, you should pursue it as soon as possible, boldly and bravely, otherwise it will not be long before you will find that she and a man who looks inferior to you have come together.
You are not losing on personal conditions, but you are not acting hard enough and not decisive enough.
Of course, even if you plan to chase bravely, only a preliminary understanding is not enough, although your conditions are similar, but it has not attracted enough attention from her. For this reason, you have to find a way to get closer, to close the distance between the two people.
No need to show love with great fanfare, that is too blunt, it will scare her, and it will highlight your childishness and frivolity. Since you are not familiar with each other, it is good to start with friends, improve understanding through chat, and if you can talk, there are great opportunities.
Specifically, there are three things.
First, inquire more about information.
Note that it is not for you to "check your account". But since you are not too familiar, whether you have a common language, can talk about nothing, want to expand the topic is unable to find the direction, so at the beginning show your curiosity, try to collect information, is conducive to your grasp of the direction of the chat.
Many people will be nervous, afraid of accidentally turning the chat process into a question and answer, such as "checking the account". The chat guides you can find online will tell you:
But don't ask, you are stuck again, do not know what to talk about - can not always talk to her about today's good weather, I heard that tomorrow cooling, maybe it will rain, right?
In fact, there is no need to overcorrect, you are not familiar with each other, it is normal to chat and ask questions, as long as you can open the situation of the dialogue.
I'll tell you what kind of questions are annoying, like this.
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Don't laugh, there really is such a thing in real life. In the face of this kind of extreme, it is too soft not to pull black.
If you are the best, it is highly recommended to change the object and pursue it. If you don't change the object, you can change the planet, it's no big deal, and it's good to pay attention to the next life.
I'll tell you what the right way to chat and answer questions is.
"It's nice that you're on the new campus... I already know that I have reported your major, our South Campus is old and broken, dry rice is convenient and affordable, what do you like to eat? I have a chance to come and invite you to eat. ”
"Is the avatar your cat?" It's so good-looking, it's called Sichuan Jianzhou Cat, what's the name? The eyes are so handsome! ”
"Hello teacher! When I was a child, a scumbag like me was most afraid of being a teacher, but if there was a teacher like you at that time, then I had to fight to stay in the church every day. Our state-owned enterprises are boring to work, what about you? There should be a lot of fun vignettes in school, right? ”
Actively introduce yourself while expressing interest in each other, prompting her to share more information, basically as long as she is willing to answer the conversation, it means that you are not exclusive, you already have the basic conditions for further development.
Second, capture the signals that interest you.
As the chat warms up the relationship, your interaction becomes more, and gradually it will not always be up to you to take the initiative to open the topic, after all, if you are completely uninterested, she will filter you out in the previous step.
But there is also a special case that her initiative is polite. For example, seeing that you are so active in finding topics, occasionally she also takes the initiative once. This kind of situation mostly occurs when blind dates, and the family reminds you to be a little more proactive behind your back.
Therefore, distinguishing whether her initiative is sincere or forced to go through a process is conducive to your grasp of the trend of the relationship, and if you can identify those signs that can reflect your interest in her active behavior, it will be better able to promote the development of the relationship.
There are two common signals of interest.
1. Take the initiative to inquire about your affairs.
Inquiring about you is to know more about you and have a good feeling for you, so I want to know everything about you. When you share something you like, she will most likely show interest because she respects your likes and is likely to indicate that she has already liked what you like.
2. Take the initiative to share your own affairs.
Sharing the big and small things she has experienced in her life is because I want you to know more about her, but also because she needs to have someone to talk to. Some things do not want to say to the family, inconvenient and girlfriends to say, she chose you, behind the reflection may be trust and dependence. Just be patient and listen to her, sense her little emotions and respond to them.
Here to say more, many times the focus of two people chatting is not what you talk about, but what kind of emotions are conveyed, or spit venting, or seeking resonance, so that the real emotional outpouring is the embodiment of the interest signal.
Admittedly, no one wants to be treated like an emotional trash can, or as a spare tire, and only remembered when support is needed. If you want to pursue such people, I also advise you to stay away. But before you give up, be careful to judge if she really just wants more attention from you, which may be evidence of dependence on you and opening your heart to you.
Third, timely upgrade the relationship.
When you've been able to identify her signs of interest that she's feeling good about you and is willing to put in more attention, don't stay in the friend phase for too long — drag it on too long and she'll think you're not interested in her.
At this time, you can respond to her more actively, in addition to online chat, but also take the initiative to ask her to eat and watch movies, from the contact and interaction between each other to heat up the relationship to ambiguity, and then through a slight physical touch to test whether she is willing to accept a closer distance... Next, don't teach it, understand everything, upgrade the relationship in time, let her know that you are not willing to just be a friend.
Finally, I would like to say that in the process of chasing a girl, you must leave a good impression on the other party, so her emotional experience is very important when you get along.
Your conversation when chatting, the embodiment of your personal temperament, and whether the inner is interesting enough may become a plus for impressions, but the most critical one is one: know the measure.
Behind knowing the measure is respect, respect for her ideas and wishes, even if you like her, she has the right not to like you.
This has nothing to do with whether the personal conditions are excellent or not, you can't force your love into the past, that is not called the domineering president, that is the robber logic.
The best pursuit gesture is – I like you, but you're free.
Charisma is the most powerful weapon to attract the other person.
About the Author:
Lao Wang, I understand a little about feelings, the style is a bit poisonous, and the right thing is not right. Growth is always accompanied by pain, do not like chicken soup, can stand it.
Thanks for reading, paying attention to @WeGo love rescue, there are not many interesting souls, don't go away.
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