Hehe had a fever, Fang Yinuo called Xiao Lu, but no one answered how to fight, she was so angry that she was going to die, plus her mother fell again on the way to the hospital, and she transferred all her anger to Xiao Lu.
Xiao Lu naturally knew that he was wrong, so no matter how Fang Yinuo scolded him and complained about him after returning home, he patiently apologized to Fang Yinuo.
After getting Fang Yinuo's forgiveness, the two people who had not been intimate for a long time finally embraced each other. But when Xiao Lu wanted to be close to Fang Yinuo, Fang Yinuo immediately stopped him.
Xiao Lu was very disappointed, but also very incomprehensible, his daughter Hehe was already one year old, Fang Yinuo still wouldn't let him touch, where is this a normal couple's appearance? He complained: "Hehe is one year old, we gather so much every day, it is not easy for the two people to live, you still don't let me touch you, this is really not okay, what is wrong with you, can you tell me?" ”
Fang Yinuo was lying on the bed, biting his fingernails and saying that she didn't know, it was her problem.
It is indeed an exaggeration to be intimate with her husband after giving birth to a child for a year, but for women who do not want to live a conjugal life after giving birth, I think every woman who has a normal birth should have a deep understanding, right?
Having children is the most effective way to snuff out sexual desire
If men know what women go through in the process of having children, they should be able to understand well why women don't want to live as a couple for so long after the birth of a child.
When women are about to give birth, after regular contractions, they need to be admitted to the hospital for various examinations, and the most frightening to the mother, the internal examination can definitely be ranked first.
Obstetricians and gynecologists have to face so many patients every day, and this is just one of their routine jobs, so they don't have the energy to take care of the feelings of the mother, if they meet a slightly rude doctor, the mother can cry in pain every minute.
Moreover, the number of internal examinations is closely related to the length of the first stage of labor, that is, the longer the first stage of delivery of the mother, the more times they need internal examinations, and the pain of contractions and internal examinations will be much more than those who have a shorter labor journey.
In the second stage of labor, the severe pain will make all pregnant women unable to care about their own image, and there is no privacy to speak of.
Many pregnant women will have urinary and urinary incontinence in this process.
Many women are either laterally cut or torn after giving birth, and for at least two weeks after giving birth, they can only feel all kinds of pain and discomfort in their intimate areas.
This is why many women do not want to live as a couple after having children, and the harm to them by having children is very great, and it is simply impossible to enjoy married life happily without full recovery.
Hospitals will now remind women to prohibit sexual life for 42 days after giving birth, which is the time required for uterine repair, and when the uterus is not repaired, how can the mother have the spirit and interest to live a sexual life?
I remember that after I gave birth to Dabao, for a long time, I thought that living a married life would be a little scary, and I really didn't want to be touched by my husband at all, and it took about half a year to recover.
Therefore, when Fang Yinuo did not want Xiao Lu to touch her, I could understand. The reason why she didn't want to be touched by Xiao Lu for so long was closely related to her own cleanliness, the fatigue of bringing children, and her disappointment in Xiao Lu.
Although the child is already one year old, whether psychologically or physically, she is actually not ready to re-accept Xiao Lu.
Physical and mental exhaustion prevents women from enjoying sex
Normally, a woman needs 42 days to get her uterus repaired after giving birth. Under normal circumstances, after 42 days of giving birth to a child, after returning to the hospital to review the uterus repair, it is not possible to resume sexual life.
However, there are also many pregnant women who still have no way to be intimate with their husbands after 42 days, or even two or three months, which in addition to not recovering well, there are also children doing housework to make the body too tired, and the relationship with the husband is not good.
Women like Fang Yinuo, who have their own cleanliness habits and are too anxious about their children, almost all their attention is focused on their children after giving birth, and their husbands do not do well in many things, which directly leads to their psychological and physical need to recover longer than others.
Fang Yinuo was an extremely face-saving person, even when she had just given birth, she was reluctant to let Xiao Lu help her deal with excrement. It can be seen how much psychological pressure she endured when she gave birth to a child and was surrounded by doctors and nurses.
As a new mother's anxiety, she is worried about her children all the time, which leads to her not being able to rest well, let alone take good care of herself.
Although many of Fang Yinuo's behaviors are a bit exaggerated, it is true that many women have real reflections after giving birth, especially those mothers who have no one to help with children and do housework, and want them to restore their desire for sex in the short term.
When they face their husbands who want to be close to her, they will only feel afraid and tired.
Men please share more of the hard work of bringing children, and at the same time have more patience
For Xiao Lu's depression that he can't touch his wife a year after the birth of the child, everyone can understand it very well, and even many people think that it is normal for him to cheat, after all, the past two years of sexless life are not something that any man can endure.
And for Fang Yinuo's reluctance to let her husband touch her husband after giving birth to a child for a year, the bitterness behind her, I think only women, and women who have given birth to children, especially women who have had children in the way, can truly empathize.
Zhou Guoping wrote in the "Philosophy of Life": "A woman's spirit and body are intertwined, her carnal desires are completely dominated by emotions, and her spirit has a strong physical breath. ”
For women, the body and spirit must be consistent, when they feel happy in their hearts and feel their husband's love for themselves, they will naturally want to have a physical relationship with each other.
But if they don't feel their husband's love for them, women who have some ability are not willing to aggrieved their bodies to cater to a man who makes her feel that she does not love her.
And the reason why I am writing this article is also to hope that men can understand their wives a little more, when they are not willing to be close to you, do not just complain, please try to put yourself in their shoes and think about them.
In addition, also ask men to share some of the hard work of taking children and doing housework, women are particularly easy to get scars and forget the pain of people (here is the positive meaning), if the husband can take the initiative to help take care of the children after they give birth, take the initiative to take care of them, they will soon forget the pain brought to them by having children, and then think that you are the best husband in the world!
Therefore, please be sure to treat your wives well, take good care of them during the confinement period, say more words of thanks and comfort to them, their mood is happy, bad emotions will be much less, and the faster your body will recover, which is good for you all.
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Author: Yong-Sunshine, with simple words, the truth of emotion, I am willing to use words to accompany you to understand the various feelings of the world.