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Who can say no to someone with high emotional intelligence?
Even if he is full of routines and does not care at all, you will still involuntarily sink into his heart. Not to mention, his humor and gentleness come from the heart.
Think about it carefully, in all the bright, joyful, reassuring, and touching times in memory, is there a person with high emotional intelligence? Maybe it's the best friend, the benefactor on the road of life, the partner who knows each other, or it may be a stranger.
Maybe it's just a short sentence or a simple action, but it makes you feel from the bottom of your heart at that moment, "It's good to have him", "I really want to be with him often", "It's really happy to be with him." ”
Of course, they are also very popular. Even if it is not beautiful, it has its own aura and charm.
Today, I will give you an inventory of the recognized high emotional intelligence stars in the entertainment industry.
01 Social talent: Huang Bo
Huang Bo's high emotional intelligence is generally reflected in major occasions. He knows the unspoken rules of social interaction, knows when to say something and when not to say it, and rarely gets confused.
At a press conference, the host asked Xu Zheng: "Why did director Ning Hao ask you to play an alien?" ”
Xu Zheng blurted out: "A movie always has to have a box office guarantee, right?" ”
The implication is that I am the box office guarantee. Private ridicule, in fact, nothing. Especially comedians, a serious book is not good. However, the situation at that time did not allow it. As soon as these words came out, the audience was silent. After all, the success of a film is the result of the efforts of the entire team.
It would be a little arrogant to say that.
Huang Bo saw the situation and immediately took over the conversation: "This already exists, and then talk about something else." "Directing the fire to himself not only protects Xu Zheng, but also cleverly resolves the embarrassment."
Even if it is difficult to be harassed, it is not annoying.
A year ago, at the Spring Festival Gala, he performed on the same stage with Zhang Yixing and Chen Weiting, and was asked, "Are you on the same stage with two people who are good at singing and dancing?" ”
He smiled frankly: "No, with them, who dares to look at me?" ”
By self-blackening, you not only affirm others, but also do not embarrass yourself.
Invited to help Faye Wong's "City of Philharmonic City" program, he was asked: "Faye Wong has so many friends, why did you invite you?" ”
Faye Wong said quickly, "Because he has time." ”
In fact, he was busy. However, he did not refute it, but explained very solemnly: "Because Faye Wong is a person who pursues quality." ”
When he said this, he always reminded people of the word "gentleman". Speaking without leaking, it makes people feel like a spring breeze.
So much so that Lin Chiling openly said in an interview that if he was not married, he would be very eager to marry such a person.
As Zhao Chuan sang, I am ugly but I am gentle. Such gentleness makes people involuntarily want to get closer.
02 The most comforting person: Da Zhang Wei
Da Zhang Wei is known as a romantic poet.
In the impression of many people, he has always kept a non-mainstream hairstyle, dressed in flowers and greenery, and his mouth is always over, looking very exaggerated. However, anyone who has heard what he says or who has dealt with him has been warmed by him.
Some people say that he always says the warmest words in an immodest tone.
Ma Sichun came to the show after he became fat, and he couldn't help but cry as he spoke.
Da Zhang Wei said very gently, "It's okay, you cry." You're not happy with itself. Didn't you come to this show to heal yourself? You are really nice. ”
In that instant, even off-screen people can really feel that he really understands, not is talking about the scene.
He once said, "If there is any knot in the heart that cannot be undone, tie it into a bow." ”
On the show, Lisa cries and talks about being bullied because of her body.
He said: "When you draw a rose with a pencil, everyone knows what color the rose is. This color is your greatest pride. ”
Encourage him to stick with being himself.
Since Wu Xin's debut, it has been controversial.
He said, "Don't please the indifferent. Life is vast, don't always live in love and hate. Because there are many places in love in life, it is better to give up wisely than too much of that blind attachment. ”
It seems careless, but in fact, it is extremely sober. Because you understand, you are compassionate.
His emotional intelligence is not in the scene, but in the details, only words into the heart and lungs.
This true disposition is also reflected in his attitude towards feelings.
He has been married to his wife for more than 10 years and has always been as loving as ever. In the show, talking about marriage, he said: "Many people think that love is a cup, there is a hole, it can't be used. I always think that love is a piece of cloth, this side is broken to make up for it, that side is broken to make up for it, and it has become a painting after a long time. ”
How rustic and healing.
His emotional intelligence, without trace, is just heart to heart, full acceptance. His thoughtfulness is in the same vein as teacher Cai Kangyong. With him, you don't have to worry about being evaluated, and you have more confidence to be the most authentic version of yourself.
03 Pick-up master: Jia Ling
As a comedian, Jia Ling has a talent or sense of humor that transforms all embarrassment into comedy.
Once at a press conference, others did not arrive because of the schedule problem, and she was temporarily pushed to the stage to save the scene.
But no one asked.
She laughed at herself when she saw this: "Am I not already red like this?" Isn't there a little gossip to ask? ”
The field immediately warmed up. Sheng Sheng turned the press conference into a cross-talk session. Alone to the reporters in the conversation.
She often flirts with male stars on shows. Unlike Xiao S, who is always embarrassed to pick her toes, no one dislikes her, and she thinks it is cute. She knew very well that humor and frivolity were just a moment's notice.
When Yan Chengxu told her the classic line of "Meteor Garden", "I waited from day to night, it was very cold, do you know it", she said "I invite you to drink beer" to make the audience instantly break the work.
In a variety show, an audience member asked Yao Chen: "Why is your big mouth gone?" ”
This issue is somewhat sensitive, after all, few celebrities are willing to admit that they have plastic surgery. Yao Chen was confused, and Jia Ling naturally took over the conversation: "Did you specifically say to collect the accent?" Just like me, knowing that I am fat, I usually deliberately stand on my side. ”
It not only resolves the embarrassment, but also enlivens the field.
Once someone danced a lu han dance in front of Guan Xiaotong. For a moment, everyone looked at her to see how she responded. But for Guan Xiaotong, Lu Han has always been her avoidance. Since the official announcement, he has rarely talked about his feelings in public.
When Jia Ling saw this, she took Xiao Tong behind her and deliberately said, "When you say Lu Han, you mean Lu Han, see what I do?" ”
Everyone laughed.
Yang Di said to Shen Tao in the "Ace to Ace" program: "You are the most boring person on this stage, relatively speaking. ”
She jumped over and took Yang Di's hand and said solemnly, "Shen Tao is interesting." But people are trying to give us control, so it's not interesting. ”
The most interesting thing is that after saying that, he also ran away.
It is said that the good-looking skin bag is the same, and the interesting soul is one of the best. In the entertainment industry where beauty is supreme, she still broke a path. It relies on the ability to react on the spot, both humorous and sincere.
03 Marriage also requires high emotional intelligence
You see, if emotional intelligence has color, it must be colorful.
Different people have different styles, but gentlemen can be gentle, romantic and casual, can be funny and playful, and of course, can also be sweet and full of points.
For example, Cai Shaofen, every time Zhang Jin is mentioned, it is a fancy compliment.
Of course, Zhang Jin is very good, but many people are actually not used to praising others. Even if it is exaggerated, it is very subtle, and it will not be as enthusiastic as her.
If everyone becomes more exaggerating, the relationship between people will become closer. Between husband and wife, this is even more true. Being more of a praiser of each other, rather than a bad reviewer, will definitely have a lot less conflict and dissatisfaction, and more happiness and gratitude.
From social situations to intimate relationships, emotional intelligence is needed everywhere.
A person with high emotional intelligence, her relationships must not be much worse. However, people with high emotional intelligence outside are not necessarily high emotional intelligence at home. Therefore, many people complained about why he was five people and six people outside, and when he returned home, he became quite unreasonable.
The person is still the same person, the scene has changed, and his emotional intelligence has been intermittent, high and low.
What does this mean?
How he treats you is often determined by how he defines your relationship. Similarly, how you treat him is determined by how you define your relationship.
Because you know what you're doing might affect the other person, you're not likely to make the other person uncomfortable unless you do it intentionally. Because you know why your emotions are making waves, you will not lose control of your emotions as soon as you get up, unless you do it intentionally.
People with really high emotional intelligence tend to have a strong ability to control the field.
In short, there are no people with low emotional intelligence, only people who are not willing to operate relationships with high emotional intelligence.