Author: Lin Xiaoqi Long Fangyuan Editor: Jia Fangfang
Source: Journal of Marriage and Family
ID：hunyinyujiating99
If you ask who is the hottest person in the live broadcasting industry at present?
Many people will say without thinking, "Liu Qihong."
This man, who did not even win Jay Chou's popularity, but because of the recent period of fitness live broadcast, he rose by more than 1.5 million fans a week and became a hot Internet celebrity.
In fact, 99% of the netizens who pay attention to him, many of them are to see the hilarity.
After all, this man who has been warned five times over and over again is really funny.
Because of the exposed armpit hair, he was warned of "unsightly"; because his chest was too large, he was banned by the platform; in the end, the couple who were forced to be helpless could only wear down jackets and block a tight and solid one.
Not only that, the couple's movement has also become a source of joy for netizens.
Liu Ruihong shouted hard in front of him, full of vitality; his wife Wang Wanfei had a painful expression behind her and was forced to open for business.
Across the screen, You can hear Wang Wanfei's painful pleas: Let me go... Really can't jump...
Netizens have ridiculed one after another: "Others live broadcast fees, he live broadcasts to pay his wife." "It's so hard to be his wife!"
Even more netizens who did not think it was a big deal to see the hilarity complained to Liu Qihong: "Your wife is paddling again." But every time Liu Qihong looked spoiled and said, "It's okay, let her practice in a while."
Frightened, Wang Wanfei went straight to everyone and begged for forgiveness.
Many times, the couple will also answer questions from netizens.
Someone once asked what is the secret of the love preservation of the two people? Wang Wanfei looked at Liu Qihong with a shy face and said, "Of course it is love!"
This wave of dog food sprinkled makes people envious.
In fact, not everyone is willing to show their love in public, only those couples who have experienced suffering are more willing to express their love for each other.
I have heard such a sentence: "In a long-term relationship, it is all you and me, and there are often earburns." ”
The more long-lasting the relationship, the more you must learn to express true emotions, which is not only the attitude towards marriage, but also the care for each other.
01
The acquaintance of Liu Qihong and Wang Wanfei was at the scene of a program recording.
At that time, Liu Qihong, Wu Zongxian, Ni Zhiqiang and others formed the "Xiubi Toot" orchestra, which performed everywhere and had unlimited scenery.
At that time, Wang Wanfei had just won the title of "Miss Universe" and had just entered the entertainment industry.
Wang Wanfei's glance back made Liu Qihong stunned, and he felt for a moment that this woman must be his future wife.
He began to put down his popular artist figure and actively pursue this new female artist.
By chance, he learned that When Wang Wanfei was filming, because she had no experience, she often delayed the progress of the crew.
Therefore, he immediately pushed off his work and put all his energy into helping Wang Wanfei improve her acting skills.
Wang Wanfei listened to Liu Qihong's experience and gradually calmed down her mentality and found the direction of her efforts.
In order to express her gratitude, she and her agent specially invited Liu Qihong to dinner.
Liu Qihong waited for this opportunity. When the agent went out to pay the bill, he went straight to the point and made a promise to grow old with Wang Wanfei.
Wang Wanfei was surprised at the same time, more curious, she wanted to know whether this person really liked herself.
Soon, Wang Wanfei found that Liu Qihong was sincere and realistic, and had no second thoughts about himself.
In 2000, the two began a formal relationship.
That year, Liu Qihong was 28 years old, his career was red, he hosted, acted, and was a little famous.
At that time, he was preoccupied with his career, hoping that he could rely on his own efforts to make their future life better.
However, in 2001, Hibi toot announced his dissolution, during which he was filming a video of his car being driven in a car accident due to a skidding, and the entire front of the car was broken.
Although his body was not in serious trouble, he began to reflect on his life: Is life in the entertainment industry really suitable for him?
After thinking about it all night, he offered his resignation to the agency, quit the entertainment industry, and chose to study abroad.
After returning to China, Liu Qihong started a business with Wang Wanfei, but as a result, he failed to make investments and owed a lot of money.
Her girlfriend Wang Wanfei did not abandon him, even if he was penniless, she never left.
His girlfriend encouraged him to return to the show business to continue the frontier, while she stayed in Dalian to handle the clothing business and was the queen of the palace for him.
In the days of studying abroad, Liu Ruihong suffered from lovesickness, and he did not want to be separated from his girlfriend again.
But Wang Wanfei knows that "if the two loves are long-lasting, they are in the twilight of the dynasty", and the separation of the two people at this time is only for each other's future happiness.
Rest assured that the lover is far away, both to believe in the other party and to believe in yourself.
Sure enough, in 2006, Liu Finally ushered in the second inflection point in his life.
His first solo album "Rainbow Paradise", which he composed and composed, exploded, and his singing career improved.
Liu Lihong wanted to take this opportunity to propose to his girlfriend, but the record company told him that if he wanted to be an idol singer, he could not get married.
Faced with the choice of career and feelings, he finally gave up the career he had insisted on for many years and chose the person who accompanied him for a lifetime.
This also means that he personally pushed his painstakingly managed acting career to the precipice again.
Liu Saidhong: "This matter is the right thing. It was an account for Wanfei and her family, and we both wanted to get married very much. Then a right thing that seems to bring bad results will still stick to it. Maybe it doesn't look good for the time being, but it will get better in the future. ”
A man's responsibility is never in the usual sweet words and vows, but between interests and temptations, can he remember the promises he once made and put them into action.
The long-term relationship is never the infinite effort of one party, but the mutual understanding and understanding between each other.
It's not easy to fall in love, it's even harder to stay together. Living up to each other's feelings is the basis for the equal dialogue of the soul and the premise of a long-term marriage.
02
Some people say that marriage is the graveyard of love, but for Liu Qihong Wang Wanfei, the world after marriage, the two are more like glue.
Soon, however, the two encountered their first setback – the child.
During the preconception test, Wang Wanfei was found to have fibroids in the uterus, which, if removed, may lead to future infertility.
The two people were overwhelmed and finally had to follow the doctor's advice, not to operate for a while, and to try a natural pregnancy.
During the two years, they were full of hope again and again, and their hopes were disappointed again and again.
In the end, Liu Qihong wanted to give up, and even said to Wang Wanfei: "Let's just love each other well." ”
Fortunately, Wang Wanfei finally succeeded in getting pregnant.
At that moment, they realized for the first time that mothers and children are lifelong friendships.
The children are not easy to come by, the wife takes her life as a bet, and what Liu Qihong can do is to do her best to love them well.
No matter how busy he is, he will accompany his wife to the obstetric examination, not once; he will also keep every ultrasound photo intact, recording every moment of the child's slow growth.
In 2011, they had their first child, Liu Qihong named him "Yu En", which means the gift of the universe.
After the birth of the child, he read books and went to class, learning to hiccup and change diapers.
In order to let his wife sleep well, he was responsible for feeding, once every two hours, and then coaxing the child to sleep... This is true of the first child, and it is also true of the second and third children.
In fact, in many families, these jobs are basically done by mothers, as if taking children is naturally a matter for mothers, and has nothing to do with fathers.
Liu Lihong is well aware of the importance of father to the growth of children, so he has been working hard to be a father who belongs to the family.
Many people say that they are too busy at work and have no time to spend with their children. In this regard, Liu Qihong said: "As long as you want to do it, you can definitely do it." And, it doesn't have to be a lot of time, but it has to be quality. ”
Colleagues knew that as soon as he returned home, he should never call him unless it was a matter of great urgency. Because the moment he enters the house, he will put down his mobile phone and spend time with the baby.
In order to accompany the baby, he resolutely abandoned the gym and took the baby to work out at home.
To be fair, Liu Qihong knows that he spends far less time with his children than his wife, but because of his intentions, the children love him.
The children regard Liu Qihong as their own role model, in the eyes of the children, he is handsome and hardworking, hard working and caring for the family.
Her daughter Little Puff always looked at him with adoration, thinking that Dad was the best, and her favorite words were: "Daddy, I love you so much." ”
The writer Megmic said, "More than anyone else, the father is the one who can set the trajectory of a child's life."
Children are always father and mother, not mother alone.
A good father will not only accompany his children to grow up, but also illuminate their way forward in company.
As long as dad is willing to work hard, the children will definitely feel his love, so that they will be happy for a lifetime.
03
After giving birth to 3 children, Wang Wanfei went to the hospital to remove the uterine fibroids.
She gave birth 3 times and gained weight 3 times, and coupled with the recovery after surgery, her figure was severely out of shape.
Many people are deceitful and comforting to their lovers on the surface, but in fact, they are duplicitous. Liu Ruihong, on the other hand, said: "Men repeatedly use love words to perfunctory love, which is a killing of your love."
Liu Qihong said that "his wife practices by herself", exercises together, eats healthy meals together, and Liu Qihong acts as his wife's personal trainer, encouraging her and helping her.
Liu Lihong is not only "strict" with his wife, but also does not leave behind the fitness education of his children.
Little Puff practices the ring, Yuen practices push-ups, brothers and sisters practice shooting, and exercises every day, never stopping.
In this way, there was a fitness performance of little puffs in "Where Daddy Goes", which surprised everyone.
For Liu Qihong's guidance of children, Wang Wanfei has always been trusting, and even on issues of principle and parenting problems, she will take the initiative to ask Liu Qihong for help.
Once, she took the children to play with her. On the way, her son suddenly said something very ugly, and she felt the need to criticize him well.
But at the moment when she was about to speak, she decided that Liu Ruihong would call.
Liu Ruihong said: "Don't discipline him in front of so many people, give him face." You call him out alone and tell him he's not going to play today because he's going to bear the consequences for his mistakes. Otherwise, he will feel that there is nothing wrong with it, that he will not be punished in any way, and that he will do it next time. ”
Wang Wanfei educated her children according to Liu Qihong's guidance, and since that time, her son has never made the same mistake again.
In the view of Liu Qihong and Wang Wanfei, if you want to be a good parent, you must first be a good partner.
What the child sees now is his future life, and the relationship between parents will directly affect their perception of intimacy.
In a family, there are not only warmth, but also many conflicts.
Once, Wang Wanfei and Liu Qihong quarreled, the tone was not very good, and the result was that the little puff said that her mother was bad and did not sleep with her mother.
Liu Qihong realized that her daughter was in an emotion, and quickly took her daughter in her arms and told her: "Baby, it doesn't matter if you quarrel." Mom and Dad don't think the same way, Mom is not in a good mood, maybe she speaks more harshly than usual, but Mom doesn't think Dad is bad. Even if we quarrel, our love for each other will not change. After making it clear, Mom and Dad will love each other more. ”
In the end, little puff happily agreed to continue sleeping with her mother, and also took the initiative to ask to comfort her mother.
Liu Qihong said: "The foundation of feelings is not built in sightseeing and sightseeing, but is accumulated in the solution of setbacks and problems one after another."
Therefore, parents should not deliberately avoid conflict in front of their children, only in this way can children see what true love is like.
Love is communication and understanding, but it is more about running-in and inclusion.
No one can be perfect, parents are not necessarily a hundred wives or husbands, but as long as they are trying to go in a good direction, so that children can see, they will understand: originally, love needs to learn.
04
Someone once asked Liu Qihong: "It's not easy to raise a child now, you raise 3, won't you feel a lot of pressure?"
He replied, "Since God has given me 3 children, He must have known how to withstand me and will not let me fall overburdened." And the love for the child from the heart far exceeds the so-called pressure. ”
For his family, when Liu Qihong said it, he was full of happiness.
This year is the 15th anniversary of his marriage to his wife, and these 15 years have been the long-distance love run he expects.
In fact, behind love, it is often the distance between two people's hearts, choosing love to live and choose the heart for a long time.
He once shared his marriage secret: "Even if you are a mom and dad, you have to date often." 」
Even with children, Wang Wanfei is still the first in Liu Qihong's heart, and Liu Qihong often creates surprises for his wife on Valentine's Day and wedding anniversaries.
It is not easy to run a marriage, and only by loving each other can we go on.
For more than 20 years, the two have never had the feeling of an old husband and wife. They are always like lovers in love, and every time they look at each other, they will make each other shudder.
From a delicate little girl, to a hard-working and virtuous wife, to a mother of 3 children, All her thoughts are on Liu Qihong and her children.
In Wang Wanfei's eyes, Liu Qihong is a serious and responsible man; for children, he is a perfect father.
And for Liu Qihong, this is the most perfect answer sheet in his life.
After 15 years of marriage, Liu Qihong has always been from one to the end, without any scandals.
He was also rated by netizens as a new good man in the entertainment industry, who can withstand the test and keep the prosperity.
But he didn't care about this, he said: "I know I will achieve a happiness, but happiness does not mean career success, it is called happiness." 」 I've always known that family is where I belong. ”
For the sake of love, do not abandon, the marriage of two people, to the world truly explained the best appearance of love.