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Since the divorce of Li Xiaolu and Jia Nailiang.
Compound rumors, boiling and boiling, have never stopped.
On April 14, Jia Nailiang updated a dynamic that once again aroused heated discussion.
In the video, Jia Nailiang holds a blue rose in his hand and smiles sweetly, as if he is showing love to someone.
On the same day, Li Xiaolu also updated a video.
Caption: "Hide you in your heart".
The dynamics of one after the other, the content is very ambiguous, as if echoing from afar.
What is even more coincidental is that this day happens to be Jia Nailiang's birthday.
Jia Nailiang posted a cake in the shape of Xing Dailu, and is also Li Xiaolu's favorite doll, which has appeared in his videos many times.
After a coincidence overlapped, netizens could not hold back.
They all ran to the comment area and asked for a compound.
"Star Dew Oh, Sweet And Xiao Lu"
"Finally getting back together"
Remember before, on the Douyin hot search list, "Li Xiaolu surprised Jia Nailiang live broadcast room".
It turned out that when Jia Nailiang was live streaming with goods, three lucky spectators were randomly selected for the lottery.
Coincidentally, the first three characters just happened to spell the three words "Li Xiaolu".
This scene made countless people explode.
For a time, some people ridiculed, and some people blessed.
It is no wonder that everyone thinks a lot, after all, if you look at them carefully, there are compound clues everywhere.
Some media filmed Jia Nailiang going to the massage parlor to relax, and after coming out, he took pizza and so on directly to Li Xiaolu's home.
At the same time as the zoo, the scene is very warm, and Jia Nailiang also took photos as a photographer.
The two went surfing by the beach with their friends and were captured by netizens.
Wear a couple outfit and bring the same accessories to shoot videos.
Some say that all this is just a coincidence.
Is it really just a coincidence?
Over there, Li Xiaolu used the platform to frequently send various signals.
Here Jia Nailiang did not respond publicly, but the figure was everywhere around Li Xiaolu.
As the saying goes, the broken mirror is rounded.
The emergence of compounding is not unreasonable.
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The reason why netizens frequently urge compounding.
On the one hand, except for the attitude of the two people is very vague and ambiguous.
On the other hand, it is because their past is indeed a kind of love.
The two met at a friend party, and Jia Nailiang fell in love with Li Xiaolu at first sight.
Since then, he has made no secret of his love.
Li Xiaolu likes fashion, so he forced himself to endure the pain and hit a row of the same stud earrings.
Li Xiaolu values the sense of ceremony, so he will fly to Li Xiaolu's side every festival to accompany him.
Li Xiaolu liked a twenty-nine thousand dress, and he only had thirty thousand in The Cary, still did not hesitate to buy it.
After two years of waiting, Li Xiaolu's parents were touched.
With such sincere love.
Li Xiaolu was eventually impressed, and finally the two entered the palace of marriage.
But love needs feelings, not emotions.
Not loving someone at any time, acceptance is only temporary.
After marriage, Li Xiaolu is still the princess who is high above.
Even though she was already a mother, she still continued to kiss without scruples.
Loudly flaunt his love history on the reality show, without regard for Jia Nailiang's feelings.
Summoning Jia Nailiang at will, not like a husband, but like a servant.
Even after the "Overnight Gate" incident, he publicly stated that "Jia Nailiang did not give me anything."
For all the efforts of Jia Nailiang, Li Xiaolu was dismissive.
She always stood at the top of love, examined this unequal marriage, and gladly accepted it but did not care.
This also dooms all this to end in tragedy.
So someone asked:
"Since she doesn't love Jia Nailiang and chose PGone, why not divorce her directly?"
The root cause is that she never really faced marriage.
For Li Xiaolu,
Marriage is more like a game of doing whatever you want.
As a result, the marriage that should have been a long stream of water was eventually destroyed in the middle of the three or four years.
Lin Yutang said:
"Marriage is like a carved ship, it all depends on how you appreciate it, and how you control it."
If the ship had already aerated, but had not been turned around in time.
In the end, it will only lead to a tragedy of both sides.
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Just like some time ago, Uncle Shan saw such a piece of news.
"The original wife and the little three fought, but the husband let the two live in peace"
Just by looking at the entry, it falls below the three views.
It turned out that the man Li Bing used the pretext of traveling in other provinces for a period of up to eight years.
Cheated on another woman and gave birth to a child.
It was eight years before the wife learned the truth and came forward to ask for an explanation.
The husband thinks that he is working hard to raise two families, and they should learn to be considerate and live in peace.
And said with dignity: "I like both." ”
Since the other woman doesn't mind, the wife should also be generous.
This picture stunned everyone.
Under the guise of marriage and love, the delusion is that "the red flag at home does not fall, and the bunting flag flutters outside."
This kind of man is so terrible.
Calmly and calmly connect with other people's marriages and feelings, but also straight.
How shameless is this kind of woman.
What is the difference between this concept of marriage between a man and a woman and Li Xiaolu?
It is nothing more than to see marriage as an emotional game, once and for all.
You know, true love is single-minded, it is so small that it can only accommodate two people to survive.
It's never the case.
All this reminds Uncle Shan of a psychological effect
- Zeignick Effect:
It means that people will be more profound about what has not yet been dealt with than what has been dealt with.
Placed in marital feelings can be understood as.
What is not obtained is always in turmoil, and what is favored is always fearless.
In reality, more and more people are like this.
Unwilling to plunge into the freshness of the flat head, wait until the heel is planted, but find that the broken mirror is difficult to re-round.
When I think about regrets again, I have long regretted it.
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John Gottman wrote in Happy Marriage:
"Love is not the whole content of marriage, and contradiction is not the only theme of marriage."
The reason why more and more people are deviating from the course in marriage.
It's because they forgot.
Marriage satisfies us only as a sexual need.
You know, marriage is called marriage precisely because it is a responsibility.
So, if you're not ready to take responsibility, don't walk through the door of marriage.
If you don't know how to resist temptation, don't promise a person's future.
Because marriage is a place of practice for two people.
Only two people who advance and retreat together in marriage can successfully complete the rest of their lives.
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Whether you get married or not, don't forget what love looks like in the first place!