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Even if men and women nowadays have become equal to a certain extent, but in fact, the economic pressure given by society to men will be greater, men need to bear the weight of a family, when choosing a mate, women will also measure the man's family situation and income level.
How to measure whether a man has the ability or not is not adjusted, but in general, the economic situation and personal ability are the basis of judgment to a certain extent.
No matter how eloquent and flexible a man is, if the income level is not good, then the person has been judged to be incompetent.
There are many factors that determine whether a man has the ability, family conditions, opportunities and luck, but these are only auxiliaries, and what really determines the future direction of a man's life is his personal cultivation, internal conduct and personal ability.
Whether a person has the ability, in fact, it can be seen through the state presented by this person, if a man has the ability, his whole person will emit a unique aura, and he will show a calm and determined state when he receives things, and he is very confident in the sunshine.
On the contrary, the state of the whole person will be very depressed, and the appearance of a shrugged head can be seen at a glance.
The more capable men are, the more obvious these qualities are in them, and it is difficult to hide.
Treat people warmly like jade, and rarely lose your temper
Everyone has their own temper, and it is easy to send out the temper, but it is difficult to take it back, and the more difficult the things, if they can be done, it is enough to highlight the ability of this person.
In life, the more grumpy men, the more they often have no ability, like their grandsons on the outside, they are low-brow and pleasing to others, only when they return home and face the people closest to them, they will expose their animalistic side and vent their temper at will.
Really capable men, they never need to show their ability through the venting of temper, the more incompetent men, do not have their own status outside, can only at home, through the venting of emotions, to prove their sense of existence, in front of the family than a high.
Those who have the ability, most of them are the controllers of emotions, can completely control their temper, when encountering things, can suppress their temper, the first thing that comes to mind is how to solve the problem, even if sometimes they really encounter things that make them very angry, they can also remain calm, and will not use the level of the voice, the venting of temper to prove themselves.
They treat people and things, always a gentle and jade look, always calm, rarely see their violent side, not because they have a good temperament, but because they know that temper does not represent a person's ability, reason is not high, they know that they would rather compete with their peers, not to share fools and short lengths, and will not waste time and energy to argue with some people who are not in a channel.
Du Yuesheng said: The superior people have the ability and have no temper; the middle class has the ability and the temper; the last people have no ability but have a big temper.
The more capable people are, the less temper they have.
Low-key and humble, not out of the limelight, silently do their own thing
An arrogant person, even if he really has a full of talent, but because of the quality he exudes to the outside world, invisibly drives away the people around him, no one wants to follow an arrogant person, no one follows, and it is difficult for a person to become a climate after all.
In today's era, it is no longer suitable for one person to fight alone, unity and cooperation have long become the consensus of everyone, even if a person has the ability, if only one person moves forward, this road is doomed to not go long.
The more incompetent people are, the more they like to brag about themselves, they are arrogant, they look down on anyone, they always feel that only they are the most powerful, it is difficult to find the shining points of others, and such people can only eventually take their own road narrower and narrower.
And the more capable people are, they are often very low-key and humble, rarely make a splash, know how to restrain their sharp edges; they never publicize their abilities to the outside world, nor do they look down on others, and know how to take advantage of others; silently do their own things, do not easily expose their abilities, until the end of the extreme bloom, shocking everyone.
Instead of bragging, it is better to make yourself better, let the strength speak, and be more convincing.
Broad-minded, tolerant of other people's scenery, know how to respect opponents
Narrow-minded people, it is difficult to go long, such people can not tolerate the achievements of others, can not see the good of others, can not see the advantages of others, just blindly immersed in their own small world, self-deception.
They only allow themselves to achieve results, they can't see that others are better than themselves, and once someone stands taller than themselves, achieves better results, and is full of jealousy, they will do something harmful to others and harm themselves, and they will stumble behind their backs and try to cut off the way of others.
But invisibly, it has damaged your good fortune, your words and deeds are recorded in your resume, and everything you do will one day be regurgitated to you.
The more incompetent people are, the stronger the jealousy, in their hearts there is no tolerance for opponents, do not allow others to be superior to themselves, jealousy often makes them look hateful, do not know how to appreciate the merits of others, in his world, only themselves, no others.
As everyone knows, the opponent is also a spur and perfection for themselves, and when they encounter a good opponent, they will invisibly spur themselves to constantly break through themselves, constantly move forward, and let themselves develop in a better direction.
Truly capable men, they are very broad-minded, can tolerate the scenery of others, know how to respect each other, and can learn to coexist with opponents.
The weak regard the opponent as a thorn in the eye, and the strong use the opponent as a guiding light, constantly making themselves stronger.
Whether a person has the ability or not is usually closely related to his words and deeds.
A person's ability is usually inseparable from the person's virtue and quality, and it is not simply external money as the only criterion.
Some people, even if they become rich because of a moment of good luck, if their character is not passed, they will certainly not be able to bear such good luck, and sooner or later they will lose their money.
The more capable people are, the more they have these characteristics, and these qualities are also invisibly pouring out his aura and helping him to rise higher and higher.