In 2000, 19-year-old Chen Ting applied to the school to withdraw from school just after her freshman year.
The teacher at the school asked her, "At a good age, what are you going to do without going to school?" ”
Chen Ting just replied, "I don't want to go on, I have more important things." ”
In the confusion of everyone, Chen Ting and Zhang Yimou secretly lived together.
Chen Ting was pregnant, and Zhang Yimou had been praying in his heart that this was a boy.
In 5 years, Chen Ting gave birth to two sons and a daughter for Zhang Yimou.
She endured for 10 years before she exchanged a marriage certificate,
It took many years to appear as "Mrs. Zhang".
Is it just because she gave birth to three children for Zhang Yimou?
Zhang Yimou, who told Gong Li that "the marriage contract is just a piece of paper", turned his head and married Chen Ting.
What is this woman capable of?
01
In 1981, Chen Ting was born in Wuxi to an ordinary working-class family.
Chen Ting likes to dance, and after graduation, she was admitted to the song and dance troupe and became a dancer.
After working for less than two years, Chen Ting has begun to yearn for the big stage.
After months of study, she was admitted to Nortel.
Parents want nothing more from their daughter, only hope that she can live her life in peace,
But the gears of fate brought her to Zhang Yimou's side.
In 1999, director Zhang Yimou came to his alma mater to cast a role for the new film "Happy Time".
At this time, I have to mention Zhang Yimou's emotional experience.
Zhang Yimou had a marriage with his first love Xiao Hua and gave birth to a daughter, Zhang Mo.
But since Gong Li appeared, everything has changed.
Gong Li became the first generation of "Mou Girl" and also the royal heroine of Zhang Yimou.
Gong Li admired Zhang Yimou's talent and maturity, and Zhang Yimou was also attracted to the vigorous Gong Li.
The two secretly have feelings in cooperation and quietly talk about love.
Gong Li and her little boyfriend cut off the love thread, and Zhang Dao seems to have forgotten that there are still children and chaff in the family.
The two men just ignored the lingering pity.
Some people say that Zhang Yimou's film made Gong Li;
Some people also say that Gong Li's performance has made Zhang Yimou.
It can only be said that the two achieve each other and are inseparable.
Until one time, Xiao Hua found a letter written by Gong Li in Zhang Yimou's clothes pocket.
Zhang Yimou did not argue and directly admitted his feelings with Gong Li.
Since then, Zhang Yimou has rarely returned home, and all his energy has been focused on movies and Gong Li.
A few years later, Xiao Hua finally couldn't bear to file for divorce.
At this time, the happiest person is undoubtedly Gong Li, who is just around the corner to become Zhang Yimou's legitimate wife.
Without Zhang Yimou, there would be no international superstar Gong Li,
Without Gong Li, there would be no famous director Zhang Yimou.
After both returned to singlehood, they began an 8-year cohabitation life.
Gong Li thought that sooner or later she would wait until zhang Yimou opened her mouth to say the day of marriage.
As everyone knows, Zhang Yimou appreciates her like her and can even say that he loves her,
It just never thought of marrying her.
Gong Li loved Zhang Yimou warmly and deeply.
She did not hesitate to bear the name of "third party" and was willing to accompany Zhang Yimou for 8 years without a name.
When Gong Li repeatedly expressed his desire to start a family with Zhang Yimou, he refused again and again.
Until Gong Li held the last glimmer of hope and asked him if he wanted to get married, Zhang Yimou replied:
"Marriage is just a piece of paper!"
Gong Li finally chose to end this 8-year entanglement with Zhang Yimou.
Does Zhang Yimou really not want to get married?
Not.
The light on Gong Li's body was too grand, dazzling and dazzling.
In Zhang Yimou's heart, his marriage partner should be an ordinary woman, who washes and cooks for him and continues to produce future generations.
Maybe it's because this relationship was wrong at the beginning, but they have become a difficult intention in the hearts of many people.
Zhang Yimou loves Gong Li, but she is suitable for love but not suitable for marriage.
Therefore, when Chen Ting appeared, Zhang Yimou had the feeling of wanting to start a family again.
02
When Chen Ting saw director Zhang Yimou recruiting actors, she decided to try it.
Being able to star in Zhang Yimou's works is something that many actors dream of.
Before going, she deliberately dressed up carefully,
Looking forward to the good thing of overnight fame can also come to you.
Chen Ting's condition is very good, 170 tall, white and clean skin, standing in the crowd is also very eye-catching.
The first round of interview Chen Ting easily passed,
At the same time, there is also a strong competitor Dong Jie.
The next day, during the re-examination, Zhang Yimou personally came to the interview.
Chen Ting was not selected due to her tall stature and immature acting skills.
Dong Jie stood out with her pure appearance and became the heroine of the film.
It turns out that Zhang Yimou is powerful, and Dong Jie really caught fire after the film was broadcast.
When the film casting was implemented, Zhang Yimou often thought of a girl in his heart.
That's Chen Ting.
Zhang Yimou paid special attention to Chen Ting during the interview, and she really wanted to know and understand this girl.
It's just that she has strict requirements for the work and did not give the role to Chen Ting because of this.
Until the completion of the casting implementation, Zhang Yimou sent a text message to Chen Ting: "Come out and have a meal together."
At that time, Chen Ting still thought that Zhang Dao had changed his mind and was ready to choose her as the heroine, and he went without thinking about it.
When he hurried to the place of appointment, he found that Zhang Yimou was alone.
Zhang Yimou is 50 years old, and he has no extra time to waste on finding the other half.
Chen Ting's appearance made his heart move, what a young and gentle girl.
Zhang Yimou came up and directly confessed his heart: "I like you, be my girlfriend."
In the face of the sudden confession, Chen Ting was a little overwhelmed.
She has not yet been in love, and Zhang Yimou is 31 years older than her, even older than her mother.
Zhang Yimou was well aware of Chen Ting's encouragement and gave her time to consider.
Back in the dormitory, Chen Ting had not slept well for several days, and there was always a voice in her heart that drove her to agree to Zhang Yimou's confession.
A woman's love comes from worship, and Chen Ting admires Zhang Yimou.
She had already made plans in her heart and made a lifelong relationship with Zhang Yimou.
After receiving another dating message from Zhang Yimou, she arrived at the hotel without changing her clothes.
The two belonged only to each other at that time, and then the first picture was taken.
Because of Zhang Yimou's identity, the two can only temporarily maintain an underground love.
Chen Ting's choice was undoubtedly a big gamble, and she had no idea what would happen in the future.
All she knew was that it was enough to be happy for now.
Zhang Yimou's care for Chen Ting is meticulous, and even more inclined to fatherly love.
Therefore, Chen Ting is more convinced that being with Zhang Yimou is the right choice.
She didn't even care about zhang Yimou's affairs with her ex-wife and Gong Li.
Chen Ting never made demands on Zhang Yimou and always stayed by his side honestly.
When Zhang Yimou was busy with work, she was next to accompany her, and Zhang Yimou was idle and the two of them stayed together.
The faces of the two were filled with happy smiles every day, and this "year-old love" went very smoothly.
Until Chen Ting met a bad thing, she was pregnant.
03
At this time, Chen Ting was just a 19-year-old college student, and she could only quickly tell Zhang Yimou about this matter.
Hearing this, Zhang Yimou immediately put down his work and rushed back to the two men's residence.
Before Zhang Yimou's father died, he also specially explained that he must give birth to a boy for the old Zhang family.
Therefore, this child is very important to Zhang Yimou, which is a good thing.
However, this matter needs to seek Chen Ting's opinion, so Zhang Yimou put the choice in front of Chen Ting:
"Whether you are born or continue to school, you choose, I respect your opinion."
Although Chen Ting had concerns at this time, she still made a bold decision: to have a child.
Zhang Yimou told Chen Ting that he did not have the idea of getting married for the time being.
Chen Ting did not mind, she was willing to give birth to this nameless child first,
I just hope that Zhang Yimou can go home with him to meet the old man.
Chen Ting's approach and brave love impressed Zhang Yimou, and he agreed.
In order to respect her parents, she told her parents who were far away in Wuxi in advance.
As the only daughter in the family, Chen Ting is naturally loved by her parents, who are afraid that their daughter will be hurt.
When Chen Ting rushed back to her hometown with Zhang Yimou, her mother secretly pulled Chen Ting aside and said:
"Your age difference is too big, listen to your mother's early breakup!"
The parents' reaction was completely unexpected by Chen Ting, and she said to her parents: "I am pregnant." ”
Since the raw rice had been cooked to maturity, the second elder had to agree, but put forward three conditions for Zhang Yimou.
First of all, to give the daughter enough living expenses to ensure her quality of life;
Buy Chen Ting a house in Beijing so that her daughter and children have a stable place to live;
Finally, in the future, I must marry Chen Ting.
Zhang Yimou agreed without even thinking about it, and the top priority was for the sake of the child in Chen Ting's womb.
In 2001, Chen Ting gave birth to a son to Zhang Yimou, named Zhang Yinan.
Zhang Yimou, who has come to the age of a son, does not mention how happy he is, Chen Ting is definitely a hero of the Zhang family.
But the later things made Zhang Yimou difficult.
Her son Zhang Yinan grew up day by day, and Chen Ting also hoped that she and her son could be justified.
This paper marriage contract is not only a guarantee for himself, but also a responsibility for his son.
Although she thought so, she had never urged Zhang Yimou, and what happened to Gong Li taught her a lesson.
If you don't get married, you can't go to the hukou, and it's not fair to Chen Ting, and these Zhang Yimou all understand.
Zhang Yimou is a public figure, and his words and deeds are always concerned by the outside world.
If he gets married now, it means that his affair with Chen Ting will be made public, and it will affect his career.
But the things he promised his father-in-law and mother-in-law would be fulfilled sooner or later.
Just when he was embarrassed, the eldest daughter Zhang Mo ran out again to add to the chaos.
At that time, Zhang Mo secretly stole a book called "My Father and Mother" behind his father's back.
The book strongly accuses Gong Li of interfering in her parents' marriage and taking away her father's love.
Zhang Yimou, who was busy with his daughter, had the heart to consider getting married.
If the married daughter made trouble again, Zhang Yimou would not be able to resist at all.
Chen Ting saw Zhang Yimou's difficulty and took the initiative to say to him:
"Then wait, as long as you don't wronged the child, I'm okay."
Chen Ting's generosity and thoughtfulness completely subdued Zhang Yimou's heart, and he knew that he must give Chen Ting a name in the future.
Zhang Yimou later chose to marry Chen Ting, half out of guilt.
Chen Ting's dedication to Zhang Yimou and the child is far more than it seems.
04
Since she followed Zhang Yimou, this matter has always been a secret that cannot be opened.
In the eyes of outsiders: unmarried children at a young age, not even a boyfriend.
This is very controversial not only for her, but also for her parents.
Chen Ting and her family had words of suffering, and all this could only be broken and swallowed in the stomach.
Chen Ting's pressure is greater than everyone else's,
For the sake of the secrecy of the matter, the family could not even hire a babysitter.
All the trivial matters of life can only be handled by Chen Ting,
Zhang Yimou often shoots outside, shooting for several months.
She can't talk to friends, can't let her parents worry, and can't disturb her husband's work.
Chen Ting could only grit her teeth and spend herself through one late night after another.
In 2004, Chen Ting became pregnant again, and this time it still needs to be kept secret.
Women are prone to sentimentality during pregnancy, and she hopes that Zhang Yimou can accompany her.
Zhang Yimou was busy filming and had no time, she could only try to understand never complaining.
When her husband had a hard time returning home, Chen Ting also had to hurry to cook for him.
In the past, it was a pearl in the palm of his parents, but now he is a "nanny".
Before production, Zhang Yimou finally freed up time,
Chen Ting gave birth to her son smoothly under the care of her parents and husband.
Two years later, he gave birth to another daughter, and after giving birth to a younger daughter, he was only 25 years old.
Having three children in five years, Chen Ting has paid a lot of hardships in these five years, and others do not know.
But the three children settled, and the two still did not receive the license.
The difference between Chen Ting and Gong Li was that she just waited silently.
Zhang Yimou has always been indebted to his daughter Zhang Mo in his heart.
So he hopes that Chen Ting can get his daughter's approval.
Picking a date, Zhang Yimou called Zhang Mo and Chen Ting to meet together.
Zhang Mo was not unkind, she just hated Gong Li and was quite polite to Chen Ting.
It just takes time to accept Chen Ting's matter, and Chen Ting has also paid a lot of effort for this.
Chen Ting saw any beautiful clothes and fun things to buy and give to Zhang Mo.
When Zhang Mo did not come to visit his father, Chen Ting would often call to care.
She also gradually accepted Chen Ting in her heart, and the two of them got along more like girlfriends.
Zhang Yimou's hanging heart also gradually let go.
Because they did not receive a marriage license, the child's hukou could not be left behind.
Chen Ting was recognized by her daughter Zhang Mo and gave birth to two men and a daughter for the old Zhang family.
It is also time for me to fulfill my original promise, not to mention that the child does not have a hukou.
Zhang Yimou did not propose marriage, but said to Chen Ting: "Let's get the certificate."
Since the day she followed Zhang Yimou at the age of 19, Chen Ting has been waiting for this day.
As for Zhang Yimou's claim to receive the certificate, she naturally agreed.
In 2011, Zhang Yimou and Chen Ting became an official legal couple.
Cohabitation life has finally become a bright family,
But Zhang Yimou still did not disclose Chen Ting's identity.
She is Zhang Yimou's legal wife, but she is only his wife.
But at least the children have a father who is justified.
Becoming Mrs. Zhang living in a big mansion, she achieved Gong Li's unfulfilled wish,
With a complete family of five, Chen Ting is very content.
At this time, Chen Ting did not expect that she, the unknown Mrs. Zhang,
It was actually exposed by an actor named He Jun.
05
Two years later, He Jun posted that Zhang Yimou had three children.
Only then did everyone know that Zhang Dao already had a wife and children.
When Zhang Yimou was filming "Jinling Thirteen Chao", she was fired for leaking the film.
He Jun holds a grudge against Zhang Yimou, so he makes public the private affairs he has been hiding.
The two were also fined 7.84 million yuan for overbirth, which caused a heated discussion as soon as it came out.
Chen Ting's past was also instantly swept clean.
Netizens have ridiculed: "Chen Ting gave birth to three children and did not take less money, right?" ”
"After so many years of namelessness and no points, Chen Ting must have taken a fancy to the old strategist's money!"
The online attack on Chen Ting has never stopped, and no one seems to have targeted Zhang Yimou.
Zhang Yimou saw that the situation was uncontrollable, and for the first time he posted:
"Thank you for saying it to this girl, it was she who let Tingting and the children see each other again."
Seeing this, netizens couldn't help but wonder, "Why did you go earlier?" ”
If it was really as he said, it was just a matter of his words, but it made Chen Ting wait for more than ten years.
After this accident, Chen Ting became Zhang Yimou's bright and upright wife.
Zhang Yimou also often takes Chen Ting to appear in various activities with a high profile.
The outside world is very confused, why did Zhang Yimou not choose Gong Li and marry Chen Ting?
In fact, her approach has long given the answer.
If love is a matter for two people, then marriage is a matter for two families.
Chen Ting can marry Zhang Yimou, in addition to the need to resist external pressure, but also has the approval of her mother-in-law.
In Zhang Yimou's mother's heart, Xiao Hua was her daughter-in-law.
Even after divorcing her son, Mother Zhang still treated Xiao Hua as her own daughter.
At the beginning, Zhang Yimou did not marry Gong Li, and part of it was because of his mother's resolute opposition.
Although Chen Ting gave birth to two grandchildren and a granddaughter for her, she never accepted this daughter-in-law in her heart.
When Zhang Yimou officially took Chen Ting home to see her mother-in-law,
Mother Zhang did not refuse, but always took Chen Ting as an outsider in the open and in the dark.
Chen Ting knew that she could only impress her mother-in-law through actions.
Zhang Yimou has always hoped to take care of his mother, but Zhang Yimou is unwilling.
Chen Ting had a clever move, and gave the children a trick to let them go to the grandmother to grind hard bubbles.
The grandchildren coquettish together: "Grandma, come and stay with us, we like to listen to your stories." ”
The mother-in-law reacted instantly, but she could not bear to reject the children, so she could only agree.
Chen Ting solved a big problem for Zhang Yimou, which shows that it is very important to have a virtuous wife.
After the family lived together, Chen Ting gave the best-lit room in the family to her mother-in-law.
The elderly need to be extra careful in eating, and she cooks for the old lady every day according to the recipe.
When the mother-in-law was sick and hospitalized, Chen Ting kept vigil in front of the bed day and night.
Chen Ting can always handle the trivial and trivial things that Zhang Yimou is uneven and easily handles.
Gradually, the mother-in-law found that this daughter-in-law treated herself as a biological mother.
Mother Zhang recognized Chen Ting from her heart and handed over the heirloom bracelet to her.
In 2018, Zhang's mother was seriously ill, and Chen Ting gave her mother-in-law endless care and love.
Zhang Yimou could not find time to accompany the bed in the hospital, so she did filial piety for her husband.
Unfortunately, the old man still died of illness, and the mother-in-law's affairs were also handled by Chen Ting herself.
Zhang Yimou didn't have to worry about big things and small things at home, and Chen Ting could handle everything.
Zhang Yimou's eldest daughter, Zhang Mo, was tragically abandoned by her foreign husband, and it was Chen Ting who accompanied her through those dark days.
Zhang Mo will consult her when she encounters emotional problems.
When Zhang Mo once again ushered in love, Chen Ting carefully examined all aspects.
As a stepmother, she and her stepdaughter can become girlfriends, and naturally have her skills.
Under the management of Chen Ting, this family has a good life.
They are all curious about why Zhang Yimou married Chen Ting,
Isn't all this what Zhang Yimou hopes to see?
It is precisely because of Chen Ting's virtuousness and generosity that Zhang Yimou can develop his career outside with confidence.
Chen Ting did not give up her life because of marriage.
She studied guzheng and calligraphy, studied at university for graduate school, and insisted on exercising for two hours a day...
Not only that, she also learned to do business and registered her own brand.
The education of children is also hands-on and leads by example.
While being a good helper to Zhang Yimou, he did not lose himself.
A "yearless love" that was not optimistic was drawn to a perfect end by Chen Ting with practical actions.
Chen Ting used her gentleness and virtuousness to conquer Zhang Yimou's heart little by little.
If she didn't have a heart and grace, how could she endure for 10 years?
Chen Ting gave birth to three children for Zhang Yimou without any guarantees.
In the end, I waited for the day when I became Mrs. Zhang.
This bet, Chen Ting won.
Because I love him enough, I can overcome all difficulties.
Because I love myself, I have not lost myself even if I have a marriage.
There is nothing more sad for a woman than the loss of herself, except for her husband and children,
There should be a world that belongs to you, and there should be a personal life that belongs to you.
The reason why Chen Ting lives wonderfully is precisely because of this,
Now Chen Ting's happy life is really enviable!