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Sometimes, you can't let go of a person, not because of love
Habit is a terrible force, habits can make us miss out on the people we like, and habits can also make us mistakenly think that we still love someone.
Even though habits can make us meet the good, but everything has two sides, and habits can also make us miss the good.
People are the product of habits, and when we are not able to get out of habits, we are likely to be manipulated by habits.
In "The Prince Becomes a Frog", Yun Xi may not really love Shan Junhao so much, she thinks that her affection for Junhao can actually be said to be completely because of habits caused by "obsession".
She deeply implanted the idea of marrying Shan Junhao in her mind, and she was used to everyone around her thinking that she and Shan Junhao were a match made in heaven.
Therefore, Yun Xi will take the habit of Shan Junhao by his side as a basis for love.
Before meeting Ye Tianyu, Shan Junhao also felt that his love for Yun Xi was a love between men and women, but when Tian Yu crashed into his world, he taught him a heartfelt feeling, and he understood that he was more of a brother and sister for Yun Xi, and had nothing to do with love.
Yun Xi had actually moved her heart to the warm man Xu Ziqian a long time ago, but her obsession and habits made her push away the people she really loved again and again.
It wasn't until she suddenly discovered that Xu Ziqian was the boy when she was a child that she stepped out of her habit and saw her true intentions.
As early as when Shan Junhao disappeared and Yun Xi took the initiative to approach Xu Ziqian and thought about interacting with Xu Ziqian, she had already begun to approach her sincerity.
However, her obsession with Shan Junhao was too deep, so she would immediately rush to Junhao's side after seeing Junhao return.
Fortunately, in the end, Shan Junhao and Yun Xi both walked out of the obsession caused by habit and were with the people who really loved each other.
Sometimes, we can't let go of a person, often not because of love, human nature is very realistic.
Sometimes, we can't let go of a person, just because of obsession
The so-called obsession is knowing that we should let go, but still choose to deceive ourselves, allowing the brain to control our every move.
Perhaps, Yun Xi is not unaware of her love for Xu Ziqian, the reason why she refuses to come out is entirely because she is afraid of facing this kind of discomfort after breaking through the "circle".
How to describe this kind of discomfort, probably because you decide to lose weight, you must suddenly overcome the desire to enjoy food on weekdays, and those bad habits that prevent you from becoming thin.
Change is so painful, so sometimes it's hard to cling to it, not because we don't know how to change, but because it's really hard to change, to let go of a person and start a whole new life.
Our brains are actually afraid of difficulties and like simple, so they will cling to the habits they have formed, rather than going out of new circles.
Perhaps, for some of us, the reason why we can't let go of a person is to escape the pain of starting over and over again without a goal, that is, refusing to change and nothing more.
The heroine of "My Early Girlfriend" can't let go of her ex, and has always been grumpy about her ex not agreeing to her marriage proposal, resulting in her early change.
One of the strange points of the heroine is probably that the ex has called her many times, she does not answer, but insists on writing to the ex every day for seven years.
The heroine can't let go of the ex, not because of love, but simply because she is afraid of change, afraid of great change, and circled herself in a circle, trapping herself.
Second, sometimes, I can't put down a person because I am afraid that people will not match
In fact, each of us is our own editor, and we will invisibly set up a person for ourselves.
A person who has set up a true feeling for himself, even if he does not love a person, will use various behaviors to force himself to continue to like and continue to love.
Why force yourself to do this? It is because once he finds that he does not match the person and is not what he expects, his world will collapse, and the whole person will easily fall into a state of collapse.
A person who does not love himself enough, cannot see his true needs, and will only put all the cognitive labels of others on himself.
If a person with a lack of heart labels himself affectionate, then he will really show a crush on someone, even if he is already with someone else.
I have seen such a story: a boy is a person who likes to set up an affectionate person for himself, and he shows all kinds of thoughtfulness and gentleness to his girlfriend in front of others.
Therefore, people around him are full of praise for boys, and only praise him as a good man who has met once in a thousand years.
However, the boy's kindness to his girlfriend is very "superficial", and he never likes to bring food to his girlfriend.
His girlfriend does not eat spicy, and the rice he prepares is Sichuan spicy, so in the end the meal is his own.
The boy's kindness to his girlfriend is actually seen by outsiders, and the girlfriend does not feel it at all.
In the end, the girl chose to break up, although the people around her expressed confusion, but love is like people drinking water cold and warm self-knowledge, the girl is determined.
Three years later, at a class reunion, the girl and the boy met again, and the boy expressed his reluctance and nostalgia for the girl, which attracted a wave of admiration from his classmates, but the girl walked away coldly, because she understood that the man loved only his affectionate personality, and how she loved and did not give up.
Sometimes, you can't put down a person, just because you can't get it
If there is such an inferior root in human nature, then it is the favored one who has no fear, and what is not obtained is always in turmoil.
The lost people and things are always the best, because "don't get", so all kinds of imagination will make us magnify the value of the lost people and things.
I like this sentence: what you don't get becomes white moonlight, and what you get becomes a cinnabar mole.
We are always blind to what we already have, and we overly fantasize about what we have lost, and we are overly attached to the person who has been lost because of the control of the brain.
The "present" has power, but the brain can make us miss the past too much, or fantasize too much about the future, resulting in missing out on the people and things we have in the present.
When a person believes too much in the brain, is controlled by the brain, even if he is immersed in the gentle country, the brain will worry about other people.
The vast majority of people can't let go of a person, not necessarily because of love, but the habit of the brain, the habit of seeking benefits and avoiding harm, the habit of avoiding harm, the habit of not seeing the present...
Habits must be good for us to some extent, perhaps allowing us to stay in the comfort zone, or allowing us to be recognized by the outside world, or allowing us to escape from being aware of the present, so habits will be generated.
It's just that if you can't let go of a person just because of human nature, then you're likely to miss out on greater happiness.
It is not excluded that some people can't let go of a person is really because of love, but the vast majority of people can't let go of a person is often living in the above three "realistic" reasons.
May we get out of our habits, out of the circles we draw, to create a new possibility, to meet new two people, to see new landscapes, to experience the beautiful present.
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I am Hexu, a creator of the emotional field of warmth and happiness in my heart, writing emotional texts, writing emotions with words, and warming the heart with feelings. Thank you for reading, and hope my text can help you. Deeply wish you peace, health and joy!