Have you ever had a moment like this:
When I wake up in the morning and think of going to work, the whole person is not good;
There are always a few days a week when you don't want to go to work;
Frequent complaints about work in front of friends;
Sometimes I don't do anything at the end of the day and I still feel very tired.
Many times getting bored with work is not simply exhaustion. To put it bluntly, it is heart tiredness. Although no manual labor was done, internal friction was always present.
For example, being troubled by annoying relationships, struggling with why others are always targeting me. There is no energy to do important things anymore.
Two days ago, I saw Zhao Han say in "Han Xie: Meaningless Truth" (hereinafter referred to as "Han Xie") that people in the workplace "when you can accept yourself and do not attack yourself, the attacks of others will become ineffective."
There is a feeling of sudden enlightenment. We spent too much time wrestling with why others were targeting me, what I was doing wrong, and what I had to do so that others didn't attack me. But I often forget that some attacks are for no reason, but the emotions of others.
In the workplace, what we have to do is not to constantly consume ourselves because of the external environment. Rather, it is to understand the common sense and understanding of the workplace.
Zhao Han is a well-known reading promoter and an intellectual and emotional expert of tens of millions of fans across the network, who once worked for Phoenix Satellite TV, a fortune 500 company in Australia. The life of 30+ sisters is wonderful, but they must also transform their own experiences into experiences to achieve these wonderful.
"Han Xie" is based on Han herself as the main line, telling her own growth path, as well as the inferiority and self-confidence, anxiety and growth, pain and perseverance, ignorance and open-mindedness behind her, rich in content. Below I have selected the following 3 points to discuss what you can do if you want to live comfortably in the workplace.
1, the workplace is a place to work, not a place to make friends
We inevitably have to deal with some interpersonal relationships in the workplace, and the workplace relationship is handled well as lubricant, and it is easy to affect work efficiency and work mood if it is not handled well.
For example, a colleague who usually seems to have a good relationship suddenly has a "business face" when he connects with you for work. You feel that the other party really does not need to go online, which makes you sad.
In fact, there is no need to be sad, everyone is here to work, not to make friends. In the workplace, learn not to treat colleagues as friends.
Since I came to work, I want to pay time and energy to solve problems for the company and achieve self-growth.
We expect different things from our friends and colleagues. We in friends that are more about providing emotional value to each other, and workplace relationships emphasize collaboration.
Like the example above, you feel that you have eaten together a few times, and you can usually talk and laugh, and the relationship is not bad, that is, friends.
In fact, as long as there is no conflict of interest, or no connection to specific things, most people can live in peace.
In interpersonal communication, the other party's reaction does not meet our expectations, and there will be negative emotions such as anger, grievance, and sadness. This is normal, first of all, don't be embarrassed by your anger and grievances.
Negative emotions, like positive emotions, are normal human reactions. What we have to do is find the cause of the negative emotions and then find a way to solve them.
Once there is a connection between specific things, there is a possibility of conflict. Even if there is a conflict, we have to continue to work together, so instead of focusing on complaining about the difficulty of the other party, we should focus on solving problems.
For example, when docking work, the other party says that your process is not right, you may wish to ask the other party to tell you what kind of process it should be.
As soon as the perspective of looking at the problem changes, some problems are no longer problems. Some emotions dissolve naturally. Everyone in the workplace is connected by work, and giving up the idea of making friends in the workplace will be much less troublesome.
2. Learn to take the initiative to grow
Growth is a kind of thinking.
Some people work for many years, do not grow, feel that they are limited by their work, and feel that they can grow by changing to a challenging job.
In fact, people who work passively are the same everywhere they go. What we want to change is not the work, but the way of thinking.
Kazuo Inamori has one in the Twelve Articles of Management: Constantly engaging in creative work.
Tell us to focus on thinking about how to improve work efficiency and quality, rather than being picky about work.
After all, many times we choose to work, not because we like it, but because we have to do it. Since there is no better choice, it is better to sink down and take the current work seriously.
You can innovate by doing any job. Cleaning work we think there is no innovation, many ordinary cleaning aunts, in order to improve work efficiency will make their own gadgets.
We do any project to solve a lot of problems encountered in the process, in order to reap the results. Taking the initiative to think about how to solve problems and summarize how to apply this experience to other work is the process of innovative work, and you can achieve growth.
What we lack is not the opportunity to grow, but the thinking of growth.
3, the workplace must have its own advantages
Any thinking must be implemented in concrete practice to be useful. So we need to bring a growth mindset into the workplace, such as finding ways to refine our professional skills.
I agree with what is said in "Han Xie": "Ability is a person's confidence in the workplace." “
Only with the ability, there is room for choice.
A few days ago, I brushed a Weibo, an 18-level gangster in a Huawei Internet celebrity group, sent his daughter to school at 8 o'clock every morning, left work at 6 o'clock in the evening, read a book with pay on Saturday, and did not answer the phone during non-working hours. I didn't worry about losing my job at all, and I chose Huawei because it was close to my child's school.
We all know that the Internet company 996 is the norm, and the reason why this big guy can be so dashing is because people have excellent professional ability. The product line encountered a tricky problem, the people in the department had not solved it for 2 days, and the big guy solved it in 2 hours.
Strong professional skills are our confidence.
Of course, strong professional skills are not developed overnight. So from this moment on, continue to learn and update the knowledge of your own professional field, through continuous practice, summary, and build your own advantages.
Only then do you have the courage to refuse what you want to refuse and choose the life you want to live.
"Implications" makes us respect the common sense and logic of the workplace. Find your place in the workplace ecosystem and respond to work with a positive mental outlook.
There are many things in the workplace that we can't decide, but we can improve our skills, improve our cognition, and make ourselves valuable.