Why do you always become the "prey" of scumbags, and why are you always injured by scumbags? Why do you always pick up men in the trash?
The reason you can't fall in love well is that you use student thinking, so your love road is bumpy.
These top 10 common mistakes, which ones have you won?
1. The hole card is lit at the beginning
At the beginning, I used a large paragraph of text on WeChat QQ to describe and express myself: I don't want to be hurt too much in my relationship, I have a lot of problems, you have to tolerate me.
The subtext is: I have been so honest with each other, boys should accept me, tolerate me, and love me.
You think you've done a good job of communicating in writing, writing clearly and plainly in black and white.
Your other half should have the spirit of contract, and since you love me, you must love Wu and Wu and tolerate me.
You are willing to be with me, the subtext is that you accept my request, then it is the other party's problem.
And when we show our hole cards too early, it is easy for the other party to lose the freshness and desire to explore, and even more will feel that you are good at grasping and hurting you more wantonly.
2. Trust is easily trusted
Too lack of understanding of the dark side of human nature, always think of others as the same as their own little white rabbit, meet the person you like completely trust each other, never ask yourself a question: "He betrayed your trust, do you have the ability to punish him?" ”
What if you are deceived? The most common is the deception!
"What is he with me for?" Does he want a life partner, emotional sustenance, career support or just need to get married? ”
Understand the other party's motives and purposes, and then know how to hold the other party.
In every relationship of trust, there is a risk of betraying trust with the pistol in the back.
"What he will lose, whether he dares to lose or not, only if the conditions are equal, can they trust each other."
Otherwise the other party will not lose anything, he also gets what he wants, pat his ass and he will leave, what will your trust get in return?
3. Accept the Disclaimer Agreement
Good girls are often confused by the "disclaimer", thinking that this is the honest meeting of two adults, but they can't see through this is the most standard routine of scumbags.
A good relationship should be maintained by two people together, and what to say at the beginning: "I don't know what we will develop, let's just let it go, I don't know how long love can last, we cherish every day." 」 ”
Who can put this disclaimer on the lips: temporarily everywhere/leave a way back
How humble would you be to accept men who didn't want to be in charge in the first place? You are full of love brains here, but others have already secretly pronounced the death of this relationship, set the length of love, and even the reasons for breaking up and the lines have long been familiar, but you are single-mindedly trying to stay with him.
4. Tests test human nature
Have you ever done something like this: buy a trumpet on Taobao to talk to your boyfriend, and want to test your boyfriend's loyalty to yourself.
You think that a quality boyfriend should sit still and not accept the "teasing" of the wild bee wave butterfly.
But the truth is that many men can't resist the hook-up of strange women, and they can't hold on to men's humanity
In fact, Taobao S measures more IQ, and daily life is a better test platform:
It is not to see how the other party is good to you, because being good to you in love is something that makes him feel happy, he is not for you, he is for himself to be good to you, so being good to you does not explain any problem.
What you have to observe is whether he is willing to take the initiative to make changes for your benefit in terms of what he is not 100% willing to do. Observing in his inconvenient places can better illustrate his love for you.
5. Don't want money just love
Good girls like to use the phrase "no money just love" to distinguish between gold worshippers, you think that your requirements for boys are low, but in fact, "no money just love" is a super high requirement, because you want a high concentration of "emotional pleasure", and the provision of this emotional pleasure must also be long-term effective, it seems that you do not have any utilitarian heart in your feelings, but what you pursue is the most difficult - the constancy of the human heart.
In the marriage market, you can't fight those girls who are good at marrying, please don't complain, because you choose a more difficult game.
Ordinary men have more material pressure than women, they need to spend most of their time and energy on their livelihood, it is impossible to think about how to make their girlfriends happy every day.
Why can't we generously accept men's material efforts and understand the lack of emotional sensitivity of a person who tolerates a little? In the relationship, you are the dominant person in the emotional value of love, isn't that good?
6. The heart is not hard, the mouth is very hard
Experienced women know the trick of "mouth sweetheart hard".
Whether they like or don't like boys, always sweet, soft communication, will not say heavy words, but they are clear in their hearts, which man is suitable for themselves, which boy is an embroidered pillow.
It seems that they and all the boys are mixed, but in fact they are difficult to catch up with, even if they accidentally cross people, they will break up quickly, never too entangled.
Silly girl, on the other hand, the mouth can be hard "men are garbage, sister does not want men as long as money", in fact, the heart is very much in need of love, as soon as it encounters a little romance and care, immediately invested, regardless of the other party's character values, he began to act qiong yao drama,
Suggestion: Be sure to do it in your heart first, and then say the harsh words, don't do that kind of thing that threatens to break up, and then the boyfriend agrees, he is dumbfounded, and then starts desperately trying to save it, so it is very cheap!
7. One-sided understanding of independence
Is it an independent woman who can support herself?
True independence is spiritual independence, and it doesn't matter whether it depends on men or not.
Others casually send a text message, you fawn randomly bumped, encountered a little bit of want to indulge, want to refuse to return the little trick, you add drama to yourself, you talk to me about independence?
This kind of pseudo-independence will also be cheated by men in the future because of the love brain.
True independence is that after the self is strong, an objective evaluation and affirmation of oneself is formed, and the self-perception is complete and sound.
For example, Faye Wong does not need others to affirm, nor is it affected by the outside world, and her self-perception is incomplete, so she must rely on outsiders.
Some people love it, and they feel that life is good and moist, and the world has turned pink. When someone leaves, they feel finished.
Your whole heart and whole emotions are in the hands of others, and a 100-carat diamond-set puppet can't say that she is an independent woman.
8. Pretend to be free and open
It is often women with European and American study abroad experience who will commit crimes, obviously there is no love experience and eager to care for women, but they want to use the common image of the big heroine in American dramas to disguise themselves: don't promise, as long as HAPPY, we work together HAPPY FUN.
You put on this posture, and of course you attract a whole bunch of men who flock to you because they don't have to be responsible.
Because they can only see your orgasmic expression, the soul can't see it!
If you question how the men around you are so low, people will also reply: "SORRY, don't be so serious, we are happy"
I was most annoyed that the woman said to me, "I don't suffer anyway, I also slept." "These are all self-consolation, and the really free female players will not say such things at all, and people are busy showing you the handsome guy abs photos stored in her mobile phone."
Even if we just want to be in love and don't want to get married, we have to try to attract high-profile boys as much as possible, don't we?
9. Do not understand moderate dependence
Well-behaved girls have been taught since childhood: "Do your own thing well." ”
Being able to complete their own tasks well, and then it is particularly easy to find small flaws in the completion of tasks by others, watching objects do various things, uncomfortable to feel inefficient, it is better to come by yourself.
After all the arrangements, I found out how I became my ideal man!
So we have to lament: "Women are much better than men, how can men be so unreliable!" ”
This is the standard student thinking - everything is used to using standard answers, this is that that is not done right, how to do how to do it, completely without considering the factors of the middle.
10. Love does not distinguish between right and wrong
The probability of a good student is relatively large, as long as the other party says the word "loved", the great grievances and injuries can be swallowed.
Why!!! Can you do whatever you want in the name of love? Can you cheat others out of money in the name of love? Can you hurt someone else's body in the name of love?
We should retaliate for tit-for-tat!!!!!!
Sisters, have you learned?
Be sure to avoid these 10 minefields and be the "big heroine" of your own life!