The other day I saw a news:
A woman in Guangdong, originally a restaurant owner, gave up her job and became a full-time housewife in order to better take care of her children after marriage.
However, less than four years after marriage, she and her husband often had conflicts over trivial matters, and eventually came to the point of divorce.
In the end, she received [10,000 yuan] of housework compensation paid by the man.
Let me do the math:
Ten thousand in four years, two thousand and five thousand a year.
Doing housework is no better than part-time work, and even the black-hearted boss has to give employees a day off a week, and doing housework is 365 days a year.
So the woman did housework for four years and her daily salary was:
10,000 ÷ (4×365) ≈ 6.84 yuan
Earn six yuan and eight cents a day, and the work is cleaning + childcare + cook + storage and tidying up to do housework in one of the multi-functional nannies.
There was no other meaning, just to ask where such a nanny was looking, and I wanted one too.
Although my income is not high, I can still afford to pay six yuan and eight cents a day.
The point is that this nanny can help me with a lot of housework and cook, which is worth it.
Many things do not fall on their heads, and some people feel that these things are far away from them.
I'll talk about what's going on around me.
My girlfriend Leaf, with a bachelor's degree, worked as an artist designer after graduation.
At the height of her career, she worked at a well-known Internet company in the industry, with a monthly salary of 18,000, a group leader, and a dozen people under her command.
At the height of her career she got married and soon became pregnant and had a baby.
At that time she was faced with a choice:
At that time, it was one or six years, and her monthly salary was more than 10,000, even if it was placed in a first-tier city, it was a good income.
At that time, her husband had just jumped to a small company with only six people.
The owner of the small company was his college classmate, and he promised the original members of the company:
After three years, if the company can get on the right track and grow, all 6 members will be promoted to heads of departments, or even vice presidents.
Probably the meaning of several people starting a business together.
But at that time, the children were not brought, and the parents on both sides had their own affairs and could not help them with the children.
And Ye Zi was also the leader of the group in the company at that time, and her work was relatively busy, and she definitely couldn't find time to take care of the children.
The couple consulted for several days and finally decided:
Ye Zi gave up his job, did his best to do logistics, took children at home, and supported her husband to start a business.
She said a sentence at the time that I remember very clearly:
"I'm still a more traditional woman inside.
When the balance between career and family cannot be complete, I will still choose to sacrifice my career and return to the family to do a good job as a wife and a mother.
I think that's the most important thing in my life. ”
At that time, everyone advised her not to be stupid:
Large companies, with a monthly salary of 20,000, have achieved the level of group leader, the next step is the head of the department, just give up?
It was useless for others to persuade them, and people happily resigned and went home to take the baby.
And she firmly believes that her husband is different from others, will not be rich and bad, she feels that the friends who persuade her not to give up her job are sour, she is jealous that she has a happy family.
Later, her husband did have a successful career, and the company got on the right track and became the vice president of the company.
Vice president, daily rationale, all day business trip, a out is more than ten days, half a month without home.
After Ye Zi quit her job, she devoted herself to cooking at home, taking care of children, and doing housework.
In fact, she used to love to dress up, and after not working, because she didn't need to socialize, she didn't pick herself up.
Watch her circle of friends occasionally send a selfie, sloppy, untrimmed, said mean, 10 years older than her actual age, there are people who believe.
One day she was surfing the Internet and saw a young girl complaining:
Apply for the position of assistant manager, and the other party hinted that one of the assistant's job content is to sleep with?
She also sent it to the small group of our girlfriends and said: Now that it is really the world's trend, what demons and ghosts are recruiting online.
As a result, a girlfriend exerted the spirit of Leeuwenhoek, extracted key information from the translucent watermark in the picture, and finally traced it back to Yezi's husband's company.
It turned out that the person who recruited the assistant position and implied that the assistant should sleep with him was Ye Zi's husband.
When an iceberg pries open the tip, the secret comes flooding in like a waterfall.
Ye Zi went to check her husband's call records, card consumption records, etc., and found that he spent days and nights outside, spending countless money on women...
The most basic foundation of marriage - "trust" and "loyalty" are no longer there, and the marriage between the two has finally ended in a dim end.
Then again: why women, no matter how difficult, must be financially independent, because you will not be able to live the day when your palms are up.
Losing the ability to work, derailed from the real society, and putting your entire life on others is an extremely irresponsible act for yourself.
In this economic society, the first intuitive criterion for many people to judge others is to see how much value he can create, and "doing housework" is that few people can truly give respect from the heart, let alone objectively evaluate your efforts.
When you find that your sincerity, dedication, and sacrifice have been wrongly paid, it is too late to regret it.
discuss
As a modern woman, are you willing to sacrifice your career for the sake of your family?
As a housewife, do you regret the choice you once made?
Feel free to share in the comments section.