One
The child is two years old. One day, my head hit the corner of the table, I grew a bag, and I cried.
After a minute or so, I walked over to the table and asked aloud:
"Table, who knocked you in the pain?" Crying so sadly? ”
The child stopped crying, and looked at me with tears in her eyes. I stroked the table and asked:
"Who?" Who hit the table? ”
"Me, Dad, I hit!"
"Oh, you hit it, so don't bow to the table and say I'm sorry!"
With tears in her eyes, she bowed and said, "I'm sorry. ”
Since then, the child has learned responsibility and responsibility!
Two
The child is three years old. Crying for no reason, I asked:
"What's not to like?"
"There is no discomfort."
"Then why cry?"
"Just cry!" Obviously spoiled.
"Well, we have no problem if you want to cry, but it's inappropriate for you to cry here, it will disturb our talking, Daddy finds you a place, you cry alone, cry enough and then call us." 」
After saying that, he shut him in the bathroom: "Knock on the door after crying." ”
2 minutes, the child tapped the door: "Daddy, Daddy, I'm done crying!" ”
"Well, you're done crying? Come out when you're done crying. ”
So far, at the age of 18, he has not yet learned to manipulate and transfer anger.
Three
5 years old. In the evening, the lead walked through the small bridge, and the blue water under the bridge reached the bottom, and the undercurrent was turbulent. He looked up at me:
"Dad, the river is so beautiful, I want to jump down and swim."
I was stunned:
"Well, Daddy jumped with you. But let's go home first and change our clothes. ”
When I got home, I finished changing my clothes and saw a basin of water in front of me, confused.
"Son, you have to bury your face in the water when you swim in the water, you know?" Er nodded.
"So let's practice now and see how long you can bury it." I look at the watch.
"Good!" Bury your face in the water, arrogant? Only 10 seconds:
"Oh, Dad, I choked on the water, it's so uncomfortable."
"Really? Jumping into the river may be more uncomfortable. ”
"Dad, can we not jump?"
"Well, if you don't go, you won't go."
Since then, he has learned to be cautious without being rash and think twice.
Four
6 years old, delicious. One night, after school, I stopped at McDonald's:
"Dad, McDonald's!" Mouth-watering.
"Well, McDonald's! Want to eat? ”
"Want to eat!"
"Son, a man who wants to eat can eat it, call it a bear; if he wants to eat it, he can not eat it, call him a hero."
Then he asked, "Son, are you going to be a hero or a bear?" ”
"Dad, of course I'm going to be a hero!"
"Good! What happens to the hero when he wants to eat McDonald's? ”
"Can you not eat!" Very determined!
"Fantastic, hero! Go home. ”
The child drooled and followed me back.
Since then, the child has learned to do something and not to do something, and can withstand the temptation.
Five
The child is 8 years old, naughty, and fights with his classmates. Scarred, back, crying non-stop.
"Grievances?"
"Grievance!" Son sobbed.
"Anger?"
"Anger!" Howl.
"What are you going to do?" Then ask, "What do you need Daddy to do for you?" ”
"Dad, I'm going to find a brick and hit him from behind tomorrow!"
"Well, I see! Dad prepares bricks for you tomorrow. Continued to ask, "What else?" ”
"Dad, you get me a knife, and I'll stab him in the back tomorrow!"
"Good! This is more relieved, And Dad will go to prepare for it. ”
I went upstairs.
Understanding and support, the child gradually calmed down. In about 20 minutes, I moved a large pile of clothes and quilts from upstairs.
"Son, have you decided?" Is it bricks or knives? ”
"But, Dad, why did you move so many clothes and quilts?" Confused.
"Son, here's it: if you hit him with a brick, then the police will take us away, and if we stay in prison for about a month, we'll bring some short clothes and quilts; if you stab him with a knife, then we won't be able to come back in prison for at least 3 years, and we'll have to bring more clothes and quilts, all seasons?"
"So, son, have you decided?" Dad is willing to support you! ”
"Want this?" I was stunned.
"That's right, the law says so!" I took the opportunity to popularize the law.
"Dad, then we won't do it, shall we?"
"Son, aren't you angry?"
"Hi Dad, I'm not angry anymore, I'm actually at fault too." Er blushed.
"Well, Daddy supports you!"
Since then, the child has learned the choice and the price.
Six
9 years old, fourth grade, failed math, sullen.
"What's wrong? Failed the exam and gave us a face. ”
"Because the math teacher is very annoying, her class does not like to listen." Confidently.
"Oh, what a nasty law?" I'm interested.
"...." Er said a lot, "Anyway, she doesn't like me either." ”
"Oh, if someone likes you, you like her; if someone doesn't like you, you hate her." Does this mean that you are an active person or a passive person? ”
"It's a passive person!" The son answered.
"Is it the strong, or the weak?" Is it an adult, or a villain? Keep asking.
"It's the weak, it's the villain!" Timid.
"Then do you want to be an adult, or a villain?"
"Be an adult! Dad, I know: whether the teacher likes me or not, I can like her, respect her, take the initiative to influence her, and be a strong person. ”
The next day, I had fun going to school and excelled in mathematics. And know what is an adult and what a villain is.
Seven
10 years old, play games. The wife has taught many times, and the son has not changed.
"Son, I heard you play this every day?" I pointed to the computer.
"Hmm." Admit it, bow your head!
"How do you feel after every play?"
"Dazed, empty, bored, self-blamed, looking down on yourself?"
"Then why play?" Can't hold on to yourself, can you? ”
"Yes, Dad." I was helpless.
"Good! Dad helps you! I moved in the computer and gave my son a small hammer, "Son, smash it!" ”
"Daddy!" Stunned!
"Smash it, Dad can have no computer, but he can't live without his son!"
I burst into tears and smashed the computer with my own hands!
Since then, I have learned what principles are!
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