On a very ordinary day in 2004, her ex-husband Zou Wei said to her:
"Yan Ni, let's get a divorce"
When she heard her ex-husband calmly say this, she was stunned.
After her ex-husband turned to leave, she hid in the room alone and cried.
During that time, she was filming the sitcom "The Legend of Wulin".
In front of the camera, she did everything in her power to make everyone happy,
Behind the camera, she hid in the house alone and cried.
When the director Shang Jing went to see her in the house, he said:
"I can't sleep, so I'll eat something stable"
It's hard to imagine how Yan Ni survived that time.
She was tepid before the divorce, but after the divorce, she became popular.
Even her ex-husband's parents said, "Divorce Yan Ni, you lost a treasure!" ”
What kind of story happened to Yan Ni, who was "a late bloomer"?
01
Yan Ni was born in 1971 in Xi'an, Shaanxi Province.
Both parents are workers, and family conditions are generally sufficient to feed themselves.
She is the youngest child in the family and a girl, so she is loved by her parents.
Confused since childhood, he often lost everything and could not find the north.
Not only is she lively and smiley, she is also interested in acting.
When she was a child, Yan Ni liked to imitate the adult speech on TV.
Often make the family giggle.
At the age of 15, Yan Ni moved to a place close to the Xi'an Film Studio.
In the middle school she attended, many of her classmates' parents were film studios.
Yan Ni has always been influenced by the artistic atmosphere around her,
This subtle influence had a great impact on her.
But at that time, Yan Ni had no talent, her appearance was not outstanding, and she was dark and thin.
Although she likes literature and art, she did not think that she would one day become an actress.
Yan Ni embarked on the road of acting, thanks to her good girlfriend Su Shuang.
Su Shuang suggested that the lively Yan Ni apply for film school, but Yan Ni was a little unconfident: "Me? Do I look like this? ”
Su Shuang said: "You are so bold, you dare to say anything and never fear the stage, why can't you?" ”
In order to help her sisters, Su Shuang also asked her parents' colleagues in the film studio to tutor Yan Ni.
Unsurprisingly, I failed the third attempt,
This is already a good result for Yan Ni, who has no acting experience.
Parents did not support their daughters to learn acting,
I hope my daughter can find a stable job, the wind can't blow or rain,
Under their strong will, Yan Ni chose Shaanxi University of Finance and Economics.
Perhaps fate doomed Yan Ni to be an actress, and had no luck with "white-collar workers",
In less than two years, Yan Ni's opportunity came.
In 1990, a drama troupe of Lanzhou Military Region came to Xi'an to enroll.
Yan Ni signed up for the first time after learning about it.
Parents no longer object this time, the daughter really does not have the brain to learn finance,
It is better to let her develop into performance according to her own wishes.
Yan Ni successfully entered the selection with her previous experience in film school
Became a literary soldier.
After spending more than two years in the Lanzhou Repertory Theatre, he entered the Air Politics Repertory Theatre.
Everything did not go as Yan Ni wished, in the drama troupe she is a little transparent,
Basically, they are all running dragon sets, and they are matched by other actors.
Yan Ni did not give up acting because she could not receive a good role,
Even for characters who don't have lines, she will carefully speculate on the characters.
Even so, Yan Ni still did not have the opportunity to show her skills,
After all, at that time, she was still confused and lost things all day,
24 hours a day, she spends a lot of time looking for something.
There was even a time when the host was on the stage to report the curtain,
Yan Ni on the stage didn't even know where the costume had been lost.
How can the leaders of the regiment trust the protagonist to this "little confused"?
Looking at Niu Li, Yin Tao and others in the group, one by one bloomed on the stage
And she can only run the dragon set in the drama troupe for 6 years.
Frustrated in the career field, always be proud on the love field.
Parents began to introduce Yan Ni to the blind date,
It is also good to think that my daughter will start a family as soon as possible.
02
Through the introduction of the matchmaker, Yan Ni met Zou Wei, who worked in public security.
In that era, as long as you don't get tired of looking at each other, this thing is very likely to be achieved.
After the two met, they gradually developed into lovers,
Soon after, he entered the palace of marriage.
Even at the wedding, Yan Ni was still confused.
On the wedding day, the groom, parents of both sides, relatives and friends all arrived at the scene.
Only she was on her way to the hotel.
After rushing to the scene, he hurriedly asked his friends to help put on his makeup.
Yan Ni's father spoke on the stage for half an hour before he saw his daughter's figure.
In the second year after marriage, their daughter was born on New Year's Day,
So the two named their daughter "Zou Yuanqing" and nicknamed "Yuan Yuan".
What her husband did not expect was that Yan Ni, who had just been out of confinement, wanted to go out to work.
More than once, the husband expressed the hope that she would be able to take care of her daughter at home.
But in the face of his wife who loves acting so much, he can only try to understand.
When his wife is working hard outside, he is responsible for taking care of his daughter.
But he also had his own job, and then Yan Ni's in-laws stood up,
Let the two children work with peace of mind, and the baby will be taken care of by them.
In 1999, Yan Ni learned that the troupe was going to shoot the movie "Rooster Crows, Hen Lays Eggs".
Yan Ni tried her best to win this opportunity for herself, and she hoped to play the "female village chief" in the play.
After hearing Yan Ni's understanding of this role, the leader of the group decided to play her.
This is also Yan Ni's debut work into the film and television circle.
The film was nominated for awards such as the Golden Rooster Award,
Although Yan Ni was not a hit, she finally made a difference in her career.
Senior Guo Da often takes her to perform some skits and take on business performances.
Not only that, director Shang Jing discovered Yan Ni's comedic talent in this movie,
She was invited to guest appear in the popular drama "The Story of the Cooking Class" in those years.
Hao Yaning, chairman of Beijing Alliance Pictures, was very interested after seeing "The Story of the Cooking Class".
So I wanted to find Shang Jing to shoot another sitcom.
Shang Jing pulled in the screenwriter Ning Caishen and prepared to shoot "Health Express" based on Hao Zong.
Originally, Yao Chen was set to be the heroine, but she was in the "Urban Men and Women" crew at the time.
Shang Jing could only look for other candidates.
He first thought of Yan Ni, who had worked with him, so he asked her, "What are you busy with now?" ”
Yan Ni replied, "Nothing is busy."
Shang Jing heard it and immediately pulled Yan Ni: "Follow me to shoot a scene."
Hearing that she could play the main role this time, Yan Ni agreed without even reading the script.
So in 2003, Yan Ni cooperated with director Shang Jing again and starred in "Health Express".
Successive works still failed to let Yan Ni open up fame and market.
But she still did not give up any opportunity, rushing around the country to audition,
Enjoy such a life.
Just as she waited for the opportunity to rise in her career, her marriage with her husband was about to be broken.
03
In 2004, director Shang Jing invited Yan Ni to shoot the sitcom "The Tale of Wulin".
Just when she was full of joy, her husband and Tuanli poured cold water on Yan Ni.
The husband hopes that Yan Ni can focus on the family, but she is a strong woman in her career.
Yan Ni knew how precious this opportunity was, and she was unwilling to give up.
There are tasks in the group, and Yan Ni is not allowed to go out to shoot,
Or did she use a skit party to exchange for the shooting schedule.
Yan Ni used to be unable to go home because of filming, and the two rarely communicated on the phone.
The days of gathering less and more have caused a rift in the couple's feelings.
The relationship between the two became increasingly awkward, and there was little communication at home.
A very ordinary day,
Yan Ni finished the day's shooting and went home in the kitchen to prepare to cook for her husband.
Zou Wei said very calmly in the living room:
"Yan Ni, let's get a divorce"
Yan Ni couldn't hear what Zou Wei said in the kitchen, and naturally replied:
"Wait a minute, the meal will be ready soon"
At this time, Zou Wei got up and went to the kitchen and said to her:
"I said, let's get a divorce."
Yan Ni was directly stunned in place, unable to say a word,
The husband's divorce was mentioned too suddenly.
Zou Wei seemed to have thought it through, and he went on very sensibly:
"The money, the house, the car and the children all belong to you, and I am out of the house."
Yan Ni didn't speak at this time, and she didn't even say a word.
She brought out the dishes and hid in the bedroom alone and cried loudly.
Not keeping does not mean that she is really willing to give up this marriage,
It's just that she knows too much to owe her husband and children.
Yan Ni knows that her husband is a person who says one thing and the same thing,
Since he had made up his mind, even if he wanted to save it, he was powerless to return to heaven.
Two people who love their work equally will obviously not give in to each other.
The contradictions between them cannot be reconciled, and the marriage has come to an end.
When the in-laws learned that their son was going to divorce Yan Ni, they rushed over.
The mother-in-law has always loved Yan Ni, and she is also very filial to the two old people.
The mother-in-law scolded her son angrily:
"What's not to like?" Divorce Yan Ni, you are losing a treasure! ”
No matter what his in-laws said, Zou Wei was determined to divorce.
Yan Ni hurriedly dissuaded her mother-in-law and said, "It's okay Mom, even if we are divorced, we are still a family, and Zou Wei and I are still good friends." ”
After receiving the divorce certificate, Yan Ni went back to her ex-husband Zou Wei's house to clean up her and her daughter's things.
The mother-in-law took her hand and left tears in her eyes: "Child, you must take care of yourself." ”
Yan Ni's eyes also slipped a tear, she knew that the "ex-in-laws" were really good to her.
After the divorce, Yan Ni needed to immediately enter the group to shoot "The Legend of Wulin",
It is possible that you will not be able to return home for a month.
Daughter Zou Yuanqing very sensibly proposed that she want to go to her grandparents' house.
Yan Ni agreed to her daughter's request and called the child's grandmother,
The mother-in-law told her to fight for her career despite the peace of mind, and the child had their second elderly care.
Misfortune is not alone, Yan Ni's front foot just divorced her ex-husband,
Later, I received a "discharge notice" from the regiment.
The group watched Yan Ni act for so many years, and she did not have a future,
So I decided to let Yan Ni leave.
But the group will soon regret making this decision.
04
After Yan Ni entered the group, she was never able to enter the state of "Tong Xiangyu".
It's a sitcom.
And Yan Ni is still immersed in the divorce and discharge from her husband.
She endured sadness during the day to perform comedy, laughing desperately at the camera,
At night, I could only hide myself in the quilt and cry.
The crew knew what had happened to her, and director Shang Jing said that she was ten years older.
This is a big mental blow for Yan Ni, and it is also a very difficult process.
Yan Ni can only adjust herself as soon as possible, coupled with the encouragement of the crew,
Yan Ni's state also gradually recovered.
In order to make the role of "Tong Xiangyu" more full,
Yan Ni and the entire crew struggled to think about it.
She proposed that she was from Shaanxi, and perhaps using Shaanxi dialect to interpret it more realistically.
As soon as "The Tale of Wulin" was broadcast, it was all over the streets.
To this day, many people are still chasing over and over again,
The "Tong Treasurer" played by Yan Ni has also become a classic role in her acting career.
Everyone only knows that she is a late bloomer,
But no one knows that behind the success of his career, he hitched a ride on his originally happy family.
As soon as the shooting was over, she went to see her daughter and in-laws with large bags of gifts.
Yan Ni also gave a large amount of money to her in-laws, afraid that they would use the name of their daughters if they did not accept it.
The mother-in-law kept saying, "How can you use so many children?" ”
Yan Ni could only say, "The rest is my filial piety to you, and you must also take care of your own body, so that I can be more at ease." ”
Yan Ni tried to fill her life to the fullest, but work could not cure the pain in her heart.
In front of the camera, she did her best to interpret her role,
Behind the camera, she is always alone in tears, reflecting on the failed marriage.
Yan Ni said in an interview:
"I ran for more than ten years, my career was tepid, because my career also lost my marriage, I felt that I was a failure, and I once wanted to give up." But when I thought of my child, I decided to grit my teeth and insist. ”
Every time Yan Ni went to see her in-laws and daughter, the old couple would make a home-cooked table for her.
My mother-in-law often said, "If we don't go out to eat, we will eat the food made by our family when we come home." ”
Yan Ni's heart can always be warmed by her mother-in-law,
Despite years of divorce, she has always treated her in-laws as her biological parents.
For so many years, I have also called them "Mommy and Daddy".
Once, Yan Ni came to the house for dinner,
The mother-in-law suddenly called her into the bedroom alone, took her hand and quietly asked: "Tell the truth to your mother, is there any possibility that you two will remarry?" ”
Yan Ni understood that she and Zou Wei were no longer possible.
But maybe it's to make the old man uncomfortable, or maybe there's still a glimmer of hope in her.
She said hesitantly, "Mom, I'll talk about it later, I don't know." ”
But one thing happened not long ago,
Completely shattered the old man's hopes and Yan Ni's little thoughts.
05
In 2010, Zou Wei met the person he liked,
When Zou Wei took his girlfriend home, the second elder knew that the two people were hopelessly reunited.
The mother-in-law regretted that her son and Yan Ni could not get back together, and hugged Yan Ni and said, "If you can't be a daughter-in-law, then be my daughter, and you will be our daughter in the future!" ”
Yan Ni cried and said, "I have always regarded you as my relatives, always been, and will never change." ”
Yan Ni was as good to them as ever,
I have also been particularly good friends with my ex-husband around.
Yan Ni once said on the show:
"For so many years, we have long been like relatives, never arguing in front of our children."
Yan Ni's career is in the ascendant and she has become a first-line actress in the mainland.
In the eyes of the audience, Yan Ni is very charming, and the directors are also full of praise for her.
But her confusion about this question has not changed in the slightest.
Gao Yalin, the "Xia Donghai" in "Family with Children", once broke the news of the real Yan Ni in life, saying that she was: perennial wandering.
In 2015, the two collaborated on the drama "Ex-Husband Courtship".
On the way to the press conference, Yan Ni's question confused Gao Yalin:
"Ya Lin, what kind of drama are we acting in?" What am I acting for? What are you acting for? ”
The famous film emperor Zhang Yi also broke the news about the interesting things about yan Ni's life in the crew.
Yan Ni was all kinds of lost, forgetful, and couldn't even remember what people looked like.
Fortunately, she will not be confused on the right thing.
As soon as Yan Ni enters the filming state, it is like changing a person.
Every day I read the lines in my mouth, and I never make a mistake in the process of filming.
Yan Ni is usually only busy with work, and her own lifelong events have never been settled.
Every time I see Yan Ni, my mother-in-law is busy "urging marriage",
Yan Ni said that she longed for love, but she would not settle down.
After her daughter Zou Yuanqing grew up, she had the idea of studying abroad.
Yan Ni and the elders in the family have decided to respect the child's opinion.
Even if her daughter does not live in her grandparents' house, Yan Ni will still visit the elderly often.
Grandma Yuanyuan said: "Now that the child is no longer here, you are so busy that you don't have to run back and forth all the time." ”
Yan Ni said, "Yuan Yuan is not here to see you, I came to see you and my father." ”
In 2016, Zou Yuanqing was admitted to the Central Academy of Drama, and the family gathered to celebrate her.
At the banquet, Yan Ni excitedly raised her wine glass to salute her former in-laws:
"Mommy and Daddy, I want to thank you, without you there would be no Yuan Yuan today, it is you who educated her so well."
The in-laws also raised their glasses:
"Child, after so many years you are like our own daughter, the family said what to thank you"
When everyone's wine glasses collide together, full of affection will overflow.
In 2021, the figure of Zou Yuanqing, the daughter of Ni, also appeared in the breakout of the popular drama.
Before that, Yan Ni had also taken her daughter to make many movies together.
Her daughter is also worried about her life's events, sometimes asking:
"Oh, Mom, are you lonely?"
Yan Ni, who loves to joke, said to her daughter:
"Rest assured, the fortune teller said, I have a companion when I am old."
Over the years, Yan Ni's face has always been smiling,
Judging by her state, she has completely walked out of the last failed marriage.
Now she has been able to face everything in front of her optimistically.
Yan Ni also talked about boyfriends who are much younger than herself,
When questioned that "old cows eat tender grass", Yan Ni admitted frankly:
"Although I am getting older, my girlish heart has never changed."
Yes, she has always been incredibly brave on the road to growing up, and she also longs for beautiful love.
Looking back at Yan Ni's last marriage, luck and misfortune coexist.
At one point, she couldn't walk out of the shock, and it looked like she was ten years old.
But it was also that marriage that gave her a lovely daughter.
He also became a family with his ex-in-laws.
In the eyes of friends and audiences, Yan Ni is a full-fledged "big confused",
But I don't know that she is the most sober one.
With a sincere heart, she reunited the original chicken and dog family,
Although it is no longer a nominal family, it is better than a relative.
She warms the old man with her love, and this special affection is enviable.