In 1999, Ding Jiali, a 40-year-old actress, faced the sudden confession of Sun Honglei, a young actor who was 11 years younger than her.
She said: "Not only have I been divorced twice, I have had an abortion, but I also have a child, can you really accept it?" ”
After Sun Honglei repeatedly promised to accept it, Ding Jiali agreed to his pursuit.
After the two were together, Ding Jiali did not hesitate to use her own resources and contacts to support her boyfriend Sun Honglei, and even knelt twice for each other!
The result? Sun Honglei immediately left her after becoming popular, and turned around to find a little wife who was 15 years younger than himself, and now she is living a loving and happy life.
On the other hand, Ding Jiali is not only emotionally frustrated, but also has always felt guilty about her daughter who has only seen her twice in 15 years...
Ding Jiali is a native of Jiamusi, Heilongjiang, born in a remote village, due to the local feudal ideology of preferring sons to daughters,
Coupled with the fact that she was born with a skin disease, her parents gave her to a couple who acted in the drama for adoption within a few days.
Compared with the abandonment of her biological parents, her adoptive parents have always loved this special daughter and treated her as their own daughter since childhood.
The grandparents of her adoptive parents are also very kind to her granddaughter, so in this special family, Ding Jiali feels the warmth that a normal family should have.
Because her adoptive parents are all drama critics, her grandparents also like to sing, and Ding Jiali, who grew up slowly, also liked art.
Once, when her grandfather saw her learning to sing by herself, he said to her, "Li'er, you must work hard, you must be a good actor in the future." ”
Originally, her adoptive parents did not intend to let her go down this road, after all, they knew that the road of acting was not easy.
For this reason, her adoptive mother often scolded her: "I am doing this line of work, not to provide for the elderly, not to raise a small child, you have to do this all day, there is no work at all!" ”
No matter how much her adoptive parents persuaded her, Ding Jiali was determined to learn, and with the support of her grandparents, her adoptive parents finally had to agree to let her learn drama.
Since agreeing to let this daughter learn drama, her adoptive parents have also been working hard to teach her the foundation of acting, laying a solid foundation for her.
After graduating from middle school, in order to go further on the road of acting, Ding Jiali applied for the Shanghai Theater Academy and studied in the Acting Department.
She worked hard during the school period, has been carefully learning the knowledge taught by the teacher, in order to let her heart sink down, not affected by the impetuous circle, she rarely filmed during college.
Instead, she first harvested her love and came together with her first love boyfriend.
Her first love boyfriend is her college classmate, and the two often study together, and as they spend more and more time together, they come together.
But what she did not expect was that because young people did not understand the importance of protective measures, in the process of getting along, she unexpectedly became pregnant.
She was in love at the time, and happily said to her boyfriend: "Tell you the good news, I am pregnant with our child, will you marry me?" ”
She thought she would get a positive answer, but what she waited for was a sentence from the other party: "You destroyed my fantasy of love and the best time of my life." ”
In this way, her first love boyfriend decisively left her.
Ding Jiali, who did not dare to tell her family, finally secretly found a classmate to borrow money to go to the hospital to remove the child and performed the first abortion operation.
I thought it was the worst memory on her emotional road, but it turned out that this was just the beginning.
After graduating from university, Ding Jiali was assigned to work in the Chinese Drama Theatre, and for the next few years, she was active on the stage of drama until 1986, when she officially entered the development of show business.
This year, she participated in the first film and television work in her life, "The First Woman in the Mountain Forest", playing the role of "Hercules".
Interpreting this role particularly well, she not only won the love of the audience, but also won the Golden Rooster Award for Best Supporting Actress that year.
But compared to winning the award, she is happier than the emotional gain.
When filming the work "The First Woman in the Mountain Forest", she met her first husband, Hu Guangchuan, who had starred in works such as "He Chose murder" and "Spring Return to the Red Chamber".
When the two met, they did not have any popularity and popularity with each other, relying on a young person's enthusiasm for love, they talked very speculatively, and they came together before the end of cooperation.
After the filming of this work, Ding Jiali, who fell into love and could not extricate herself, decisively chose to marry the other party.
Ding Jiali, who thought that she had gained happiness, found out after marriage that the other party's personality after marriage and before marriage were completely like a changed person, not only disregarding the family, but also not good for her.
Ding Jiali, who is trapped by love again, in order to escape the cruel truth, she chooses to go outside to find comfort for others.
It is precisely because of this decision that she did something that made her feel hurtful shortly after marriage, she got along with others behind her husband's back, and later she exposed the news in front of the media.
And this is not the most explosive, soon after the infidelity, she also accidentally found out that she was pregnant with the other party's child, in order not to destroy the marriage with her husband, she later went to secretly beat up the child herself.
After this lesson, she put her mind back into the family and soon became pregnant with her husband's child, her only daughter, Hulina, nicknamed Duoduo.
After the birth of her daughter, Ding Jiali completely returned to the family, but she did not expect that not long after the birth of her daughter, her husband unexpectedly learned the news of her previous cheating and abortion, and finally when her daughter was just full moon, her husband resolutely took her daughter away from her.
After divorcing her husband, she may have been afraid that her marital experience and the presence of her daughter would affect her career and life, and she has not announced the news to the public.
Soon after, she also met her second husband, her second husband was a university lecturer, and they fell in love at first sight, and they also entered the palace of marriage not long after they met.
Unfortunately, Ding Jiali's marriage is very similar to the first one, the same year gave birth to her husband's child, is a son, nicknamed Guoguo, and as a result, when the child was just full moon, she divorced again.
The difference is that the reason for this divorce is not in Ding Jiali's body, but in her husband, who, like before her, cheated in marriage.
I don't know if it is the reason for experiencing two failed marriages in just 5 years, after the divorce again, Ding Jiali is no longer as obsessed with pursuing her feelings as before, but has put all her thoughts on the son and career that depends on her.
Unlike her previous daughter Hulina, who grew up, she cried in the show "I Am Not a Star": "My mother is very strange to me, and I and my mother have only met twice in the past fifteen years." ”
Ding Jiali, who does not care about her daughter, treats her son differently, and after she divorced again, she has been taking good care of her son, especially in his education, and has not let him fall behind.
At that time, the development was not particularly good, in order to let her son go to a good school, she also once put down her pride and dignity, to others on their knees to intercede, her son later participated in the program with her and said bluntly: "This is the most touching thing my mother has ever done to me." ”
In her career, she turned the grief brought by marriage into motivation, and brought many works in succession.
From 1991's "New Year's Day" to 1993's "Nobody Applause", as well as the "Story of Xiaofang", "The Story of Late Autumn in Beijing", "Red Hair Card" and other works brought in the following years, it is also very good.
She has good acting skills, not only with these works to become a popular actor, but also won many major film and television awards.
She has been working hard in her acting career until 1999, after 9 years of divorce, that she finally harvested love again.
This year, she and sun Honglei, an actor 11 years younger than her, collaborated on the drama "Mr. and Mrs. Curie".
At that time, although Sun Honglei had already gained a firm foothold in the show business circle, compared to her, neither popularity nor popularity could be compared.
They rehearse dramas together every day, and like many star couples who have feelings for drama, they have been in love for a long time and come together.
At first, Ding Jiali was distrustful of the relationship, after all, she had not only been divorced twice, but also had a child and had an abortion.
But in the face of this man's repeated confessions, as well as repeated assurances, she was touched by the fact that she had not had a love life for a long time, and she agreed to his pursuit.
After the two were together, because Ding Jiali's career development was much better than Sun Honglei's, she began to use her own resources to praise him.
It is said that once because Sun Honglei was not famous enough to support the scene, Ding Jiali did not hesitate to kneel in front of the director in order to get the opportunity to let her boyfriend play, which gave Sun Honglei a chance.
With the efforts of Ding Jiali, her boyfriend has been with her for less than two years, and she has become a first-line actor.
With works such as "My Father and Mother" and "Like Fog Like Rain and Like Wind", his popularity once overshadowed Ding Jiali.
Seeing that her boyfriend has developed so well, Ding Jiali is also sincerely happy for him, but unfortunately she has not been happy for too long, and she waited for Sun Honglei's breakup.
In 2002, when Sun Honglei was filming "Zhou Yu's Train", he met Gong Li, a popular actress at that time, and the two subsequently spread a scandal.
Although Neither Sun Honglei nor Gong Li admitted their love affair, not long after they met Gong Li, Sun Honglei decisively left his girlfriend Ding Jiali, who had been in love for three years.
When breaking up, Ding Jiali once pleaded bitterly, but no matter how she persuaded, what was waiting for sun Honglei turned around and left...
After separating from Sun Honglei, Ding Jiali has not been exposed by the media for so many years, and many people think that she has not launched a new relationship, but it is not.
As she got older, she probably looked more openly at emotional matters, and once she exposed her emotional life in front of the media camera.
She said bluntly that she had not only cheated in marriage, but had even had 4 abortions, and we don't know when the other two were.
Probably because she really experienced too many setbacks emotionally, so that she later lost her vision of love, so she never started a new relationship.
Now 62 years old and still alone, she is no longer the woman who can give everything for her feelings.
According to media reports, she now lives at home every day eating and praying to the Buddha, and she rarely asks about other things except for things related to her son Tintin.
Although she is still developing in the show business circle, judging from her development status in recent years, she has not starred in many works.
Especially this year, it's already April, and she still has no new works online.
Perhaps, in addition to losing her previous enthusiasm for love, she has also looked down on the development of her career, what do you think?