For marriage and love, people's greatest wish is that "lovers will eventually become dependents", the fairy couples in novels and film and television dramas are sought after by people, and the sweet couples encountered in real life are also envied.
One of the most important things in a person's life is to have an ideal marriage, although not as vigorous as the text screen, but also enough to make people happy for a lifetime.
But things don't all go so smoothly, and many people drift for half their lives and end up finding a partner who isn't exactly like them to marry.
To ask why the parties choose to be on their own life events, can only lament that there are too many involvements and compromises behind them, life is not smooth, and it is a stopgap measure to become stable by compromise.
Shan Tianfang
Shan Tianfang is the "book review brother" in the eyes of everyone, his life is related to the book review, and has been widely sought after by people, his book has as many as 600 million listeners, many people still regard his book review as a necessity of life.
In 2018, the master died of heart failure, looking back on his life, people were surprised to find that Shan Tianfang's life was full of ups and downs, and his marriage aroused people's curiosity.
It turned out that Shan TianFang married a country woman who was 8 years older than him, this woman was called Wang Quangui, she had no culture, and she was incompatible with Shan Tian Fang in all aspects.
When talking about this matter, Shan Tianfang confessed that the reason why he married a woman who was 8 years older than him was just to repay the favor.
After the marriage of the two did not have discord due to the disparity in identity and concept, the marriage between husband and wife was very harmonious, after Wang Quangui's death, Shan Tianfang guarded her like a jade, faced the temptation of the entertainment industry, and did not remarry.
What makes the couple's life so harmonious? When Shan Tianfang said "repaying kindness", whose kindness was he repaying?
A teenager who has been smoothed out by life
Shan Tianfang is an authentic northeasterner, but he was born in Tianjin in 1934, and his mother almost had an accident when she gave birth to him.
Shan Tianfang's parents are opera performers, and his mother, Wang Xianggui, has been famous in the northeast since she was a teenager for her high voice, and is known for singing The Xihe Drum Book, and when she grew up, she performed in Beijing, Tianjin and other places where opera was popular.
During this period, Wang Xianggui and Shan Tianfang's father Shan Yongkui met and fell in love, the two were also opera practitioners, and Shan Yongkui did the work of playing strings for storytellers, which is very similar to the praise in cross-talk, and it is also an indispensable role in a complete performance.
On the day Shan Tianfang was born, Shan Yongkui and his wife were performing on a stage in Tianjin.
At this time, Wang Xianggui was only 18 years old, and when she was performing on stage, she suddenly felt a sharp pain in her abdomen and sweated heavily on her head that did not belong to the performance.
The pain distorted her voice, but Wang Xianggui knew that her mistake could ruin her future, so she endured the pain and still struggled to get her voice back on track.
The husband who was playing the instrument on the side suddenly felt bad when he saw such a situation, and he understood that his wife was already pregnant with Liujia and could rupture the amniotic fluid at any time. While playing the piano, Shan Yongkui prayed in his heart that his wife would not have an accident during the performance.
When the last sentence was sung, the curtain of the stage slowly closed with the applause of the audience. At this time, the audience was slightly noisy due to the end of the curtain, and no one noticed that the moment the curtain was closed, a loud noise came from the stage, which was the sound of Wang Xianggui falling down due to his lack of physical support.
Shan Yongkui immediately found a wooden plank to put his wife on it, and then carried her to a nearby hospital, and after several hours of delivery, a baby's cry resounded through the ward, which was the voice that belonged to Shan Tianfang.
Shan Tianfang was almost born on the stage, so later people felt that he was born with storytelling and had the creation of rapping.
Born in a family of opera, Shan Tianfang grew up following his parents to various theaters, and he often watched his parents perform on stage backstage.
But after he didn't like the performance very much, his parents begged the audience for money in order to make a living, and he thought that even if he earned money by his own efforts, such money was too humble.
Parents also do not want their children to embark on the road of selling art, artists at that time belonged to the low social occupation, coupled with the national situation is unstable, frequent wars, selling art does not make money, so parents let Shan Tianfang read and learn words, hoping that children can gain success and social status through learning.
Shan Tianfang entered a private school at the age of six, he studied very quickly, and because he was accustomed to listening to historical fragments sung by his mother when he was young, Shan Tianfang was able to read through some classic books after two years.
Due to the nature of her parents' work, Shan Tianfang needs to follow her parents to live in many places, so he constantly transfers schools, but Shan Tianfang can get top grades every time.
Shan Tianfang was deeply accomplished in traditional Chinese studies, but his dream was to become a doctor or engineer, and he also read many related books that were still lacking at the time.
But the dust of the national disaster fell on the head of the individual is a mountain, Shan Tianfang's wish was not realized, one day in 1948, Shan Tianfang's family ushered in uninvited guests.
The guest was dressed in gorgeous clothes that did not match the situation at that time, and Shan Yongkui felt as if he had met this friend, but he did not ask much and set up a banquet to entertain him.
Unexpectedly, this scene was discovered by neighbors, and he reported the matter to the local government with bad intentions, and Shan Yongkui was sentenced to six years in prison for it.
His father is the pillar of the family, and his father's imprisonment is undoubtedly a thunderbolt on a sunny day for Shan Tianfang's family. At this time, the social situation is still very serious, and parents are often worried about their livelihood.
Now there is only a 14-year-old Shan Tianfang and a man left in the family, but he is unable to take up the beam, and the family is like a headless fly, and everyone has a sense of despair.
Soon after, his mother was overwhelmed and chose to remarry, and Shan Tianfang had to start learning to be independent and run a family, and the only wish in his heart was to make his sisters grow up and the family wait for his father's return.
Her mother did not completely abandon her former family, and she sent 60 yuan to Shan Tianfang's family every month to help her family live and support Shan Tianfang's studies.
Sudden love
Since then, Shan Tianfang not only has to study hard, but also often relies on odd jobs to subsidize her family.
In 1953, Shan Tianfang received an acceptance letter from the Northeast Institute of Technology.
During this period, a woman has been supporting his dreams and life, this person is Wang Quangui, she is 8 years old, she is 8 years old, also born in the Xiqu family, the two families have been friends before.
After Shan Tianfang's mother left, Wang Quangui came to Shan Tianfang's home to help take care of the elderly and children in the family while he was studying.
Shan Tianfang is not difficult to see what Wang Quangui has done, because he has always had a love for him. But he always felt that the age difference between the two was huge, and the woman was 8 years old, and Wang Quangui did not have much knowledge, and the two could not say together.
Various factors made Shan Tianfang once avoid Wang Quangui's love for him, but Wang Quangui did not give up, she has been accompanying Shan Tianfang's most difficult period, until Shan Tianfang got the school's admission letter, an unexpected occurrence made the relationship between the two change sharply.
Although Shan Tianfang can take the notice to school, but he has been in poor health for many years, he sat up all day, after 3 operations, Shan Tianfang was able to barely report to school.
However, at this time, it has been a long time since the school started, Shan Tianfang cannot keep up with the progress of the school, and he has spent a lot of money on his family for medical treatment, and the remaining money is not enough to support him to complete his studies. In desperation, Shan Tianfang had to choose to give up her studies and return to her hometown to make another living.
In order to maintain her family's livelihood, Shan Tianfang had to give up her dream of becoming a doctor and engineer, pick up a career as a storyteller that she had previously looked down on, and rely on her profound literary background to worship The master of storytelling at that time, Li Qinghai, as a teacher.
In the same year, Shan Tianfang was very touched to see Wang Quangui's inseparability about himself, and he immediately decided to marry this woman, whether out of retribution or long-term affection, he chose this woman, that is a lifelong thing.
Soon after, the two gave birth to a son and a daughter, Shan Tianfang's career also gradually took off because of his good foundation, and by chance, Shan Tianfang unexpectedly obtained the opportunity to study correspondence in history at Liaoning University.
Family careers take off together, so that Shan TianFang felt the warmth of the first long absence since he fled, he understood that all his luck came from this woman who was 8 years older than him, as the saying goes, "female junior, holding gold bricks", Shan TianFang did not know how many gold bricks he held.
The history of the growth of the first brother of the book
Before modern times, there were very strict rules between master and apprentice, during the period of learning art, apprentices could not perform on stage, they could only observe offstage, and "one day for the teacher, lifelong for the father", the apprentice also needs to put the master in a high position in his heart.
Shan Tianfang did this, and after years of following Master to perform in various places, Shan Tianfang could easily say a few historical famous passages.
As the saying goes: Disciples do not have to be inferior to teachers, as an apprentice, Shan Tianfang has accumulated more than ten years of study, and her knowledge has been higher than that of master. Since Master could not read, he often helped Master read fragments of some historical works for Master's reference and commentary.
In terms of creation, Shan Tianfang is still inferior to Master, he has a belly of ink, but he can't summarize the attractive words of Master, so even if his culture is deeper than Master, he always maintains a humble mentality to learn.
Until a chance, Shan Tianfang met another nobleman in his life at a teahouse in Anshan, which was Zhao Yufeng, the founder of the Zhao clan of the Xihe Dagu Book.
Once when the two discussed the commentary in the background, Zhao Yufeng admitted that he was talking about "Daming Heroic Martyrs", but the on-site effect was not very good, so Shan Tianfang took the initiative to tell him about the "Daming Heroic Martyrs" he had studied.
Zhao Yufeng's eyes lit up after listening to it, and he knew that although the young man in front of him was not speaking well, he was very wise.
Zhao Yufeng
Huigen is much more important than individual efforts in industries that require skills, and some people have empty efforts, but without Huigen, even if they work hard, they are unlikely to reach the height of a master.
People with wise roots are eaten by God, and they have the understanding, coupled with the right way of effort, and one day they will succeed.
Zhao Yufeng did not want Shan Tianfang to waste his talent in vain, and he had been doing useless work in the wrong attempt, so he took the initiative to invite Shan Tianfang to take a bath, and the two discussed this commentary together during the bath.
Shan Tianfang repeated it again, and Zhao Yufeng shouted at any time to stop, telling Shan Tianfang how to modify it where he thought it needed to be improved.
Shan Tianfang
After some exchanges, not only Shan Tianfang had the feeling of seeing the clouds and the sun, Zhao Yufeng also felt that he had gained a lot. But Shan Tianfang still has concerns, saying that he already has the basis to go on stage to give a speech, but he is afraid because he has never been on stage.
After hearing this, Zhao Yufeng enlightened him: Storytellers have three difficulties: one is that it is difficult to take the stage, the second is that it is difficult to say that guests are staying, and the third is that it is difficult to make a lot of money by becoming famous.
A few months later, after Zhao Yufeng's recommendation to the president of the Anshan Quyi Association, Shan Tianfang was given the opportunity to go on stage to speak, and since it was the first time for a newcomer to speak, Shan Tianfang was arranged to perform on stage at the time when the workers were eating.
Even so, Shan Tianfang still cherished this opportunity, and he made very sufficient preparations for this.
On the day of storytelling, even if Shan Tianfang was well prepared, he still couldn't avoid a blank in his mind, and at first, Shan Tianfang forgot all the storytelling skills, and just popped words out of his mouth without emotion like a machine that memorized texts.
But as time passed, Shan Tianfang saw the workers in the audience throwing warm eyes at him, and he gradually relaxed and began to speak word by word in his infectious accent.
Unconsciously, Shan Tianfang spoke for 2 hours without rest, and the workers forgot to go to work in the factory and listened intently to Shan Tianfang to the last moment.
Since then, Shan Tianfang's playing experience has become more and more experienced, and he has become more and more relaxed, and his salary has risen from 84 yuan at the beginning to 180 yuan.
His wife Wang Quangui did not help him much, this person who cared about him like a mother gave him unlimited motivation, and it was the companionship between husband and wife day and night that made Shan Tianfang and this incompatible wife harmonious for many years.
During this period, Shan Tianfang delayed his work for a period of time due to some political reasons, but his reputation began to spread from the northeast to the whole country, and many of his commentaries were broadcast by CCTV, among which the excerpt "Tianjing Blood and Tears" of "One Hundred Years of Wind and Clouds" had an audience of as many as 600 million.
However, the sky did not go according to people's wishes, and at the moment when Shan Tianfang's career was moving towards glory, Wang Quangui fell at this moment.
One day in 1992, just as Shan Tianfang returned home from recording on the TV station, he saw his wife lying on the ground with a blue face, so he asked his children to take his mother to the hospital, and he could not accompany him because of the performance, which also became a regret in his life.
Shan Tianfang's family
In the early hours of the morning, just when Shan Tianfang was resting after the performance, his son called him and heard the sound of his son sobbing, and Shan Tianfang had an ominous premonition in his heart.
When the son said that his mother had died, Shan Tian Fang was suddenly weak, his eyes were unconscious, and the most loved person in his life had died, and he also felt like a dead heart.
In 2018, the master storyteller also died of illness, since the death of his wife for 26 years, Shan Tianfang has always been loyal to his wife, he has never touched the heart of marriage, this seemingly incompatible couple, but has a love story that is difficult for others to reach.
Seemingly irrational things in life have always existed, and many people cannot see the essence through the phenomenon, resulting in many discordant voices.
But if one can know the reason for existence, one will find that its essence is the most faith-believing and the most worthwhile quality that one has worked hard to acquire with one's life.
In the face of love, people should also reflect on whether those who seem to be suitable for themselves on the surface are really suitable for their own lives, and whether those who seem impossible have excellent qualities that they have never discovered, and have a pair of eyes that are good at discovery, which often works more than anything.