Interpretation of emotional topics, taking you into more positive emotional worlds! I am your emotional relief, but you have to know how to let yourself go!
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While chatting with a friend, he asked me a question like this:
You say, why do some women seem shrewd, but in their feelings they always feel that she is missing a root? Instead, those women who look childish and clumsy actually reap good intimate relationships?
I asked my friend:
Have you ever seen a woman who is really smart and will write smart on her face?
People who are really smart will hide their performance. Often the more people look defensive, the more they are, the real fools.
In real life, when dealing with people, we must be low-key and high-profile. I believe that no one knows this truth and no one knows it.
Similarly, the more intelligent a woman is in the face of feelings, the better she will apply this to reality.
At the very least, a truly intelligent woman will be seen as a clumsy object in need of protection in the eyes of her own man.
In the interaction between men and women, we often see some women, no matter when, where, who and what things, show "care" and "calculation". This shrewdness written on the face is often unpopular.
If someone asks why, I will answer without hesitation: human nature!
In the old saying, there is such a word of wisdom: a sentence is a hundred things, a thing is a hundred practices.
That is to say, to be a person, we must pay attention to saying the most suitable words and doing the most suitable things at the most suitable time. Otherwise, if you want to do anything, no matter how much effort you have put in before, you will give up.
Really smart people, talking and doing things, will make people feel comfortable from the heart, so it is easier to accept their suggestions and meet their needs. Moreover, it will have a very "real" feeling in the heart of such a person, willing to be close.
The more intelligent people are, the more they can gain insight into human nature and pinch people's psychology. Therefore, smart people always do more with less.
The more incompetent people are, the less they will "hide." In particular, in intimate relationships, the more incompetent a woman is, the easier it is to do stupid things that are not good for herself.
In intimate relationships, smart women, don't do 3 things! Learning something is good for you:
1: Do not know how to measure
Measure is a person's advanced cultivation. To speak in proportion and to act in a measured manner is to create all the opportunities for oneself that is impossible.
Some women, when faced with feelings, only care about their own happiness and happiness, in order to achieve the goal quickly, and do not care. Words and deeds, deeds, are too extreme and stubborn.
Poking men's scars in public, making fun of men's inadequacies, and making the privacy of two people public. Moreover, the more outsiders there are, the more they preach to men, leaving no dignity for men.
Some "secrets" can only exist between intimate relationships. In public, once a woman loses her measure to make a man lose face, it is the rhythm of letting herself be passed.
In addition, there are some women who will "control" their men very strictly. In the end, I found that my "care" had become a burden on men.
To this, smart women do the exact opposite!
Smart women will always maintain all the faces of their men in front of outsiders. Even if you encounter too many dissatisfied emotions, you will know how to solve it privately.
In particular, in the matter of "watching" men, smart women will only express their needs through reasonable appeals, conveying their needs to be valued and felt. Instead of "watching" all the time.
Two people together is like this, women must know how to maintain the feelings that men care about, and pay more attention to their own language expression forms.
A woman who can turn passive into active is the really smart player.
2: Do not understand the weakness
In the relationship between men and women, the more powerful a woman is, the more she only looks "active" on the surface. It is precisely because of this "initiative" that it is difficult for her to harvest true happiness.
The more incompetent a woman is, the more temperamental she is and the stronger she appears. In this way, men will only stay away, and even be extremely bored.
On the surface, strong women make men submit to themselves. In fact, men will only mentally "book" the feelings and relationships between each other, and when the time is ripe, it is their own autumn accounting or the relationship is completely broken.
Truly intelligent women, when faced with problems, will put their ultimate purpose in the first place, and then in the corresponding purpose, in the fastest way to achieve the purpose perfectly.
In the process of achieving the goal, smart women will make men have a desire to protect.
Many times, women who know how to show weakness make men know how to review themselves. It is not that men do not make mistakes, it is not that men do a good job, but that when men are reluctant to reflect on themselves, women are difficult to take advantage of the "truth" in their feelings.
Learning to be a woman who knows how to show weakness will reduce too many unnecessary contradictions in the relationship. When it is critical, it can also enhance each other's feelings.
If some women have to solve the problem in a simple and rough way, it can only show that she does not value the ultimate purpose of solving the problem.
3: Stop growing yourself
Some women, too, are fine. Know how to make money and run a family, but are looked down upon and looked down upon by men. Why?
Because such a "good" woman, seemingly virtuous, gentle, paying and dedicating to love, is actually a "lazy woman". In feelings, it is necessary and necessary to pay for love, but stopping growth is the most important.
Having the ability to make money, washing and cooking for men, only shows that you still have the value of existence for the current marriage relationship. However, if you want to be deeply loved by men for a long time, you also need to constantly improve yourself!
Don't say that you are too busy to talk, in fact, you are just "unreasonable" in the allocation of time.
Take your time outside of work, try to take it out to learn and cultivate your hobbies, it is better to make men happy than you wash and cook with children.
As for the trivialities of life, you have to guide men to share them with you. That way, your time is free. If, your man doesn't do it, then you can also choose not to do it.
When you become a light with changing colors in a man's eyes, he will naturally be attracted to you all the time!
At any time, women should not forget to invest in themselves well. Women who do not know how to grow themselves and achieve their own achievements are incompetent women because they are "lazy".
A woman who does not know how to measure up, does not know how to show weakness, and forgets to invest in herself is a stubborn person who is too self-centered. The more incompetent a woman is, the easier it is to do these 3 things, each of which is enough for a man to run away instantly.
There is no difference between people because some people do not hesitate to pay energy in order to get a better life and run a good relationship, and some people always make excuses for not knowing how to be flexible.
Between men and women, don't say who changes for whom, don't say who caters to whom, only who is more willing to work hard for the life they want in their hearts.
If you love a man, you will see your own achievements in all your efforts. If you don't love him enough and are very stubborn, then don't complain.
For an incompetent woman, all your marital misfortunes are self-inflicted! The smarter a woman is, the more worthy she is of all the beauty in the world!
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Love is man's purgatory in the world. Love or friendship, the right time meets the right person to cultivate the right results!
Topic Discussion: When facing feelings, how do you express love with your lover? Leave your unspeakable words in the comments section below.