In 2017, Dou Wei made up for the birthday of his eldest daughter Dou Jingtong at home.
After his birthday, Dou Wei walked towards his two daughters with something in his hand.
He bowed to his eldest daughter, Dou Jingtong, and then to his younger daughter.
With tears in his eyes, he said to them, "I'm not a good dad, I'm sorry for you." ”
Once, in order to meet his young daughter, he paid his ex-wife 1.08 million child support,
In order to see his eldest daughter, he repeatedly pleaded with Faye Wong and waited for 8 years to see her for the first time.
From the leader of domestic rock music, it has degenerated into living on the stall.
He also kept silent about the glorious years of the past.
Now, he is trying to make up for the lack of paternal love for his two daughters.
The dowry prepared for them is even more tear-inducing.
Will they forgive this father?
01
Dou Wei was born in the Beijing Courtyard and is an authentic Beijing boy.
He is the eldest son in the family, and there is a younger sister Dou Ying at the bottom,
She is also the ex-wife of zhang Yadong, a musical talent.
My mother worked in a machine tool factory, and my father was a wind musician in a literary troupe.
Although the parents' interests and hobbies are very different, the family's small life is very interesting.
But marriage is so simple,
The trivial things and contradictions in life gradually appear,
The two began to argue frequently.
Dou Wei would hide out with his sister at this time, and did not dare to come back until his parents were discouraged.
This also made Dou Wei's mind become sensitive from an early age.
Influenced by his father, Dou Wei also had a strong interest in music.
At the age of 6, he was able to play independently in kindergarten, and the flute was played in a similar way.
He can be seen in various literary and artistic performances in the school.
Once before a performance, he practiced too hard,
The body has obvious symptoms of discomfort, in order not to delay the performance he gritted his teeth and persevered,
As a result, he developed pneumonia.
After entering the middle school era, Dou Wei grew more and more beautiful,
I always like to wear a white shirt tucked into light blue jeans.
Playing the flute is also good, many girls are moved by it,
He also became a school figure, and Dou Wei lived comfortably and handsomely at that time.
But after junior high school, everything in front of me changed.
At that time, Dou Wei was in a period of rebellion, and became particularly sensitive to the quarrels between his parents.
But his father still ignored the divorce from his mother, who was only 12 years old.
Dou Wei and his sister live with their mother.
The mother is strong on the surface, pretending to have nothing,
But on the day his father moved away from the courtyard, he clearly saw his mother standing in the doorway secretly wiping away tears.
Dou Wei saw all this in his eyes, and he could only take his mother's hand and comfort him: "It's okay, in the future, there will be me and my sister to give you a pension." ”
Dou Wei could clearly feel the mother's daily depression and pain,
Fortunately, the father is still a responsible man,
They will be given living expenses on a regular basis, and they will often come back to see them when they have time.
After the divorce, Dou's mother did not choose to remarry, but pulled the brothers and sisters to grow up alone.
But his parents' failed marriage subtly affected his concept of marriage and love.
The burden of life falls on the shoulders of the mother alone,
At the same time, it also gave Dou Wei heavy pressure.
He was no longer the sunny boy with the cheerful personality, but had become taciturn.
After graduating from junior high school, Dou Wei had no intention of studying,
Entered a vocational high school in Beijing's Xicheng District to study psychiatric care.
This major usually learns something about music,
This can help those patients to soothe their emotions.
This is the best choice for him who wants to work and is not willing to give up his hobbies.
But after entering the school, he found that it was completely different from what he expected.
The teacher in the school is not as accomplished as he is musically,
Not even the knowledge of music theory is taught,
Dou Wei's face was full of disappointment.
Until one time, he ran to the scene of a band's performance to relax his emotions,
Only then did I find that the band's performance made the audience boil.
He had a new definition of music and planted the seeds of a "rock 'n' roll dream" in his heart.
02
As long as you think about graduating, you have to deal with mentally ill people every day,
The intense uneasiness in his heart drove him,
Dou Wei completely lost interest in going to school.
After consulting with his parents, he decided to drop out of school to become a singer.
When he found the teacher to go through the withdrawal procedures, the teacher also said to him: "You will definitely regret this decision in the future." ”
But he didn't care.
If you can pursue your ideals, what is the stumbling on the road?
So he held a guitar and began his own rock 'n' roll journey.
In 1987, at the age of 18, he was admitted to the Beijing Youth Music Troupe.
Became a newcomer singer.
Since he had no fame, he could only sing after the big names finished singing,
Go up and sing a rock song, and when the big name is adjusted, he can only hurry up.
The songs of singers such as Jiang Dawei and Cui Jian will be sung by whomever is red,
Later, I sang more, and my fame gradually accumulated.
At most, he can earn more than 30 yuan a day,
It is higher than the average person's salary for half a month.
In addition to his daily expenses, the rest of the money is subsidized by his mother.
At that time, the students of vocational high school would cast envious eyes on him.
And he has cultivated his own "rock and roll style".
In 1988, Dou Wei waited for the opportunity to truly realize his dream.
Black Panther lead singer Ding Wu left,
Friends introduced Dou Wei to Guo Chuanlin of the Black Panther Band.
When he saw Dou Wei improvise a rock song,
Guo Chuanlin immediately decided to let Dou Wei succeed Ding Wu as the lead singer of the band.
Since Dou Wei joined, the Black Panther Band can be described as a strong combination,
Their band became synonymous with "rock",
Dou Wei also became a popular rock singer.
The year after entering the band, Dou Wei met his first love, Jiang Xin.
Jiang Xin is also a rock singer, two years younger than Dou Wei.
Where did she resist the charm of Dou Wei, the talent of the rock music scene,
The two came and went together.
At the same time, their music is getting hotter and hotter.
Tickets for concerts are also hard to come by.
In the hearts of many young girls, men who play rock and roll are idols.
Dou Wei, who is talented and beautiful, has also become the "dream lover" in the minds of thousands of young girls.
Among them is the future Diva Faye Wong.
Faye Wong debuted in Hong Kong with a song "Still an Old Sentence",
The two people who had no intersection were implicated by Luan Shu.
In 1990, Luan Shu joined the Band Panther as a keyboardist.
And Faye Wong is his girlfriend,
This also allowed Faye Wong and Dou Wei to enter each other's world.
At that time, Dou Wei and his first love girlfriend Jiang Xin were in love,
Even with his girlfriend to see his mother, Dou Mother was also very satisfied with Jiang Xin,
The two will soon be married, unsurprisingly.
But after Faye Wong appeared, everything changed.
Dou Wei's talent deeply attracted Faye Wong,
Although he already had Jiang Xin by his side, and she also had Luan Shu by her side.
Faye Wong quickly cut off her relationship with Luan Shu,
Dou Wei, Jiang Xin, and Faye Wong also fell into a love triangle.
In the end, with Faye Wong winning, Jiang Xin regrettably withdrew.
Jiang Xin struggled in sadness for two years before coming out,
And as Dou Wei left the Black Panther Band with Faye Wong,
The Luan tree was not much better.
But at that time, Dou Wei and Faye Wong walked together regardless of it,
Although they all believe that each other is the destination, the wrong person will be separated sooner or later.
03
In 1996, the two entered the palace of marriage in Beijing.
The following year, daughter Dou Jingtong was born.
The union of the two seems to the outside world to be a match made in heaven,
Everyone thinks that the couple will raise their eyebrows and work together to grow old.
Faye Wong may not have realized that what was easily snatched from the hands of others,
Maybe it will be taken away by another person.
Faye Wong chose to temporarily give up her career for the sake of her children.
After the child was slightly older, Faye Wong ran non-stop on the music road.
The two have only been married for two years, and there are frequent news of discord.
Dou Wei said in an interview:
"It's hard for me to see her, call her, she's either performing or playing mahjong."
Life is like this, there must always be a party to make a compromise.
But neither is willing to change for each other.
Faye Wong is unwilling to give up her career and wash her hands and make soup for him.
Dou Wei could not wholeheartedly support his wife's career,
Gradually, he could not find warmth in the marriage.
But there was a man named Plateau who was willing to give him what he wanted.
Gao Yuan is Dou Wei's photographer, and Dou Wei falls in love with her.
After being photographed having dinner together, he even made a high-profile statement that "Takahara is my lover." ”
You know, at this time, Faye Wong is still Dou Wei's legitimate wife,
Where did she endure such a great humiliation?
Disheartened, Faye Wong filed for divorce from Dou Wei and took her daughter Dou Jingtong with her.
Faye Wong is in line with the posture of if you are ruthless and blame me for my unrighteousness,
Dou Wei was given the greatest punishment and did not allow him to see his daughter.
Dou Wei could only look at his daughter from a distance when she was in school,
Or go to the place where Faye Wong lives and knock on the door, either be rejected or ignored.
He could only cry at home when he thought of his daughter.
In 2002, Dou Wei's courtyard welcomed a third hostess.
He married Gao Yuan, or Bongzi married,
At that time, Takahara was 8 months pregnant.
The two have a daughter and are full of fantasies about the future,
And this fantasy only exists in The Plateau alone.
The failure of the last marriage made the media crucify him in the name of "scumbag",
Dou Wei's career was not as good as before, and his talent had also run out of energy.
He also did not want to pursue fame and fortune anymore, but only wanted to seek a peaceful and stable life.
And Takahara did not want to look at the man he once worshipped, reduced to such a point,
To be honest, I also want to experience the treatment of the wife of a famous rock singer,
It was obvious that Dou Wei could no longer give her the life she wanted.
In order to live, Dou Wei fell to the bar to sing,
The income is only 5,000 yuan per month.
Having learned the lessons of the previous marriage, Dou Wei did not let Gao Yuan go out to work,
Say that you will bear the expenses of the family.
Raising children spends money like water, and the meager salary is only a drop in the bucket.
He had to rent out the courtyard and live in his parents' small house.
Gao Yuan took care of his daughter alone at home, and Dou Wei returned home and the two only had endless quarrels.
Love is love, life is life.
No one can break this principle.
The trivialities and various pressures in life completely overwhelmed the two people,
The sinus is tired, and the plateau is not much better.
In 2004, Plateau, unwilling to endure this life any longer, filed for divorce.
She made two demands: one was that the custody of her daughter belonged to her, and the other was that Dou Wei would give her 1.08 million yuan in child support.
The two could not negotiate, and could only go through legal procedures.
But the result was still the same, the daughter was sentenced to Takahara, and the maintenance was also given.
With Dou Wei's economic situation, he could only pay a part,
Takahara moved with his daughter and also transferred schools.
Obviously, the two daughters were in Beijing, but Dou Wei could not meet them.
Whenever I think of this, a big man can only guard the empty home and shed tears.
As a father, he does not even have the right to visit his daughter,
I am afraid that not many people can empathize with this feeling of heartbreak.
Until 2007, Dou Wei gave clear child support,
He found Takahara and said that he wanted to take care of his daughters, but it would not affect their original lives.
Takahara agreed.
The moment I heard my little daughter call Daddy,
Dou Wei felt that he was the happiest person in the world.
As long as Gao Yuan agrees, Dou Wei will take his youngest daughter Dou Jiayan to his home.
Accompany her to draw, play games, cook for her daughter.
He wanted to try his best to make up for his daughter's missing father's love, and he wanted to give it all to his daughter at once.
At that time, Dou Jiayan looked at a bicycle of 8,000 yuan.
Dou Wei's ability at that time was already unaffordable, and he felt very weak.
While singing in the bar, someone recognized the former rock singer Dou Wei.
The man called him over, deliberately wondering, "A bottle of 1,000, do you drink it?" ”
Before, was he the one who was willing to bow his head?
But thinking of the bicycle that his daughter had in mind, he drank 8 bottles in one go.
Holding the 8,000 pieces in his hand, he spat and cried on the way home,
People who were so proud in the past also had to bow their heads for their daughters and bow to life.
The next day, seeing his daughter cheering, he burst into tears again.
This time, it was tears of relief, and he felt it was worth it.
Although the relationship with the younger daughter was eased,
But the eldest daughter, Dou Jingtong, has always been his heart knot.
Over the years, he pleaded with Faye Wong countless times not to meet her daughter.
In 2006, Faye Wong was waiting for delivery in the hospital, and Li Yapeng was around to take care of her.
Dou Wei interceded through his sister Dou Ying, hoping to see Dou Jingtong,
Nearly 8 years have passed, and the old grudges have gradually disappeared, and she has not directly refused.
The next year, Faye Wong finally agreed.
Dou Wei cleaned up the house and took his daughter to the courtyard,
On this day, he waited for 8 years.
Since then, every weekend Dou Wei will take the two children over,
Sometimes I can't get busy, so I let my mother help take care of it,
Grandma was also happy to see her two granddaughters.
In order to give his daughters a better living environment, he repaired the house.
The former scruffy courtyard was cleaned up.
He also specially renovated two children's rooms, one for each person,
They are specially decorated according to their preferences.
Usually, he took his two daughters to draw, play the piano, and teach them music.
Although absent from the growth process of part of the daughter,
But blood is thicker than water, and they are all very close to Dou Wei.
The two half-sisters also get along very well,
It seems that the feuds of the previous generation have not affected their relationship.
05
Faye Wong and Dou Wei are different, and their careers have always been in the sky.
Even Ma Yun has offered a sky-high price of 160 million yuan and wants to sing with Faye Wong.
Faye Wong refused, she probably didn't miss this money,
Dou Jingtong can naturally also enjoy a superior material life.
Although neither daughter is short of money,
But as a father, he always had to prepare a decent dowry for his daughters when they got married.
The music scene has long lost his place,
There were hardly any performances inviting Dou Wei, which made him feel bad.
In 2010, Dou Wei could only sell his only courtyard.
Huddled with his mother.
Taking the money from the sale of the house, I bought two sets of door-to-door houses next to it,
One of the real estate deeds is Dou Jingtong, and the other is Dou Jiayan's name.
He did not favor dou jingtong because he had a mother, Faye Wong.
This is the dowry he gave his daughters,
It was also the best thing he could get his hands on.
He put away the title deeds and did not tell his two daughters.
On weekends, I can only take my daughter to my mother's house.
Dou Jingtong asked his father curiously, "Dad, why did you sell the house?" ”
Dou Wei did not say why, and lied that the house lived in the space open.
In 2013, the marriage of Faye Wong and Li Yapeng also ended in failure.
She prepared to leave Beijing with Dou Jingtong and Li Yan and return to Hong Kong.
Dou Wei was very reluctant and said to her daughter: "If you want, Dad will move to Hong Kong so that he can see you often." ”
Dou Jingtong knew that his father was under financial pressure and could not bear his past suffering.
I could only politely refuse and said to him: "Dad, you can rest assured, I will call you often when I get there, and you will stay and take care of your sister." ”
The eldest daughter's understanding made him cry again, and he felt guilty.
He took his daughter's hand and said, "It's all Dad's fault, it's a failure in marriage, so you don't have a complete home, with your good daughter, I won't be alone." ”
The two said goodbye, and the eldest daughter, Dou Jingtong, left Beijing.
Maybe under the influence of Dou Wei,
Both daughters have a great interest in music.
Dou Jingtong is far away from home, and has Faye Wong as the backing,
Dou Wei wholeheartedly matched his young daughter.
In middle school, she became a member of the school band and participated in many performances.
At the age of 14, a song "LOVE SONG" caused quite a stir.
And Dou Jingtong is even more outstanding, with the help of his mother Faye Wong,
She has published a number of original songs and become a new generation of beautiful girls in the music industry.
The two sisters have the same bloodline,
This kind of affection has long surpassed the grievances of the previous generation.
They like to talk about their dreams together, and the scene of sisterly love deeply touched Dou Wei.
In 2017, Dou Jingtong held a 20th birthday party in Hong Kong.
Dou Wei wanted to participate in the celebration for his daughter, but Dou Jingtong did not want his father to run back and forth.
So the next day, she came to Beijing to accompany her father.
Dou Wei called the whole family to make up for his daughter's birthday.
After the party, Dou Wei took out two real estate deeds with their respective names on them.
At this time, the sisters learned the reason why their father sold the house.
Thinking that dad has been thrifty for many years, but he took the only money to buy them a house,
The two sisters were in tears, and Dou Jingtong repeatedly refused, he did not want his father to make such a great sacrifice for them.
Dou Wei said very firmly, "I know that you are not short of this house, but I am your father, this is your father's intention, and it is the only thing that can be given to you. ”
Dou only has not much, maybe this house is nothing to the two sisters,
But that was his best thing.
He just wanted to give the best to his two daughters.
Behind the two dowries is his heavy fatherly love.
Over the years, he would always be photographed eating in a small restaurant, living on the stalls.
It has completely lost its former glory.
His situation with his two ex-wives is even more different.
But his love for his daughter was no less than that of the two mothers.
Avoid this love for many years, although not delicate,
But it was so soft, so tear-jerking.
The simple father's love is clearly visible in him.
Maybe he's not a good man, and he's not a good husband.
But he was the only one who was a good father.
Fatherly love is an obscure, invisible feeling.