On September 26, 2011, Pan Yueming posted a document to commemorate their third wedding anniversary, and Dong Jie forwarded the message
"Three years in love, three years in marriage, next year ... itchy. "
At that time, the young couple loved each other and were obsessed with each other, and this "seven-year itch" was only regarded as a joke by everyone.
I didn't know the joke would turn into a prophecy.
On October 20, 2012, Dong Jie published a thousand-word article on her Weibo, expressing two main views.
First, she is a good wife and mother, Pan does not care about her family; second, Pan cheated and gambled to scatter the family wealth, she wants a divorce.
Pan Changjiang quickly posted denial of the allegations, and Dong Jie responded again. The couple walked back and forth and fought a beautiful tear war.
The marriage of a golden child and a talented woman should not end so tragically.
Ten years after the divorce, adults are thinking for themselves, but the children are suffering.
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Dong Jie, a native of Dalian, Liaoning Province, was born in 1980 to a very ordinary working-class family.
Dong Jie's father said that from a very young age, Dong Jie was beautiful, cute, but very stubborn. She likes to be quiet, seems to be more stable than children her age, and never causes any trouble for her parents.
Her parents hoped that their daughter would have some literary talent when she grew up, so they saved money and sent Dong Jie to learn dance.
They also did not expect that Dong Jie would be able to make a living in the future. At the age of 10, Dong Jie passed the entrance exam and became a special student in the Department of Military Arts and Dance.
In the years of dance study, Dong Jie has experienced countless performance activities of all sizes, and her psychological quality has been very good since she was a child, and she will not be afraid of the stage no matter what the occasion.
Dong Jie is innocent and handsome in appearance, superb in acting, generous in fall, and got the opportunity to attend the Spring Festival Gala at the age of 16. Although not the protagonist, these experiences opened the door to Dong Jie's artistic career.
After the Spring Festival, Dong Jie's fresh and bright image became the darling of the advertising industry, and she went to participate in activities and filmed many advertisements.
In the Spring Festival of 2000, Dong Jie and Xie Tingfeng appeared on the stage of the Spring Festival Gala together, which made many viewers remember this girl with a gentle smile and a little shyness for the first time.
Not long after, Zhang Yimou's new film "Happy Time" was released nationwide. Dong Jie applied for the film, and after a series of auditions, finally got the position of heroine.
For Dong Jie, this is a blessing from Heaven. She had never studied acting at all, and partnering with Zhao Benshan was her first acting role.
The blind female character in "Happy Time" won several awards for Dong Jie, including the Huabiao Award for Best Newcomer and the Best Actress Award at the Spanish Film Festival.
Since then, Dong Jie has officially entered the acting world. He has starred in several films and TV series, including Lovers in the Air, White Collar Apartment and The Golden Powder Family.
The collaborators are all popular young people, Liu Ye'anZai Xu Chenkun and others, of course, Dong Jie is the female number one without exception.
Dong Jie also signed a contract with Wong Kar-wai's Zedong Film Company and collaborated with Leung Chao-wai on films such as "Underground" and "2046".
For a girl as young as 23 years old, it's an experience that few in the entire entertainment industry can match.
At the age of 25, Dong Jie met his first relationship.
In August 2005, Chen Xiaoxu, the actor who played Lin Daiyu in the 87th edition of "Dream of the Red Chamber", supervised the production of the TV series "Red Dress Shop", in which Dong Jie played the female number one, and the male number one was played by Pan Yueming.
Pan is 6 years older than Dong Jie and is a native of Beijing. Unlike Dong Jie, Pan Changjiang started out as a scheming girl, he was a child actor.
Due to his outstanding literary talent in school, Pan Changjiang was an active member of the class and appeared in many film and television dramas during his student days.
But it wasn't until 1999 that Pan Changjiang starred in his first starring film, Very Summer.
After that, Pan Changjiang did several more games, all in a tepid state. Luckily, he soon saw a turnaround.
After falling in love, Pan Changjiang starred in several TV series, such as "The Legend of the White Snake", "Red Lady", "Jinghua Smoke Cloud", etc., all of which were broadcast on CCTV, and he began to have a certain popularity.
At the end of September 2008, Dong Jie and Pan Yeming held a simple wedding in Beijing.
Three months after the marriage, her son was born, and the family of three was often full of laughter and laughter, but she did not know that doom was coming.
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Just three months after his son was born, Pan Changjiang had a serious car accident while filming the TV series "For You", his lungs were crushed and ruptured, and the hospital even issued a critical warning.
During that time, Dong Jie had to take care of both the children and her husband, and she was very busy every day. Fortunately, after several months of treatment and recovery, Pan was able to return to work quickly.
Only pan Changjiang took over the first TV series "Crouching Tiger Mountain" after his injury, and the response was very flat.
In order to change his image as a polite scholar, Pan Changjiang took over several "tough guy" film and television dramas, including "Imperial Secret Charms" and "Big Mouth", but unfortunately, these jobs were not of high taste.
The ensuing divorce struggle caused his reputation to decline, his career to a standstill, and not a single film in years.
Since 2012, there have been constant rumors that Pan Yueming and Dong Jie's marriage has deteriorated and is on the verge of divorce. But few people believe the rumor.
After all, on March 8 this year, Pan Shiyi even published an article online praising Dong Jie as a good mother, a good wife and a good woman.
Who knows, the rumors are not empty.
On October 20, 2012, Dong Jie took the lead in publishing a long article on Weibo, accusing Pan Yueming of not taking care of the family, being irresponsible for his children, and having a unclear relationship with the co-actors, and accusing him of gambling addiction.
Although Pan Changjiang also responded to a lengthy article, denying the allegations and saying that a year ago, all of Dong Jie's income was recorded in his mother's account, and it was she who took on the responsibility of supporting the family.
Soon, however, photos of Pan Changjiang playing cards at a Macau casino confirmed allegations of his gambling addiction.
In addition, there are rumors that Pan Shiyi has purchased adult diapers several times after being injured in a car accident, suggesting that he "can't do it."
Out of natural sympathy and pity for the mother and son, the public has sided with Dong Jie, accusing Pan Yueming of being a "scum", especially Dong Jie has accumulated a good reputation in "Golden Family", and many people do not think much of her.
Mainly because he thinks that dong jie's marriage to Pan Yueming is a mistake, and Pan Yueming ruined the cold, kind, and innocent "Leng Qingqiu" in everyone's heart.
For a while, Pan Changjiang was speechless, and his former image as a clean young man no longer existed.
Due to the divorce and the damage to his image, no one dared to look for Pan Changjiang to make a movie.
The stagnation in his career may be temporary, but what is even more unacceptable to Pan Changjiang is that in the months before the divorce war, Dong Jie left his original home and took his son with him.
If in the first stage of the war of words, Dong Jie had the upper hand and Pan Changjiang was defeated without a fight, then the plot of the next stage exceeded everyone's expectations.
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Five months after Dong Jie's divorce announcement, Zhuo Wei's team exposed a video. The heroine in the video is Dong Jie, and the male protagonist is Wang Dazhi.
Previously, Dong Jie and Wang Dazhi had collaborated in dramas such as "Please Forgive Me" and "Ten Years of Love". As partners, the two also interact frequently on Weibo.
In addition to Wang Dazhi constantly confessing to Dong Jie, occasionally Dong Jie will reply a few words, at that time many people only think that this is a mutual appreciation between peers, and Dong Jie is such a pure and gentle goddess, who does not like her?
You see, everyone did not expect that in the video exposed by Zhuo Wei, Dong Jie and Wang Dazhi traveled together, just like boyfriend and girlfriend, Dong Jie was angry, and Wang Dazhi was laughing on the side.
When Dong Jie's anger subsided, Wang Dazhi held up his face, and the two embraced and kissed each other.
As soon as the video came out, public opinion was in an uproar. Everyone did not expect that a little white rabbit like Dong Jie was actually such a person in private.
She issued a statement accusing Pan of cheating without any evidence, but during the marriage, she became a family with Wang Dazhi.
This triggered a reversal of public opinion, people accused Dong Jie of making mistakes first, but at the same time, it also fought back, guiding public opinion and making Pan Changjiang unable to turn over.
After the video was exposed, the relationship between Pan Shiyi and Dong Jie further deteriorated, reaching the point where water and fire were intolerable. In addition to denying Dong Jie's allegations, Pan Shiyi also sued Dong Jie's agent at the same time, accusing her of insult and slander.
Xiao Pan believes that Dong Jie has always been a kind and gentle person, he will not do anything to throw dirty water on the father of the child, and behind all this is the agent.
Originally, the relationship between Dong Jie and Pan Yueming would not be so bad, but it was this agent who constantly pushed the waves and brought things to an irreconcilable point.
After more than a year of legal processing, Dong Jie's agent finally admitted
All the hype and marketing was directed by Dong Jie, who was just ordered to do his job.
When outsiders intervene in family affairs, all that remains is the traction of interests, without humanity. This is why many divorce cases become increasingly unpleasant in the process.
Unfortunately, Dong Jie and Pan Changjiang have also come to this step.
After the divorce, Dong Jie's acting career briefly stalled for a while, and Pan Changjiang was not able to turn his life around until 2017.
In 2017, after the network drama "White Night Pursuit" was broadcast, Pan Yueming became a representative of the Mesozoic generation of the acting school with his one-man show.
Since then, he has starred in several film and television dramas, such as "The Wild West", "The Dragon's Back", "Yunnan Bug Valley", etc., and he also has a new novel.
As an actor, he still had to rely on his work and his strength to speak. After Pan Yueming's failure, he attracted a large number of fans, and many people also remembered his marriage to Dong Jie.
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The kissing incident with Wang Dazhi came back, which greatly reduced Dong Jie's personal image, so that she returned to take "Tiger Mother and Cat Father", playing a psychologist who liked the male protagonist.
Many people said she was acting, and some even called her "Dong Jinlian". However, despite the criticism, Dong Jie's acting career slowly returned to normal.
After that, he starred in "Ruyi Chuan" and "Macau Storm", and also participated in Hunan Satellite TV's "Riding the Wind and Waves".
It's just that her acting skills are still far behind her ex-husband Pan Yueming, and although she continues to have works on the air, her personal reputation has not changed.
In addition to her poor reputation in her career, Dong Jie has also been criticized as a mother for educating her children.
Since the divorce, his son Tintin has been living with Dong Jie, and Pan usually does not see his son, even his son's Birthday, he can't see him.
Every year on Summit's birthday, Pan Changjiang just posts a calf (his son is a bull) on his Weibo account, and a balloon to celebrate his son's birthday.
Pan Yueming's agent was very angry, reporting on the Internet that Dong Jie "looked like a small white rabbit, but was actually a poisonous mushroom".
In the exposure, the agent not only accused Dong Jie of committing herself to a party in order to get a spokesperson, but also accused her of refusing to give Pan what he wanted when his father was sick and wanted to see his grandson.
On February 5 this year, Topp's birthday, Pan Shiyi posted calves and balloons on Weibo on time as in previous years, wishing his son a happy birthday.
Ten years after the divorce, Top has grown from a three-year-old to a half-year-old 13-year-old.
In any case, this child is innocent and came into this world when his parents were most in love. Unfortunately, adults are working for their own benefit, and he has become a victim of his parents' failed marriage.
If the child is not allowed to see his father, the public may not be so disgusted with Dong Jie.
In 2016, Dong Jie, who had repeatedly denied that she would not take her son to participate in the show, took Tintin to participate in Hunan Satellite TV's father-son variety show "Mother is Superman".
In the show, when the mother and son were doing handicrafts together, Dong Jie asked her son if he would take his mother with him when he went on a trip. Tintin replied that of course he would.
Desktop suddenly said to herself, "Is the mother important or the girlfriend important?" "Of course the mother is important." Dong Jie was very happy after listening.
In addition, Dong Jie has asked his son several times in the show
"Is your mother pretty, or your girlfriend is pretty", "You don't care about your mother, your mother will be angry", "Your mother will be sad like this".
What Dong Jie and her son show in the show is an abnormal parent-child relationship. There was no doubt that she loved her son, but her possessiveness was too strong.
Not only did he treat his seven-year-old son as an adult and lose his temper with him, but he always had to compare his beauty with his future daughter-in-law, and asked his son who was more beautiful.
While it was a joke, for the seven-year-old, his mother didn't instill a correct view of relationships in him, as if lovers and lovers were opposed to each other.
Not to mention that children can't see their parents in the process of growing up, and they have not experienced a normal and harmonious parent-child relationship, but they are carried on their backs at a very young age
"Listen to your mother" and "Make your mother happy".
Such a heavy burden.
Because the adult loses his relationship, the child is deprived of the right to see his father, which is not a maternal love, but a manifestation of selfishness.
On April 4, Pan Shiyi showed his painting "Panda God Slays Demons and Exorcises Demons" on the Internet. It was a hobby he grew up with.
Influenced by his family, Pan Changjiang not only drew and wrote brush characters from an early age, but also wrote many articles, and often appeared in newspapers when he was in school.
With such a comparison, many netizens are also quite sorry, thinking that Dong Jie has been dancing since primary school, did not go to college, and is quite paranoid about children's education in the program.
Innocent children, however, have suffered the consequences of this marital struggle between adults.
Netizen views:
It is difficult to say whether the entertainment industry is right or wrong, after all, it is not a party, and it is hilarious to see. Divorce itself hurts the most is the child, don't use the child as a chip, affect the child's life.
It is difficult for the Qing officials to decide on household chores, and if Pan zhenzhen wants to see the children, he should not consume Dong and the children anymore. Why didn't Dong let him see the child? What did Pan and Jingji do in the beginning.
They all live in China, just in different cities, does the man have the heart to see his son, will not go to the city where his son lives? In fact, the man is indifferent and supports the woman
They divorced for ten years I don't know, just saw, heard that Dong Jie cheated in marriage, I kind of don't believe it, before I was a child to see (gold powder family) Dong Jie left such a good impression in my mind, I really did not think that she would be such a person
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