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"Gu Ailing loves to eat pies..." Suddenly, there was warm applause and laughter at the scene!
wow! It turned out that Gu Ailing was named at the "Winter Olympic and Paralympic Games Summary and Commendation Conference"! How many people are drooling at the screen like I do?
In such a large auditorium, so many Olympic athletes, the "Frog Princess" alone was named! Is it the feeling of winning the grand prize? Some people have never won a gold medal in their lives, this girl has won more than fifty international gold medals; billions of people have not had the opportunity to see the big one, and this girl is named as soon as she comes on the field... Which way is this immortal?
Professor Glen Domen, an authoritative expert on the development of human potential in the United States, once said: "Every normal baby is born with the same talents as Shakespeare, Morrit, Edison, Einstein, and cleverness and stupidity are products of the environment."
Nesting? Every normal person has ever been a genius? But why have millions of people become ordinary people?
Because, cleverness and stupidity are products of circumstance. What is a product of the environment? Let's take a look at the following story together.
Andersen was born in a small town in Osseden, Denmark, where his father was a shoemaker, his mother made a living by laundry, and his grandmother often had to go out to beg for food. There were many nobles and landlords in the town, who were high up in the air, disgusted with the poor, and did not allow children to play with Hans Christian Andersen.
Optimistic fathers often easily say to Hans Christian Andersen: "Son, Daddy play with you!" "He accompanies his son to play games and tell stories. Although he did not have childhood playmates, his father gave Hans Christian Andersen sunshine and happiness.
Therefore, the family environment will have a subtle impact on children.
Secondly, the child's growth will also be affected by the surrounding environment
The well-known "Three Migrations of Meng Mu" is about Meng Mu moving her family from the cemetery to the market, and then from the market to the school. Because Mencius lived next to the cemetery, he learned to slaughter and do business in the market, and moved to the side of the school to learn.
Someone has done such an experimental study, in which a pair of twins were separated from each other, one left in a family in a big city, and one was sent to the forest to live with relatives. The genetic qualities of the two children are generally the same, but due to the different living environments, they grow up to be completely different. The children in the city are quiet and like to read, and the children in the forest are dexterous and cheerful and in good health. Isn't this all the result of environmental impacts?
Well, with that said, the concept of a "school district room" existed thousands of years ago! Of course, on the other hand, "school district room" is expensive, isn't it?
Minors have strong imitation ability, poor self-control, and are easily affected by the surrounding environment. Therefore, parents should try to choose a good living environment to play the positive impact of the environment on their children.
Third, "Those who are close to Zhu are red, and those who are close to ink are black." "Relationships are both a soft factor and an important factor in the environment
(i) "Distant relatives are not as good as close neighbors." "Pay attention to the relationship with the neighborhood
Although it is not possible to do so as before, a few families have a large yard and a dozen families have a house. But don't be with the neighbors "old and dead", living in the downtown, the child seems to be in the "island", which is not conducive to the growth of the child. Some parents even quarrel with their neighbors because of a little thing, which will aggravate their children's loneliness.
Social psychologists tell us that neighborhood relationships have special significance for children's mental health, and increasing friendly interactions with neighbors is a cure for children, especially only children, "autism".
(ii) "The Tao is different and does not conspire against each other. "Keep an eye out for the friends your child interacts with
In general, children have the freedom to make friends on their own, and parents should respect their choices. However, the child's ability to distinguish between right and wrong is not strong, and if the friends they interact with have moral problems, they are likely to learn badly. Therefore, parents can not ignore the impact of the friends of the child on the child, once found that the child is not careful to make friends, must be corrected in time. Teach children to "benefit friends and go."
Of course, all the colors are not as bright as the "Ma Liang's Pen" of the parents. As far as the above environment is concerned, the most important thing is the affectionate companionship of "Andersen's father and Gu Ailing's mother".
Please see, the peripheral environment of Andersen's childhood can be described as terrible, no mansions, no neighbors, no good friends... But he has a dad, and dad creates a warm and effective companion for him! Andersen's heart is full, and the protagonists full of childlike fun can jump on the paper, thanks to the fact that Ann's father has planted a beautiful seed for Andersen's soul since he was a child.
Gu Ailing lives in a foreign country, her parents divorced very early, but Gu Mother respects all of Gu Ailing's choices, full support, wholehearted companionship, no oppression, no transfer, she herself is also growing up for life, is an excellent ski coach. As a result, Gu Ailing was not yet twenty years old, and he was already pressed with a gold medal, and even in the season of thousands of people's attention, he was not arrogant, and he took up his school bag and went back to school...
It is a kind of luck and an inevitability that Gu Ailing can be named. "There are no surprises, cleverness and stupidity are products of circumstance." For those who approve, please deduct "666", and if you do not approve, please deduct "888". Thank you for your support and like. Is it true that proving my "cleverness and stupidity" is also between your thoughts? Hahaha