The Intensive Jun General Dictionary has been launched with 1860/2000 entries
Today is the 3100th day of intensive reading to accompany you throughout your lifelong growth
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The other day, I saw a video.
In the video, there are 7 girls, dancing the popular girl group dance, neatly aligned, and the position is tacit.
The title reads "Female PhDs of the Chinese Academy of Sciences Jump Helicopter in the Corridor of the Institute."
The video caused a lot of repercussions, instantly exceeding 2 million views.
At the same time, it has also triggered many different voices.
Some people say that the sisters are so cool, wisdom and beauty coexist.
But some people have also questioned whether the identity of their female doctors is true.
This made me think of the sceneSOther I have encountered many times, and there are still some people who think that beauty and strength cannot be possessed at the same time.
However, there are many people in the world who have high understanding, the ability to collect information efficiently, and the ability to manage time with sufficient self-discipline and the concentration to do things seriously.
They can juggle multiple skills at the same time and live a diverse life.
02
Actor Maim Bailik, who won four Emmy Award nominations for Best Supporting Actress in a Comedy for her role in The Big Bang Theory.
But what's even more talked about is that Maim is a Ph.D. in neuroscience in real life, just like Amy.
As a result, Maim was also a scientific advisor to The Big Bang Theory, and the writers sometimes asked her questions about neuroscience.
Everyone lamented that the crossover between actors and doctors of neuroscience, this step is a bit big.
Maim debuted as an actress in 1990 and a year later starred in the American family sitcom Bloom, which was a huge success for her.
However, when the filming of "Bloom" ended, Maim chose to return to campus.
She was accepted to both Harvard and Yale universities, but she chose UCLA, which is closer to her hometown.
In 2000, Maim earned three bachelor's degrees in neuroscience, Hebrew and Judaism, and chose to pursue a Ph.D. in neurobiology.
From 2000 to 2007, she worked on topics while working in the entertainment industry. In 2007, she received her Ph.D. in neurobiology.
In this way, Maim can have a place in two completely different fields.
Her experience has to make people sigh that the life of xueba is endless and colorful.
Really powerful people can often do their own work at the same time, for their own preferences, interests to add bricks, become another wonderful in life.
03
Zhao Xinpei, the red child of the 86th edition of "Journey to the West", has also been talked about by his multiple identities.
When Zhao Xinpei was five years old, because of his cute appearance and boldness, he came into contact with filming for the first time.
At the age of nine, by chance, he was selected by Yang Jiexiang, the director of the 86th edition of "Journey to the West", to play the red child in the play.
The screen image he plays as a long gun, a spitting fire dragon, and a miraculous red child has been deeply imprinted in our minds.
Zhao Xinpei then became famous for the role of the red child, and began to play continuously, and there were many advertisements to invite him to shoot.
But he refused.
Unlike many child stars, he did not continue to develop in the direction of acting, but returned to school as usual with his school bag and stopped filming.
Many years later, he was admitted to the Department of Computer Science and Technology of Peking University with excellent results.
In 1999, he entered the Institute of Software of the Chinese Academy of Sciences for further study and received his doctorate.
It is reported that Zhao Xinpei is also the most educated child star at present.
After graduating with a doctorate, Zhao Xinpei was determined to use Internet technology to change the development status of China's agriculture, so he began to cross-border transformation.
He started the Agricultural Internet, joined Beijing Agricultural Butler Technology Co., Ltd. and served as CTO. In 2016, the company received 30 million yuan of Series A financing, and in 2019 it has made a profit of tens of millions.
Now he has become a president worth over 100 million, and he is extremely low-key.
The hairy child who was hung on a tree with a bare buttocks is now a doctor of the Chinese Academy of Sciences and has a net worth of over 100 million, which is the development trajectory of a rare child star after his debut.
Zhao Xinpei can go out of the same path as many people and become an excellent person, I think the internal conditions and external influences are indispensable.
The same is true for each of us.
The life trajectory of people like Zhao Xinpei and Maim has also brought us some enlightenment.
04
(1) Grayscale looks at important others
Important others refer to people who have an important influence on a person's socialization and personality formation.
Bi Shumin wrote an article called "Who is Your Important Other?" In the article, she talks about a past from her childhood.
At that time, she was selected as a member of the school singing competition, and when she was practicing singing, she was accused of running out of tune by the teacher in front of everyone and removed from the list.
Later, the music teacher asked Bi Shumin to come back, but he did not let her sing out loud, only allowing her to type her mouth.
This incident left a deep shadow on Bi Shumin, and since then she has fallen into the problem of not being able to open her mouth and sing. Moreover, whenever it was necessary to use her voice, Bi Shumin became nervous and avoided retreating.
Not only did she never sing again, but even speaking in public and making necessary speeches at meetings would trigger a fierce fear in her heart, and she could always hide and hide, push and push.
The music teacher who made Bi Shumin stop singing was an important other to her.
Parents are often our important others, and the external factors that affect a child's development path are the first to bear the influence of parents.
In the inventory of "child stars ruined by their parents", Lin Miaoke's name often appears.
Lin Miaoke's mother, Liu Zheping, is a university professor who became a full-time mother after giving birth to her daughter at the age of 39.
She took care of her daughter's life and life wholeheartedly, and she completely took her daughter into her own hands.
It is reported that there is no secret between Lin Miaoke and his mother, and all the passwords must be shared with his mother when he is 17 years old. Mom has been arranging everything for her daughter, including dressing up.
Lin Miaoke has also been repeatedly complained by the audience that he is dressed up too old-fashioned.
Liu Zheping, who has no experience as an agent, is fully responsible for Lin Miaoke's acting career.
But obviously, she did not help Lin Miaoke to plan the development of her acting career well, and under the control of her mother, Lin Miaoke lost a lot of growth opportunities, and also from a child star who became popular after the Olympics to gradually fading out of people's vision.
Unlike Lin Miaoke, after becoming famous, Zhao Xinpei chose to return to primary school and fell in love with computers.
His parents did not let him make money because of constant advertising, film and television invitations.
Shortly after the advent of computers, he even organized his own team to set up a computer interest class.
His parents saw that he was so obsessed with computers and gave him full support and sent him to the Children's Palace to study.
In the 1980s, Zhao Xinpei had his first Z80 model computer.
Supporting Zhao Xinpei to do what he is interested in and respecting his chosen parents has undoubtedly played a significant role in his later life development.
But as well as the intensive Reading Jun's Dictionary entry 1522: Important Others says:
"Important others, especially parents, often have both positive and negative values, and we need to differentiate and respond to them in a targeted manner."
Distance yourself from important others who have a negative impact, face up to communication and seek change; actively choose important others who can have a positive impact on yourself.
(2) Be wary of cognitive misers
There is a concept called the three-centered mind, which refers to the fact that the human mind consists of three parts, namely the autonomous mind, the algorithmic mind, and the reflective mind.
The autonomous mind is based on instinctive and intuitive thinking, and all information must first pass through the autonomous mind, similar to the brain border guards, which is the first reaction.
The algorithmic mind is more about doing the work of execution, reasoning, and operation, while the reflective mind is the core of rational thinking, which is calmly observed next to it, and suppresses, warns, and adjusts the algorithmic mind at the right time.
Psychologist Keith Stanovich believes that the traditional theory of IQ is flawed, and IQ is not the whole of the mind, but only a part of it.
That is, smart people are also likely to do stupid things.
One of the reasons for this result is our cognitive miserliness.
The innate information processing characteristics of the human brain are that they can not use the brain, they do not use the brain, and they do not use the brain when they should use the brain. The brain is stingy when using cognitive resources and likes to take shortcuts.
One of the common practices is inaction bias: if you can change, you will not change, and priority will be given to maintaining the status quo.
If Zhao Xinpei in childhood also followed this approach, then he should have made the choices that most child stars make, rather than taking another path.
Therefore, if we can identify and perceive cognitive misers, we can remind ourselves and mobilize the introspective mind and the algorithmic mind to deal with it.
Moreover, if you want to live a pluralistic life, you should avoid the aggression of cognitive misers.
Only by reflecting and reviewing more, exploring and trying more, can we choose the path we like for ourselves and live a colorful life.
(3) Develop your own interests
Everyone has their own orientations and preferences, and everyone's career development also needs to find career interests.
Interest is a key element that helps us gain motivation to learn and work.
If there is a strong interest, we can even do something day and night without feeling tired at all.
If we feel bored and bored, we may treat the matter at hand negatively, and we hate it before it ends sooner.
The same is true of professional interests, if you do something that you are not interested in, it is no less than sitting on a needle felt.
We can write down our own list of possibilities.
In the process of writing, we should not think too much about feasibility, but dare to think, and list the dreams that we most desire and really want to achieve.
For example, you can write down 100 dreams of your life. If you don't dare to think about it, the possibility has not yet sprouted, and it will be killed by ourselves.
Life is full of possibilities, not to kill themselves, but to write it down, as a guide to life, can significantly enhance our sense of direction and purpose, and ultimately get a higher sense of happiness.
Under the guidance of the list of possibilities, we can flexibly combine according to our own talents, resources, abilities and interests, etc., and maintain a moderate balance, so as to live a diversified life that suits us.
Don't set limits for yourself, don't follow the crowd, go your own way, and pursue what you want.