In the movie "The King of Comedy", Yin Tianqiu said to Liu Piaopiao: "I raise you." ”
This love sentence of I raise you is considered by many women to be a manifestation of love, but women who have experienced it understand how unreliable it is for me to raise you as a man.
Although Liu Piaopiao's heart was moved, everything she had experienced before made her unable to believe Yin Tianqiu's words, she said: "You first raise yourself, fool." ”
It is simply sober in the world, but many women can't figure it out, and they feel that a man's love words are a commitment to love themselves, a vow.
However, a lie that cannot be kept is a blank cheque, and if a woman is touched by what a man says, she will often be deceived by a man.
Wanting to know how much a man loves you is not listening to what the man says, but watching what the man does.
In marriage, a man's love is embodied in action, and the more he does it, the more he loves you.
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Know to maintain you.
In life, you always have to face various interpersonal relationships, and when you encounter problems, will a man become your "guardian spirit", reflecting whether he has you in his heart.
Before the downstairs there were a couple of tenants, because the wife and another woman had a quarrel, the other man came up and slapped the female tenant, the two women wrestled together, the other man looked at the rack, but it was a pull frame, the female tenant suffered a loss, the nose was blue and swollen. Her husband was still laughing at the side, we couldn't look past it, went up and separated them, he not only did not care whether his wife was hurt or not, but mocked her for having the ability to fight with others and make him humiliated.
The male tenant did not understand who was really humiliated, his wife was bullied by other men, and he was really encouraged to go home as a man.
Men who do not know how to defend their wives will make their wives suffer a lot of grievances.
This maintenance is not to let the man not protect his wife without right and wrong, but when he is bullied or wronged, he can give the wife a maintenance, give the wife gentleness and love, let the wife know that she is being cared for, then she will feel very happy.
This kind of maintenance of men will make women feel that everything they have paid is worth it, very secure, and will be better for the family and men, after all, what women want is the feeling of being loved.
When a man knows how to defend his wife, the more he loves his wife, because he knows that his wife is one with him, and others bully his wife, that is, bully him, he is maintaining the relationship between husband and wife and the person he loves.
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Knowing that it is not easy to hurt you.
In marriage, because of the difference in the division of labor between men and women, many men's life after marriage and the state of life before marriage are not much different, every day at two o'clock and one line, and women have to take care of the family, children, and housework, and even take care of work to make money.
But many men feel that women who are housewives are enjoying happiness at home, and feel that they are the hardest at work to make money, and women are "playing" at home, often accusing women of uselessness, not having good children, and not doing a good job of hygiene.
Everything a woman has to give for this home is not seen, and it will make the woman feel that she is not loved and that she has married the wrong person.
In "The World of Man", Zhou Bingkun became the boss and became huang Tengda, and Sun Xiaoning liked him and confessed to him when he knew that he had a wife. But Zhou Bingkun refused, he said to Sun Xiaoning, your sister-in-law Zheng Juan is not easy, run a home, take care of the mother-in-law who is paralyzed in bed, if there is no Zheng Juan (wife) there is nothing for him.
A man who sees his wife's not easy, and knows that it is not easy to feel sorry for his wife, is a man who loves his wife.
Many men in marriage are not not easy to see their wives, but pretend not to see, then he does not have to pay, does not have to do anything, only enjoys the good that his wife brings to him, but also criticizes his wife for not doing well enough, trying to get more, chilling his wife's heart without knowing it.
When a man knows that it is not easy to hurt you, he will assume his responsibilities and obligations outside, want to give you a better life, whether material or spiritual, want to give you the best, so that you do not regret marrying him.
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Know how to respect you.
Marriage is a contract concluded by equal men and women, and mutual respect is the basis for maintaining marriage.
It's just that many men are macho, monopolize "royal power" in marriage, decide everything by themselves, do not tell their wives how much money they have in the family, and completely treat their wives as an outsider, but want their wives to be free nannies.
Lin Xi said: "Many people get married just to find someone to watch movies with them, not someone who can share their experience of watching movies. ”
A man does not regard women as wives, does not regard women as people, only wants to act alone, does not consider women's dignity and feelings at all, he only loves himself.
A man who does not know how to respect his wife will impose his own ideas on you in the process of getting along, and let you do what he says, but he will not listen to your opinion.
In getting along, men who don't respect you won't really appreciate you and won't give you what you want.
Such a man likes "double standard" after marriage, things are only allowed to be done by him, it is not okay to change you, he will find a way to control your words and deeds, and let you think that he is "right".
The book says: "Whether a relationship is affectionate or not depends on whether the two sides really respect each other's existence, really treat each other as people, truly respect each other's differences, and truly see each other." ”
Although there is no uniform measure of love and unlove, cuteness can be felt.
A man's love is reflected in his actions, the more he knows how to respect you, it is not easy to feel sorry for you, and the man who knows to defend you, the more he loves you.
When encountering such a good man, women must know how to cherish, to know that marriage is inseparable from the management of two people, need to take care of each other, then complete each other, and find happiness that belongs to each other.
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