People who have changed their hearts are most afraid of the three problems they face
In the middle of the night, thinking that in the middle of the night, an old brother who had known me for many years called me to talk about it, he fell in love with a divorced woman, although he thought he was divorced, he could not imagine that a man in his forties was actually trapped by love, crying... It's how hard it is to love.
His question disturbed me and made me think quietly alone, like the Taoist Zhuangzi, allowing my thoughts to be mused, forgetting myself, and letting it wander.
No matter how powerful a person is, he can tell lies to the extreme, but the person he (she) can never deceive in this life is himself.
In fact, no matter whether men and women choose to leave decently if they don't love, this is the best respect for each other's "love", but the truth of the reality of leaving the most heartfelt is a long-planned seamless connection, so turning around can be so decisive and ruthless.
Tonight I put together an article about emotions, and the rejoicer took it upon himself.
If the change of mind, with the body and mind as the center, spreads infinitely to the depths of life, it means that there is a moral distance, and it is inevitable to be criticized and harshly criticized.
Some lovers change their hearts is not in love with other people, but gradually do not love, this is not a run-in to the tired of the situation, but completely do not love, the love of the past is true, today's love is more of a fact, any stage has a remarkable place, once loved vigorously into the bone of the real number of romance, now the dismal ending is also inevitable, no one stipulates that love must have results, too much love can only end in regret, but with memories to remember the past.
So how to correctly detect the other party's change of mind? When you ask the other party a few questions, the other party begins to dodge and evade, which is the best proof of the change of heart, if there is no ghost in the heart, what is the worry? If you don't have more thoughts in your mind, what is the panic?
For example, when you ask the other party what so-and-so is doing at such a time, especially at a certain point in the past, if the answer received is ambiguous, and it is mainly around the distance, nine times out of ten is to escape the facts; for the future and future plans, less enthusiasm, missing a positive, you can feel your loneliness and embarrassment, which is also a sign of change of heart; afraid that you get along with each other's relatives and friends, afraid of showing the horse's feet, It is especially taboo for you to participate in intimate intercourse.
It is difficult to see a heart, it is even more difficult to find happiness in a lifetime, I hope that you can stop the loss in time, and can love and be loved correctly, if it is not the right person in your life, please learn to give up and be perfect, and it may be more meaningful to love yourself.
People who have changed their hearts are most afraid of the three questions you ask
[01] So-and-so time, what are you doing
People who have ghosts in their hearts are difficult to lie, and the more they cover up, the easier it is to expose the panic and entanglement in their hearts.
Once a person has told a lie, he needs countless lies to complete, and this practice of demolishing the eastern wall to make up for the western wall will give you a kind of disorganized companionship, which is different from before. The original single-mindedness made you feel gentle and relaxed, and now the cover-up and avoidance will make you feel weird, for example, the eyes are floating, the behavior is shy, and the look is slightly awkward.
When a person changes his mind, if you ask the other person the question, "What are you doing at noon the day before yesterday, with whom?" Most of them will receive the other party's vague answer, not a vague memory, just instinctive panic and chaos, hate can not immediately find a way to repair, but do not know which reason to deal with you.
Yes, the recent time is still easy to deal with, I am afraid of being asked about the longer time period, what exactly is done, what happened, who are the main participants, the more people who have ghosts in their hearts, the more difficult it is to respond accurately, and the answers given to you may be various, but it makes people cry and laugh.
If all words and deeds are still within the bottom line and the scope of principles, there is no need to worry, after all, everyone has a moment of wandering, being able to tolerate and understand is deep love, once the bottom is reached, it is recommended that you do not forgive and be soft-hearted, love can be generous and tolerant, but can not be indulged.
[02] Everything about the future
People who have changed their hearts are easy to freeze their feelings on a certain period of time in the past, unwilling to move forward, and the atmosphere and feeling of getting along are rigid in their hearts, and they stagnate loving and being loved, neither accepting your efforts nor willing to pay.
When you ask about the other person's "future" and "future", the other party will most likely make you stunned, for example, silence, long silence, find a lot of reasons to leave your communication, or directly get rid of your relationship, change the topic, find some of the non-talk.
We are not children, there will always be instinctive reactions in the face of emotional problems, as well as subconscious touches, the more people who have no feelings, the more they like to pull things and pull things, that is, they are not willing to face the feelings of feelings, the more affectionate people like to move closer to feelings.
Regarding everything in the future, the other party will make you unable to see hope, even if you try to guide and hint, the other party cannot let you find a little trace, because the heart is long gone, the more you look forward to it, the more disappointed you may be, it is better to calm your mind.
A feeling that loses the future is doomed to be unworthy of perseverance and waiting, if we can see through the truth, it will also fulfill our respective happy choices, give each other full freedom, and we can also be liberated and redeemed.
When love is no longer alive, the only way out is to learn to respect the facts, treat yourself with affection, and fulfill others by letting go.
[03] About the coexistence of parents, friends and colleagues
People who have changed their hearts are particularly afraid of being asked by you about the relationship between relatives, friends and colleagues, especially if you want to interview and communicate with them, it is easier to escape and retreat, because of such confrontation, won't everything be the truth revealed?
Getting along alone may not explain anything, but the participation of a third party will give you some truth exposure, so that you have to see clearly whether the other party's heart is still there.
In the time and space you don't know, the other party may have already told the relatives and friends around them about their emotional changes and shifts, but you are still in the dark, so when you try to ask the other party about dinner and meeting, most of them will clearly see each other's uneasiness and nervousness, and sometimes directly refuse.
People who have changed their hearts generally do not allow you to continue to be close to their social dimensions, even if you can still be friends, they will mind the occurrence of this kind of thing, not afraid of your entanglement, but unwilling to re-examine their own morality, after all, the change of heart is somewhat disgraceful, and people who leave early will inevitably be condemned by the world, and it seems that no one is willing to bear this criticism.
Everyone has dignity and face, so when they try to hide their decency, it just shows that there is a subtle change of heart, but you need some evidence to support this answer.
With the people you know best, you may not be able to see through the inner changes, but with others, especially people who are more familiar with each other, the answer will be clear at a glance, just because the other party has never hidden in other social interactions, but only has a defense and routine for you.
Seeing a heart clearly can also be through the attitude of others, and the neutrality of the third party objectively gives people a transparent cognition.