On July 7, 1926, a wedding was held in Beijing, the groom was Xu Zhimo, the most famous talent at that time, the bride was Lu Xiaoman, the "first lady of the Republic of China" who was known to everyone in Beijing, with the fame of these two people, this wedding should be very luxurious and grand, I did not expect that there were only a few couplets on the scene, and some small snacks were placed on the table. What is even stranger is that the parents of both sides are not present, and the scene is very deserted.
The only guest with weight was Xu Zhimo's mentor Liang Qichao, but when Liang Qichao opened his mouth, his marriage testimony was even more frightening to the audience, and he not only did not speak auspicious words, but scolded: "Xu Zhimo, you are an impetuous person, so you have no achievements in learning, you are not dedicated, so that you divorce and remarry... In the future, we must change the past and redo the new people! More sarcastic: "I wish you this is the last wedding." Everyone present was shocked, and Xu Zhimo and Lu Xiaoman also tried to find a hole in shame.
Why was this wedding of the century unattended? Why did Liang Qichao say such a harsh word and "wash the face" of the newcomer on the spot? Get a glimpse of Xu Zhimo's emotional entanglement with the 3 most important women in his life, including Yuan With Zhang Youyi, Lin Huiyin, the first talented woman in the Republic of China, and Lu Xiaoman, the first yuanjian in Beijing.
When it comes to Xu Zhimo, there are two things that are impressive, the first is his poetry, and the second is his feelings.
Xu Zhimo, known as Zhang'an, pen name Nanhu, Yunzhonghe, etc., a native of Haining, Zhejiang, is a representative of the Crescent Poetry School, a modern poet and essayist. In a word, Xu Zhimo was a great poet in the Republic of China, and his poetry was selected into the language textbook, which is enough to illustrate his achievements in poetry. However, Xu Zhimo's attitude toward marriage has been criticized by the world.
Xu Zhimo was born in a famous family, and the family has produced many famous people, such as Jin Yong is Xu Zhimo's cousin, and Qiong Yao is Xu Zhimo's cousin. His parents were in business because of their food and clothing, and Xu Zhimo studied very hard and seriously since he was a child, and his grades were always among the best. When Xu Zhimo was a teenager, the Xinhai Revolution broke out, and he repeatedly wrote books in newspapers to talk about the political situation, making him a little famous. Of course, looking at his growth history, in today's parlance, it is definitely a life of opening and hanging.
In 1915, Shima graduated from Hangzhou No. 1 Middle School and studied at Shanghai Hujiang University, Tianjin Beiyang University, and Peking University.
In 1918, he went to Clark University in the United States to study banking. He graduated in ten months with a bachelor's degree and a first-class honorary award. In the same year, he transferred to the graduate school of Columbia University in New York and entered the Department of Economics.
In 1921, he went to England to study, and entered Cambridge University as a special student, studying political economy. During his two years at Cambridge, he was deeply influenced by Western education and the influence of European and American Romantic and Aesthetic poets, which laid the foundation for his Romantic poetic style.
In 1923, the Crescent Society was established. In 1924, he became a professor at Peking University. In 1926, he became a professor at Guanghua University (the predecessor of East China Normal University), Daxia University and Nanjing Central University.
In 1930, Xu Zhimo resigned from his posts in Shanghai and Nanjing, and at the invitation of Hu Shizhi, he was once again a professor at Peking University and a professor at Beijing Women's Normal University.
On November 19, 1931, Xu Zhimo took the "Jinan" postal plane to the north, but due to heavy fog on the way, the plane touched the mountain and unfortunately died.
"What a countryman" was dissatisfied with his original wife and forced an abortion
When Xu Zhimo was studying at Hangzhou Fu Middle School, a Zhejiang official, Zhang Jiaxuan, visited the school, and when he flipped through the students' homework, he was attracted by an article and immediately saw Xu Zhimo's talent.
And Zhang Jiaxuan also inquired about Xu Zhimo's origins everywhere, and after hearing that he was born into a rich merchant family, he had an idea that he wanted his sister Zhang Youyi to marry into the Xu family and immediately wrote a letter to the Xu family. Xu Fu was also shocked to receive this letter, because Zhangjia Mendi was very prominent, either a high-ranking official or a banker or an entrepreneur. Therefore, Xu Zhimo's marriage with Zhang Youyi was thus settled.
When she married Xu Zhimo, Zhang Youyi was only 16 years old. But from the moment of marriage, Xu Zhimo hated the marriage from the bottom of his heart, because "the words of the door to the household and the words of the matchmaker" were simply insulting to Xu Zhimo, who advocated the free love of Western culture.
When Xu Zhimo first saw Zhang Youyi's photo, the corners of his mouth immediately hung down and blurted out: "Really a countryman" In Xu Zhimo's eyes, Zhang Youyi was not fashionable enough and was still the appearance of a traditional Chinese woman. On the night of the wedding, Xu Zhimo even fled the cave to express his dissatisfaction with the marriage, and eventually the marriage lasted only 3 years, but their actual time together did not add up to 4 months.
According to Zhang Youyi, "In addition to fulfilling the basic obligations of marriage, Xu Zhimo ignored me, but only obeyed his parents' wishes to hold their grandchildren." As soon as his son was born, Xu Zhimo felt that he had fulfilled his duty to pass on the generations and could not wait to study in the United States alone.
Xu Zhimo, who came to the United States in 1918, graduated from Clark University with honors at the age of 23, and then was admitted to the graduate school of Columbia University, and got a master's degree in half a year. After that, he came to Cambridge University.
On the other hand, Zhang Youyi, who is far away in China, also asked a tutor to study hard, hoping that she can improve her knowledge and look forward to the day when she and her husband are reunited to make the distance between the two closer. Soon after, Xu Zhimo really sent a letter, hoping that she would go abroad to accompany her, and Zhang Youyi also rekindled her hopes, and without saying a word, she packed her bags and set off. But when she came to England with hope, her heart was half cold.
Xu Zhimo looked at her with displeasure, still thinking that she was dressed in a tacky manner and humiliated his face in Europe, and then he pulled Zhang Youyi to the department store and randomly picked out dresses, shoes, and hats, regardless of what his wife liked.
Zhang Youyi stayed in London temporarily, and soon became pregnant again, but when she told Xu Zhimo the news, Xu Zhimo had no joy at all, and only coldly left a sentence: "Beat the child." Zhang Youyi said in fear: "Someone died because of a beating." Xu Zhimo replied: "There are still people who have died because of train accidents, do you see that people don't take the train?" After this, Xu Zhimo was busy with his studies and disappeared. In addition, Zhang Youyi also found that Xu Zhimo often received English letters with great joy, and out of the woman's sixth sense, she immediately realized that Xu Zhimo may have someone outside.
Regardless of the identity of a husband with a wife, he enthusiastically pursued Lin Huiyin, the "first talented woman of the Republic of China"
It turned out that Xu Zhimo met the Chinese politician and diplomat Lin Changmin and his daughter Lin Huiyin in a speech, Lin Huiyin was elegant in temperament, outstanding in learning, and full of talent, Xu Zhimo was deeply attracted almost the first time he saw her, and launched a fanatical pursuit of Lin Huiyin, completely forgetting that he was a husband with a wife.
Mentioning Lin Huiyin, I have to mention Lin Changmin by the way, Lin Changmin graduated from Waseda University, the first private institution in Japan, and after returning to China, he opened Fuzhou No. 2 Middle School and Fujian Political Science and Law College, and was the chief justice of The Duan Qirui government, and was a cultural and political celebrity during the Republic of China period.
The most admirable thing about Lin Changmin is that he not only has a wide range of knowledge and attaches importance to education, but also has advanced ideas, is open-minded, treats his sons and daughters equally, and is particularly fond of Lin Huiyin, who has been clever and clever since childhood.
In 1925, Lin Changmin served as an aide to the Fengshi general Guo Songling, participated in the campaign against Zhang Zuolin, and was killed by a stray bullet.
In 1922, Zhang Youyi gave birth to her second son, and a few days after giving birth, Xu Zhimo came to Zhang Youyi's residence. However, the husband did not come to take care of his wife who had just returned from the hospital, nor did he visit his son, but asked Zhang Youyi to sign a divorce consent.
At this time, Zhang Youyi was only 22 years old, and said with some slight postpartum melancholy and pain: "Can I wait until I inform my parents before making a decision?" Xu Zhimo impatiently refused, asking her to sign on the spot, and when she signed the daimyo, she stood up excitedly and said, "Great! We must divorce in order to get China rid of the old feudal and conservative thinking! ”
In November 1922, Xu Zhimo published the "Notice of Divorce of Xu Zhimo Zhang Youyi" in a Chinese newspaper, which shocked the society and challenged the traditional and conservative concept of marriage in China at that time, and Xu Zhimo was quite proud of it. And this incident has also formed a temporary trend, and more advocates of Western thinkers have divorced for divorce.
After the divorce, Xu Zhimo immediately turned back to Lin Huiyin, but Lin Huiyin had left Europe at that time, and she was also very miserable, she liked Xu Zhimo as a person, but he was a man with marriage and family. Coupled with Xu Zhimo's divorce, Lin Huiyin felt that she had inadvertently hurt another woman, and she finally rationally rejected the great talent Xu Zhimo, and then went to the United States to study with Liang Sicheng, the son of Liang Qichao, and married.
In 1924, Xu Zhimo returned to China at the age of 27 and became a professor at Peking University, during which he suddenly thought that his ex-wife did not know what was wrong, so he ran to the Zhang family to visit, but he did not expect to be frightened by the scene in front of him as soon as he entered the door! In the hall hung a huge portrait of a boy, which was a posthumous photograph of his second son, and Xu Zhimo felt guilty that he had never fulfilled his father's duty.
After this incident, Xu Zhimo fell in love again, and he fell in love with the most famous "social flower" in Beijing at that time, "the first lady in Beijing", but she was the wife of a husband and a good friend of Xu Zhimo, and this love was finally full of storms.
Remarried with Lu Xiaoman, causing a storm in the city and rebellion
It is said that the best way to make up for a relationship is to start a new relationship as soon as possible, and Xu Zhimo soon ushered in his new relationship.
At that time, after Xu Zhimo returned to Beiping, because of his depressed mood, he often gathered with his friends, and he met Lu Xiaoman, the wife of his friend Wang Geng. Seeing Lu Xiaoman, who was bright and fashionable, she was burned!
Lu Xiaoman's family lineage is also very prominent, and his father was a national government official in Nanjing. And Lu Xiaoman is not just a famous lady who loves to run, she is proficient in English, French, painting, opera and so on. Moreover, she married Wang Geng, a senior police officer and director of the Harbin Police Department at the time, Wang Geng was outstanding in appearance, graduated from Tsinghua University, and also went to the United States to study at West Point Military Academy, which can be said to be the social elite at that time, so why did Lu Xiaoman finally have an affair with Xu Zhimo?
Originally, Lu Xiaoman and Xu Zhimo's encounter was very similar, her marriage with Wang Geng was arranged by her parents, the parents of both sides negotiated a month later to get married, when the fresh period of the new marriage passed, Lu Xiaoman, who had a lively and outgoing personality and was naïve, gradually felt that her husband Wasuna and did not like to socialize, the personality and lifestyle of the two were far from each other; Lu Xiaoman was gradually dissatisfied with the marriage, thinking that Wang Geng had drunk foreign ink and was still so confused. Sometimes, when Wang Geng was busy with official affairs and could not accompany Lu Xiaoman, he would ask his friend Xu Zhimo to accompany and take care of his wife. Unexpectedly, the two actually had a love seedling.
And Lu Xiaoman is also fascinated by this humorous and personable talent, in order to divorce her husband, Lu Xiaoman fiercely beat up the child in his belly, and can't wait to marry Xu Zhimo. But after The news of Xu Zhimo's involvement with a friend's wife spread in his circle of friends, almost everyone was very dismissive of the marriage between the two of them, so it was only on the wedding day that Liang Qichao angrily scolded the newlyweds.
So, Xu Zhimo and Lu Xiaoman, who advocate free love, have finally become dependents since then? Reality is far harsher than imagination.
After the two married, they lived a life like a god and a companion, but Xu Zhimo's act of deviating from etiquette provoked the second elder of the family, not only did he not allow Lu Xiaoman to enter the Xu family's gate, but he was also cut off from jin aid. During the period when the two lived in Shanghai, Lu Xiaoman's life was profligate, and even if Xu Zhimo earned a high salary of 1,000 yuan per month (at that time, the average teaching staff earned about 500 yuan per month), it still did not cover the cost of Lu Xiaoman's mansion, people, smoking and socializing. Therefore, Xu Zhimo had to go around and teach part-time, running back and forth between Shanghai, Nanjing, and Beijing, and the quarrels between the two became more frequent.
On November 18, 1931, Xu Zhimo returned to his home in Shanghai, but unexpectedly, as soon as the couple met, they quarreled over money, and Lu Xiaoman even took a smoking gun and smashed Xu Zhimo's gold wire glasses. Xu Zhimo looked at the broken lenses on the ground, even though he was full of anger, but there was nothing he could do, his wife was indeed chosen by herself, and he also loved Landing Xiaoman, Xu Zhimo turned around and left the house, because he was going to Lin Huiyin's speech in Beijing the next day.
On November 19, he boarded a free postal cargo plane, because he had no money, wanted to save a transportation fee, did not want to be foggy, the plane crashed in the mountains, so that a generation of poets and talents died young at the age of 34.
This news shocked the Chinese literary scene, but also made Lin Huiyin feel deeply guilty, and also asked her husband to go to Xu Zhimo's crash site to pick up a piece of debris and hang it at home forever to commemorate this friend; on the other hand, Lu Xiaoman, who was drunk and dead, did not dare to believe the news, and her spirit was on the verge of collapse, after which she never appeared in social occasions again, and reinvigorated and sorted out all of Xu Zhimo's works for publication.
After Xu Zhimo's death, Lu Xiaoman was almost overwhelmed by the verbal abuse of the outside world, and also lived a very poor life, but at this time, there was a person who reached out to her and helped her life from time to time, that is, Xu Zhimo's ex-wife Zhang Youyi, who had originally become an abandoned woman, was not depressed, but made up her mind to make up for her regret of not finishing her education.
While raising young children, she studied early childhood education and learned German in Germany, and even after the death of her second son, she endured grief and took care of everything alone. After returning to China, when Zhang Youyi became the vice president of Shanghai Women's Commercial Bank, she turned a loss into a profit in a short period of time, and then founded Shanghai's first fashion company "Yunsheng Fashion", which became the top fashion brand in Shanghai.
Although, in Xu Zhimo's eyes, she is not beautiful and moving, not humorous and dexterous, but her simplicity and strength are better than all this that Xu Zhimo attaches importance to, and in the case that Xu Zhimo has not fulfilled the duties of a husband and a father, she has made a gorgeous turn after the loss of marriage with her own efforts, becoming the most inspirational story in the early years of the Republic of China.
Xu Zhimo has three relationships in his life, family arrangement, love and not, mirror flowers and water, perhaps for him, he enjoys only the spiritual world brought to him by feelings, but when he really takes responsibility, all he chooses is to escape.
For literary works, Xu Zhimo is undoubtedly a great poet, but for the family, he is a complete loser.
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