Screenshot of the TV series "Acquaintance with Junchu"
Once people learn to let go, it is as if they are old, no longer have the momentum of youth, no longer envy those advantages, but like the plain, because it is true and serene, which is very comfortable.
In "Acquaintance with junchu", Kong Ming is a person who has lived out his self in the true sense, because he is not accustomed to the tyrannical rule of the TianshiFu and chooses to leave, to be a hanging pot and a scattered immortal, and the rest of his life will only do what he is willing to do, no longer bound by anyone and things.
And Luo Jinsang is just a fairy attendant next to ji Yunhe, the imperial spirit master of the Valley of Flowers, in her thoughts, except for Ji Yunhe, there is only a fascination with wealth, but this is not desire, but wants to rely on wealth to find a way out of freedom, is a simple but affectionate woman.
When two people meet like this, it is conceivable that the life they can go to between them must be ordinary and simple, but it will certainly become a relationship that is envied by most people, for these reasons.
01
If you have less desire, you will be at ease
In any era, the image we have seen most in the crowd is exhaustion, and everyone seems to be living with a heavy burden, and the reason is nothing more than wealth and power.
Money can bring many benefits to people, but in the final analysis, it is to serve oneself, because its existence allows people to do his role well, and the identity of father and son and husband needs to be maintained.
After doing a good job of this identity, people will choose to do something good to him, and this is also the beginning of a test of a person, some will become slaves to money because of desire, some will play out of character because of money, but a very small number of people can jump out of this logical relationship and become a real hero.
Emptiness is like a hero, in his world, living out the appearance of temperament, doing what he wants to do, such a person, his heart is clean, and can bring the positive side of the sun to the people around him.
Although he usually does not trim the edges and dresses simply, his heart is by no means as sloppy as he appears, but rather a manifestation of the vitality of the essence of life.
And Luo Jinsang, who has formed a romantic relationship with it, this fairy spirit transformed into a butterfly, loves money in his bones, but his mind is particularly frank, and he likes and anger can be seen through at a glance, and there is nothing hidden.
People like her, the treatment of emotions will appear very simple, without any ulterior motives, with her, will reduce a lot of suspicion, and now met the empty ming can be said to be just the right pair.
Less desire will make people feel at ease, it will make a relationship can be in a balance for a long time, that is, you don't have to think about her reasons for existence, everything is so simple and warm.
02
There is no need to accommodate or please
In emotions, the more stable way of getting along is harmony, you can use tolerance to face each other, you can use dependence to promote balance, and you can also use gratitude to stabilize the situation, but the most reassuring thing is that there is no need to accommodate and please.
There is no comparison of the abilities between Kong ming and Luo Jinsang, one is the outside and the other is Annei, each has its own advantages, they do not have any conflict together, but complement each other, which makes it difficult to produce a recognition between status.
I have to admit that most couples will have some problems in their mode of getting along, and these problems can be attributed to the imbalance of each other's abilities, that is, the wife is strict or the big man, these problems if they can not sort out a balance, it is likely to make their relationship to the end.
Behind men's change of heart is basically because of the uncontrollable situation, and behind women's cheating is often because of the lack of a sense of need.
For the situation, in a relationship, if you can clearly feel what kind of consequences will be created if you go on like this with someone, and make preventive preparations, when you confirm that you cannot save the situation, you will take the lead in withdrawing from the other party's world.
The lack of a sense of need is often because of the prejudgment that they have no value in the other party's body, and they will choose a way of valuable existence, so they will have the idea of cheating, and only a very small number of people can win under this idea, and will often fall into the cycle again.
If you want a relationship to be long-lasting, you will inevitably lose the difference in status, whether it is a man or a woman, you need to let go of such stereotypes, not who relies on living with it, but two people have only one attitude, that is, to manage their feelings well.
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, maintain self-form
The feelings between Kong Ming and Luo Jinsang came very suddenly, but it was this suddenness that confirmed the fate of such a statement, it did not take too much time to understand each other, after meeting the identified one, no longer think about others.
After a lifetime of love, there is a common point, that is, the first he is still him, the last self is still himself, so do not forget the original heart, love must always be.
There is no perfect person, no matter how superior he is inside and outside, he is full of impurities, and under the background of this impurity, the image that appears is the self.
There is no need to live as others expect, nor to deliberately change the truth, if she meets the right person, she is willing to accept her own imperfections, then you can take a journey with her, no matter what kind of story you want to experience, there will be a chance to forgive.
Just like Kong Ming and Luo Jinsang, they are two different selves, and the love fireworks that collide will appear very sincere, because they know each other's bad luck and will still accept each other at the moment.
The benevolence hidden by the scruffy appearance was caught by Luo Jinsang at a glance, and under his own unreasonable and troublesome status, there was a compassionate self hidden in his eyes, which was also seen by The Void.
You said that if two people like this can meet, it is not a doomed love affair, and the most important thing is that when they take this love road, they still do not violate their original self, but just find a commensurate shadow, which is enough to comfort the rest of their lives.
Many people say that love can change a person, but they don't know that it does not change this person, but the real self has always been there, but with a world that belongs to two people, it will make them have an aura that belongs to them, so it is shown in this form.