Original debut Infringement must be investigated
Mom's youth
□ Wu Qiong / Wen
In her novel "Mother's Island", Tao Liqun describes a very bizarre but touching story: the mother is a woman who has never let her children and husband see her make decisions and changes for herself, from the moment the children have memories, she is a housewife who revolves around the family, cooking, washing, cleaning the house, rationally arranging the daily life of her children and husband, all the housework is handled by her, and the life is in order. However, the mother was not happy because it was not the life she was supposed to have, and she lived such a life, entirely because of a kind of self-sacrifice. The husband thought she had little ability on the outside, and the people around her thought that this peaceful and unashamed housewife should rightfully play the role of a little woman.
This is not the case.
Finally one day my mother made a surprising decision: she was going to go out alone for a while. On a small island, she began her own life, no longer serving her husband and children all day, she raised a lot of poultry, which she then sold, and was popular because of her excellent quality, fully realizing the embodiment of self-worth.
This reminds me of many seemingly harmonious but in fact very unreasonable family combinations today: the unemployed hostess has turned herself from crystal clear to a dirty face for the sake of the family, and she has to endure the saying that if she can't go out to make money, she should work hard and settle down. In fact, they are not incapable of working, but only for the need to play a good role. And those family members who make money outside are only responsible for getting their salaries back, and as for how to spend, how to use them reasonably, how to get a balance, how to make the family more comfortable, it is entirely up to the woman who does not work to arrange. Therefore, although the person who makes money is you, it is she who supports the family.
In fact, every mother before taking on the burden of the family, has been a girl with a beautiful dream, for my mother, I do not want to use the title of mother here, please let me call her mother, because mother is too heavy, too mature word, and mother is full of affection and warmth, can let me forget the years she has traveled and suffered, but also forget her age, as if I am still the child who was held by her big hand and small hand.
My mother also had some ideals and ambitions when she was young, and when she was a student, she was at the top of every exam, but unfortunately she did not enter the university, and then, she usually became a factory worker, which made her still often complain to me in retrospect. However, my mother was not behind or self-defeating, on the contrary, she accepted new things faster than I did, and her ability to learn on her own was stronger than mine.
Mom has signed up to study in various WeChat groups, mini programs, and cloud classrooms, from eloquence to cultivation, from ancient poetry to psychology, every lesson is on time to enter the group, take notes seriously, and the next day I have to review it again, and every homework is also written with heart. When she saw that he had received the praise of the teacher, it was as if the primary school student had been praised by the class teacher, and the wheel of time had regressed decades on her, retreating to her fragrant and infinite youth.
Recently, she began to learn to write a book manuscript, and in order to practice introducing the outline, ideas and value of a book, reading became a compulsory course for her. Her small bookshelf is full of "The Weakness of Human Nature", "Li Qingzhao's Biography", "Absolute Top", "Siege of the City"... Through this, I seem to see her working hard in the classroom decades ago.
If I could turn back the clock, I really want my mother to go back to the moment when she began to put into action for her life plan, whether the dream came true or not, at least give her a process of working hard to achieve her ideals, and not let her have so many regrets.