When arguing, you can see a man's true heart the most.
We care about that person, we will use our hearts and feelings to quarrel with him, and the quarrel between couples and couples is a new discovery, a kind of life adjustment, and a kind of understanding.
When we were young, we thought we would break up every time we quarreled, and when we grew up, the quarrel was no longer a discovery, a concoction, an understanding, but an interdependence.
"What is happiness? On a sunny day, you can dry the quilt and chat. Nestled in the house on a cloudy day, quarreling and beating children when there was nothing to do. "I think that the love that everyone wants is not to not quarrel, but to be able to be together after a quarrel.
The noise at the head of the bed, the end of the bed and the end of the bed, is what a husband and wife should look like. And the man who really loves you, when arguing, is actually very "instigated".
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When couples quarrel, men who really love you are actually (often) very "provocative".
"All the way with you" is a variety show reality show, I remember once, the program team invited Liu Jialing as a special guest, during dinner, she was curious to ask, Zhang Zhilin, Yuan Yongyi and his wife, when quarreling, who will let whom first?
Zhang Zhilin was very helpless to say that he had always let her go, no matter whose fault it was, he would choose to take the initiative to apologize. On the side of Sha Yi, Hu Ke and his wife could not hold back, Sha Yi said with a bitter smile, in our family, I have been apologizing from beginning to end.
Even if the other party makes unreasonable trouble, stirs up nonsense, and makes something out of nothing. He kept apologizing and coaxing until his wife's anger subsided. At that moment, we discovered that in fact, all happy marriages are the same.
It's all women who marry a good man who is willing to tolerate you, be considerate of you, and pamper you at any time. Even when there is a quarrel, when the mood is not so beautiful.
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This is true of celebrity couples, and it is also true of marriages with friends around them. She and her husband have been married for five years, have a baby daughter, and live separately on weekdays, because of the industry, her husband has to choose to go to work in other places.
Because the salary is twice as much as the local, and since then, everything has been pressed on her, and what is even more valuable is that she earns more than her husband, and the working hours are relatively flexible, so she can take care of her daughter's diet and living.
When the mother knows, taking the child is an incomparably hard thing, much more tired than going to work, the days are long, she can't hold back, every time the husband comes home, she can't help but make a big fuss, is it not true that he made any mistakes?
Rather, she felt wronged in her heart, why should I bear so much? Why can you do nothing but work? And, you still don't make as much as I do? In terms of family contribution, is it even less?
Even I pay almost all the family expenses.
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The husband naturally understands the grievances in the wife's heart. Therefore, the 4 days of vacation time every month, for him, is particularly precious, in addition to pleasing his wife, daughter, family, all the housework, cooking, cleaning he has covered.
Every time when his wife quarreled and cried bitterly, he would also shed tears, and every time two people hugged and cried for a while, nothing happened after crying. In the eyes of her friends, her husband is really instigated, and everything is decided by her wife.
Even quarrelsome, but also with the wife to cry together, all said that the boy has tears do not flick, but their husbands, as long as the wife cries, he is allowed to cry. And it was worse than she was crying, as if there were more grievances in her heart than she did.
It is said that every family has a difficult scripture, and it is easy to live a life. But it is undeniable that the men who behave very much in marriage are actually the people who really love their wives, and they are all her in their hearts and eyes.
Even if it is not so outstanding, there is a heart that loves her wholeheartedly.