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A writer once wrote such a sentence: "Choosing an easy path will make you slowly addicted like a drug addict." Once you find a logical reason for yourself, the more you indulge in simplicity and eventually tend to be mediocre. ”
In fact, this is to say that most of us, who were once not hesitant to be full of ambition, but reality has worn us out of temper, without edges and corners, without ideals and fighting spirit. As a result, we inevitably become mediocre.
When the class reunion, the topic of men is always career, and women often end up talking about husbands and children, and at the party of fifteen years after college, several sisters in our dormitory also gathered, talking about the experience of these years, everyone is a sigh.
I remember that the lower bunk was a girl with a great dream, when she was about to walk out of the school, her family hoped that she could return to them and then find a stable teaching career, but she also had a grand dream in her heart, that is, to fly proudly in the headwind like Wu Shihong, the working queen of the year.
But fifteen years on, what is her condition? "I graduated from college, divorced at 40, and had nothing." It was a wail she uttered at the party.
Perhaps as the saying goes, most women go through the test of feelings. Love and family are undoubtedly a disaster for women.
She said that even she did not expect that in order to take the first place in performance, she often rushed to the promotion plan in the middle of the night, she could become today, only knowing that chasing the drama, and the mothers gossiped about the parents' short, and then worried about the future of the children A few times of the fallen woman, as for the rest, she will not, and even she feels that she is still suffering from social phobia.
The reason why she was confused and afraid, because the love and family she had given everything for completely disappointed her, and she was divorced some time before the party, because her husband betrayed her, the divorce was also proposed by her husband, the children belonged to her, and she had nothing else.
So, she often woke up in nightmares for nearly half a year, and then there was the tension and anxiety day after day, and she asked us if this life was over.
I suddenly remembered a very practical saying: "One thought of heaven, one thought of hell." "Whether your situation is good or bad is actually determined by your heart. You think that the future is getting worse and worse, and it will really fall in that direction, but if you have the courage to rewrite your destiny, then you will definitely see a turning point in your life.
Life in the world, not everyone is fortunate to get the favor of heaven, life is smooth sailing people are really very few, most of us have experienced ups and downs, step by step, who is not in the past?
Only those who can bravely move forward and surpass themselves are the ultimate winners.
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I used to envy others for having a proud figure and a delicate face, and I always thought that only such a woman would call the wind and rain in the workplace, and there would be shelter all the way, until I saw a counterattack from a sister who was nearly fifty years old.
Shortly after graduation, I was hired in the planning department of a media company, which has a lot of business every day, and there are often many strangers who come to visit, and some of them are our competitors to inquire about information, so we are not friendly to everyone.
Once, a woman dressed in an untrimmed and unstructured manner knocked on the door of the planning department, and she wanted to introduce her company's products to us and then seek cooperation in a suitable way.
It is undeniable that although we are also women, we are also judged by their appearance, and when she saw our smiling faces with contempt, she silently turned and left, and I thought that such ridicule was enough to make a woman lose all her confidence and no longer dare to humiliate herself, but I did not expect that the next day she came again, and we still got her away in the same way.
But what no one expected was that when she came to visit for the fifth time, we actually agreed to cooperate with her. The fifth time, she was dressed delicately and competently, spoke significantly more coherently than the previous ones, and seemed to have more confidence.
Later, after a long contact time, we learned that she was a woman who had been abandoned by her husband, and when she first visited our company, she had just obtained a divorce certificate.
Her transformation shocked me, I am not surrounded by women who have not encountered misfortune, but they often give themselves a period of time or venting, or willful time, in the name of adjusting themselves, but I have never seen them anyone really come back, most of them are indulging in resentment and mixing days, and it is rare for people like the eldest sister to endure the pain and counterattack.
If you are not whipped by life and scaled all over your body, who wants to force yourself to endure pain and transcend? However, if you don't want to surpass yourself, life will still make you miserable.
Changing yourself may be painful, but this is only a temporary pain, and not changing is the pain of a lifetime.
Liu Wei, who lost both arms, once said: "Either hurry to die, or live wonderfully." "For a man who has lost both arms, self-care is enough for him to overcome, but who knows, he is not willing to just live, he learned to play the piano with his feet with amazing perseverance, and in the talent show, he won the attention of the crowd."
Gao Xiaosong, a judge on the talent show, commented that he said: "In front of you, I am not a judge, I want to be your friend." You tell us the difference between dreams and desires. ”
On the verge of despair, we have two choices, one is to die, but this is the choice of a coward, and the other is to live wonderfully, which is a brave person.
Each of us has different calamities, some people are emotionally broken, some people are physically mutilated, maybe this is the test given to us by Heaven, it is to test whether you can successfully surpass yourself through what you care about most.
In the face of tests, only those who have faith and courage will find the way to reversal in the worst situation.
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There's a saying that goes something like this: If you don't push yourself, you'll never know how good you are.
So, if you are in a crisis and are full of confusion and fear for the future, then the most important thing you should do is to let go of the burden of your thoughts, stop your endless wild thinking, and then choose one of the thousands of paths you can choose, and go on firmly.
Some people have saved up a house for two years by setting up a stall after being unemployed, some women have been abandoned and then changed into a goddess who cannot be climbed high before they have been abandoned, and some people have finally studied at a key university after several hard studies failures.
Even if we go down the wrong path, we can still adjust our direction and move towards the ultimate goal, and what you have to do is to believe in yourself and keep surpassing yourself. Because you are the only one who can save yourself.
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