Recently, there have been a lot of "happy events" in the entertainment industry, with Junye's big S flash marriage; Xu Weizhou, who posted a marriage certificate; Britney Xiaotian, got married; and even our uncle Li Yapeng also married a 19-year-old wife.
However, celebrities are not everyone's envy in love, and many combinations are also confusing, making people can't help but sigh:
Celebrities have money and beauty and are famous, why find the object, feel completely unworthy of TA's excellence!
But on the other hand, there are also people who look very average in our conditions, but also (always) find great objects:
For example, Li Yapeng, his successive girlfriends/wives are all big beauties with good looks and good bodies. But in fact, he himself is not actually a successful person, whether as a businessman or an actor.
So the question is, what is the "key" to finding a high-quality object?
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Actively pursue the driving force of the opposite sex
The key to finding quality objects
Once, I was having dinner and chatting with a few male friends, and one of them suddenly said, "I want to fall in love."
The person next to him laughed and said that you were going to talk, but the friend sighed and said that he couldn't meet the right one.
Saying that their working environment is too special, there is no resources of the opposite sex, they go home directly after work, and there are no other friends in this city to introduce, they really don't know what to do, and they have a weak heart.
Several other friends also nodded their heads with emotion when they heard this, saying that their situation was similar.
I first opened a circle of friends of a girl from my phone and asked them, "How do you see how this girl feels?" ”
After everyone read it, they said that this girl has a good appearance, and her life looks very emotional, and she is also very literary.
I opened another girl's circle of friends and asked them to look at it again, and it turned out to be even more exciting, saying that this girl had exquisite makeup and her eyes looked charming, and seemed to have a story.
I asked, "If you knew them, would you have the desire to be close to them?" ”
Everyone nodded.
"If I told you that these two girls were single, wouldn't you have more ideas?"
Still the answer in the affirmative.
When a person has a real desire to meet the opposite sex, you will have the self-motivation to look for opportunities to know the opposite sex.
And when you understand that everyone has needs, your drive will be stronger and help you find a way to get to know them.
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The way to choose a mate
With the driving force, it is not enough for people to find the right person, and there is also a way to make friends.
Because no matter how good a person's conditions are, he can only fall in love with people he can contact in his life.
In "By Chance", the male protagonist's friend is the little prince, but he likes the ordinary sister of the male protagonist, the male protagonist is puzzled, and thinks that the conditions are very incompatible, and the prince replies as follows:
Only when you have the opportunity to meet, it is possible to fall in love. If a person meets very few people and there is no good way to expand the circle of friends, even the prince may not be able to find a high-quality other half to match.
If a girl's conditions in all aspects may be very general, but after graduating from a good school, choosing a good industry, and entering a good company, she can be exposed to a large number of high-quality opposite sexes, and the object found may be much better than that of girls with the same conditions.
Just like Li Yapeng, who just married a 19-year-old wife, although he did not have a very popular career or success, his show business circle is indeed convenient to find all kinds of high-value, high-talented women.
So the question is, we have chosen the wrong school, industry, company, how should we open the "way to choose a mate"?
There are the following ways to refer to:
(1) Introduction of parents/relatives/elders
Parents and elders pay more attention to each other's hardware and personality, and do not pay attention to appearance and preferences. If you pay more attention to hardware conditions, you can find the other half in this form.
(2) Work awareness, colleague introduction
Work channels to know the opposite sex, slightly more reliable than the general social network.
(3) Friend introduction/friend/general social
The advantage of this kind of channel is that generally according to their own preferences and values, they can often meet the object of their hearts.
(4) Online dating
In fact, in the current mate selection channel, online dating ranks first, and complete rejection will greatly narrow the mate selection channel. But also be cautious about making friends, there will indeed be a lot of "emotional cheaters" hiding in it.