Uncle Lover's Introduction:
As the saying goes, "Every family has a difficult scripture," and it is true. In contemporary society, the pressure of life leads to impetuousness. Therefore, family life is not always calm, and even because of some trivial matters, it is very noisy and turned upside down. It is said that it is normal for husband and wife to quarrel occasionally, and as a smart woman, the correct approach after an argument can reduce the probability of quarrels later in life. But stupid women always rush to do these three things, have you been tricked?
Flip through old accounts
The so-called bedside quarrel and bedside, after the quarrel, each other can choose to calm down and keep each other silent. After the quarrel, some women always feel how much they have been wronged, when the man remains silent, he begins to turn over the old accounts by himself, the more he says, the more he feels wronged, and the more he chatters.
The wife of my friend Lao Zhang is such a typical example, and Lao Zhang has also complained to me: after the quarrel, sometimes I am ready to try to coax her, but she begins to turn over the old accounts, and the more she says, the more she feels wronged. But she didn't know that the more she said, the less patience I had to coax her, which made our relationship more rigid and more irrepressible. Therefore, women can discuss things when arguing, but try not to turn over old accounts during the quarrel.
In fact, there is no point in turning over the old accounts, because in the process of turning over the old accounts, your emotions are excited, your thoughts are chaotic, and at this time you have intensified the past contradictions into the current quarrels, which will only make your current contradictions unable to end.
Go back to your mother's house
After the husband and wife quarrel, smart women are always able to regulate each other's emotions and alleviate the contradictions between husband and wife, so as to facilitate the harmony of the family. But not all women can be treated rationally when faced with quarrels, and there are always some women who are very stupid, lose their minds when they quarrel, and even think of going back to their mother's house.
Husband and wife quarrels themselves are a very normal thing, at this time you should face this problem squarely, try to calm your mood, because if you do not care, directly pack your bags back to your mother's home, the problem is still there, in fact, this is an avoidant personality.
And smart women in life encounter problems never choose to escape, but to solve problems positively. Going back to your mother's house seems to be the end of the contradiction, in fact, after you come back, there is still a gap between you.
Find the kids to get angry
If there is no quarrel between husband and wife for a long time, it is actually the problem. You will find that there are many families who are happier and happier, what is the reason for this? This is because after each quarrel, they can gain something from the quarrel, thus promoting the development of the relationship.
Therefore, the quarrel itself is not a problem, the occasional quarrel between husband and wife is conducive to the development of feelings, and if the quarrel is treated in an incorrect way, the quarrel is meaningless, and may lead to discord in each other's feelings.
Some women just don't realize this problem, always feel that quarrels are men's mistakes, do not forgive men, and even transfer their emotions to the child, angry at the child. Some women will even deny the children's efforts and growth when they are emotionally superior, and you think about whether as a man can tolerate you?
Uncle Epilogue:
There is no natural happiness in this world, and all happiness is also what each other strives for and manages in marriage. Small quarrels will not affect the happiness of marriage, and what really affects the happiness and harmony of marriage is your inappropriate approach when dealing with problems.