Wen \ Jiang Zuo Mei Niang, Mu Ye
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In the drama "World of People", Zhou Rong is the most scolded woman, although she has been scolded for many reasons, but in the final analysis, it is related to Feng Huacheng.
In order to follow Feng Huacheng, she did not hesitate to break off relations with her parents and elope to marry him. As a result, she became a frivolous and selfish bad woman who could not even be wanted by her parents and brothers in order to elope with men.
Later, Feng Hua became a sub-room, put down the poet's Qinggao, and ran to find someone to vote for his poem, but Zhou Rong no longer admired him, and was eager to get rid of his relationship with him, and Zhou Rong became a snobbish and hypocritical woman in everyone's eyes.
To tell you the truth, at first I also hated Zhou Rong, and then after quitting my emotions and analyzing everything Zhou Rong did for Feng Huacheng, I found that Feng Huacheng was a scumbag, and Zhou Rong was just an independent woman who bravely pursued love. If she had to criticize her, the only thing she needed to criticize was that she had a bad eye.
And she can finally get the fullness of life after divorce, in addition to her efforts to pursue progress, the pursuit of growth, there is the most important point, that is: she finally understands the truth in love, so she finally got the consummation, this woman's life, worth each of us women to learn.
01. Excessive pursuit of soul fit may incur the greatest risk in love
Zhou Rong can live a hard life with Feng Huacheng, not simply because the Virgin's heart is overflowing, bent on saving him who is suffering and suffering, but because she feels that Feng Huacheng is the one whose soul can fit in with herself.
Although her life in Guizhou was arduous, Feng Huacheng greatly satisfied her spiritually. Feng Huacheng can accompany her to talk about poetry and songs, so that poetry and wine can bloom in the coarse tea and light rice; he also helps her establish the "Jinba Village Primary School" in the cave where they live, so that she can realize her long-standing dream of being a teacher; he will also help her pick a large bouquet of wildflowers on the way home to satisfy her pink girl's heart.
In that period of material poverty, suffering is indeed really bitter, but fortunately, Feng Huacheng can always think of going with her and weave a love dream for her, this dream may make many actual women disdainful, but it can make Zhou Rong, who is obsessed with soul fit, not think of suffering, but think of pleasure, and easily go through those hard days.
In the eyes of Zhou Rong, whose soul is rich, even if Feng Huacheng has nothing and his family is too poor to open the pot, she also loves him, and looks at his eyes with stars.
Zhou Rong herself is a pure person, so she loves Feng Huacheng, ostensibly loving his talent, but in fact, his characteristics: innocence and purity, of course, this is what she thought, and it turned out that this was not the case.
So when she knew that Feng Huacheng had given gifts to her mentor through her relationship, she said to him: "You want to win the prize, I understand you, but can this kind of thing not touch me?" ”
This sentence is ostensibly to blame Feng Huacheng for dragging himself into the water, but in fact she blames Feng Huacheng for smashing his image in her mind. In the past, she loved Feng Huacheng because he had a bottom line as a person, not to sell fame and reputation, not to be sleek and sophisticated, even if he was knocked down, he had to stick to his own views and write poems that he thought was right. But now Feng Hua has changed because of an award and a house, becoming vulgar and unrecognizable.
Isn't this the biggest irony for Zhou Rong? This is not a living reminder to Zhou Rong that she was really blind at the beginning, and she did not hesitate to rebel for such a man, and suffered so much, how unworthy! It was difficult for her to tolerate Feng Huacheng's image being disillusioned in her heart, and only then was her language harsh and ruthless. This man completely shattered her concept of love!
Li Zongsheng sang in "Late Marriage":
I never wanted to be single, but I had a premonition of getting married late. I am waiting, the only fit soul in the world.
No wonder he has been married, divorced, remarried, divorced, and remarried, because he has always been looking for a partner with a soul fit, but how in this world is there a soul exactly like him?
As a result, Li Zongsheng frequently left, and Zhou Rong had to divorce in the end. Walking half a life, every one of us women should know that finding a soul mate can be said to be a great ideal, but it is difficult to achieve. Excessive pursuit of soul fit may incur the greatest risk in love.
If you follow this philosophy to find your love, you will find that you will find either a womanizer with a honey-tongued sword, or a hypocritical and sinister person, and it is rarely a man who lives with you steadily.
Poetry about love and happiness will advocate soul fit and resonance, while realistic happiness favors the integrity and thickness of character.
So do you still have to pursue soul fit? Yes, but don't forget what goes with it.
02. Good partner: Be a person of good character, love you, and make up for your character defects
Feng Yue said to Zhou Rong:
In fact, I envy you, when I was young, I was very vigorous with my father. People reach middle age, and there is such a blue-faced confidant as Uncle Xiaoguang, who has been with you all his life, compared with you, my emotional luck is really too bad.
Feng Yue is right, Zhou Rong is a good lucky life, but her relationship with Feng Huacheng in the first half of her life has also paid a huge price, not to mention that in the end, she still found that she was not a person, what is good luck? And behind her and Cai Xiaoguang's stay, this is the real good luck, this man, that is from childhood to love her to grow up loyal dog boyfriend ah!
When she was a child, Cai Xiaoguang liked Zhou Rong, but Zhou Rong was concerned about the twelve-year-old poet Feng Huacheng, and even eloped for "love", while Cai Xiaoguang willingly helped her clean up the mess at home.
Subsequently, he has always kept her in his heart, and if there is anything in the Zhou family, he will try his best to help, and when Zhou Rong encounters difficulties, he will spare no effort to help her.
His love for Zhou Rong is to faithfully hope that she is happy, even if he is not her pillow person, then he is willing to be her flower protector and guard her for a lifetime.
His love for Zhou Rong is not humble, in order to be able to keep up with her footsteps, he tried his best to enter the university, he hoped that he could be more powerful to keep pace with her, and later after graduation, he also became a director, whether it was shooting dramas or later TV series, he was at ease and strong. Such a man, with loyalty, good looks, and strength, is really a good match.
Let's talk about one more thing that he loves Zhou Rong more than Feng Huacheng.
Zhou Rong's biggest problem is that she is too naïve and pure, always thinking of human nature too simply, when she followed Feng Huacheng all the way, and later she became an associate professor, and the selection of talents was also.
In the play, it was said that a student of Zhang Zhaopo and a rich woman were vying to enter Zhou Rong's graduate school, originally Zhou Rong had already set up a rich woman, because the father of the rich woman promised to invest in Cai Xiaoguang's film, but later Zhou Rong repented and gave the quota to Zhang Zhaopo.
Only because Zhang Zhaopo told Zhou Rong that the reason why he wanted to study for Zhou Rong's graduate school was to return to Jinba Village Primary School as a teacher. And Zhou Rong thought that Zhang Zaopo would realize his unfinished youth dream for himself because of Zhang Zhaopo's casual words, so he took it upon himself to give the quota to Zhang Zhaopo, and as a result, the investor withdrew, and Cai Xiaoguang's film was not made.
But later, Zhang Zhaopo reneged on his promise, he did not return to Jinba Primary School as a teacher, but went to work at Jichun Publishing House, because his family was too poor and needed the high salary of the publishing house to support his family, and Zhou Rong realized that he had been deceived.
After Cai Xiaoguang knew, he did not blame Zhou Rong, he respected Zhou Rong's dream, and he respected Zhou Rong even more as a gentleman, he was only slightly disappointed that the balance in Zhou Rong's heart did not tilt to himself. Look, when his own interests were damaged, he didn't have a word of complaint about Zhou Rong, how much love he had!
Compared with Feng Huacheng, when feng Huacheng was asked to return the gift in order to divide the house, Feng Huacheng was so angry that he wanted to beat Zhou Rong, and Cai Xiaoguang, this matter was exactly what he Zhang Luo, but he did not have a word of complaint about her, the two contrasted, who loves Zhou Rong more, heaven and earth can be learned.
This man's love is really deeper and more selfless. It was after these things happened that Zhou Rong, the queen of sea cucumbers, was completely downcast, no longer obsessed with the pursuit of purity, and began to be grounded and cannibalistic fireworks.
Think about it, compared with her overly idealistic, Cai Xiaoguang is cautious and pragmatic, rational and knows how to advance and retreat, so others are well-liked, have many connections, and can simply be Zhou Rong's teacher in terms of human sophistication, which can make up for Zhou Rong's shortcomings very well.
Being with such a man is the rest of my life! Walking for half a lifetime, Zhou Rong suddenly looked back, only to find that the person who really loved her was in the middle of the lights.
After Zhou Rong's parents died one after another, Zhou Rong was heartbroken after the divorce, and he couldn't bear to see her sad, so he said to her:
Let's get married, not sympathy, it's love, I've always loved you, although we've all gone through a certain part of the road that life has arranged, but it's not too late.
This reminds me of Yeats's classics in "When You're Old":
When you're old, your hair is gray, you're drowsy... How many people love the cheerful hours of your youth, your beauty, your falsehood or sincerity, only one loves your pilgrim's soul, loves the painful wrinkles on your aging face.
If love in youth is more because of hormones, love after adulthood is the true love of the soul.
Cai Xiaoguang's actor Wang Yang said:
Cai Xiaoguang and Zhou Rong are soul mates, and they have many points of convergence on the spiritual level. These two people are very capable, not need a companion in life, you can take care of me, I can take care of you like this. The two of them are more of a spiritual thing.
Yes, love is something that belongs to the soul level, it is undeniable that it is high-end and luxurious, Zhou Rong got it, half of it is hard work, half is luck. The effort is manifested in the fact that she has been trying to pursue the height of the spirit and has never slackened off, so she has led Cai Xiaoguang to follow all the way; luck is manifested in that not all people will be like Cai Xiaoguang who has been faithfully waiting, but Zhou Rong has waited.
Some people say, didn't you just write the truth about Cai Xiaoguang's infatuation? Yes, but even if, as written in the original book, he had four lovers, it did not affect the persistence and greatness of this love. In the play, it is even more perfect, and the two people later love each other together, and their hearts are imprinted, and they live and fly twice.
03. Mei Niang said
Excessive pursuit of soul fit, may lead to the greatest risk of love, because the soul of this thing, its appearance we are too ugly to see clearly, like Feng Huacheng, in Zhou Rong's eyes, that was once a god-like need to worship and sacrifice people, it turns out that he is a solid scumbag, like Cai Xiaoguang, in Zhou Rong's eyes, was once an inconspicuous little follower, it turns out that he is the most suitable partner who can truly understand Zhou Rong and love her for a lifetime.
Many people will mention soul fit, and even many men and women in extramarital affairs will feel that they have found a soul mate, but this soul fit is just a cover to cover up their selfish desires. Are souls just looking for a kind of comfort for each other? An emotional resonance?
Of course not, the premise of soul fit is that you have to have a decent and noble soul, you have to have an ideal and goal to fight for, so not all people will have a soul, or not all people's souls are worthy of being called souls.
Compared with Zhou Rong, Feng Huacheng is the real hypocrisy, for the sake of selfish desires, he will not hesitate to obtain a false name, flaunting the market, such a low and despicable soul, does it make sense to resonate with you?
So, we can all pursue soul fit, but we have to ask ourselves, do we have a soul? We also have to borrow a pair of wise eyes from God, so maybe we will have the same happiness as Zhou Rong earlier.
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