Raising small fish: Just now my colleagues and I complained that the boss was dragging out time every time the work was handed over, resulting in the need to use the lunch break to deal with some of it.
Another colleague said you can do it slowly, why take up your own time.
I said that if I do this step late, the next colleague will be later, and I don't want to drag it out.
Colleagues said, and no one said hello.
At this point, I felt unhappy in my heart. Why am I not happy, because what my colleagues say is still the leader's delay or the idea of asking myself to complete the work as soon as possible without adding trouble to others.
Later I concluded that I didn't do this to make people say I was good, but I was willing to do it, and then it was smooth. So much fun!
Mingshuo: Hmmm, it looks like a great scene:
You are sincerely doing well for other colleagues, hoping to hand them over as soon as possible to facilitate their work.
The colleague who speaks to you is sincerely serving you well, does not feel the slightest malice in the language, but thinks completely from your point of view.
The relationship between people is ultimately the relationship between hearts and minds. Happy to have colleagues like each other!
Student asked: After reading Karoo Sauce's notes on psychological counseling last night, inspired by cognitive ABC theory, I made a discovery today.
This morning, I purchased a daily yoga account with a master membership card in Idle Fish, and the account can read the content of the master member card or the ordinary member content.
After practicing this morning, I opened it and listened to it a little bit, and then suddenly I was very sad.
Because the member I bought before was an ordinary member, although this week's adjustment also has a lot of self-gain, but last night's insomnia was too uncomfortable, so I decided to buy a member card with a famous teacher.
I was sad to think that the teacher spoke very well. I thought to myself why didn't you buy this sooner?
A similar experience occurred two days ago when I joined the companions, I was wondering why didn't you come earlier?
Whenever this happens to me, there are actually a lot of emotions in my heart.
First of all, I am in physical discomfort for a long time, and even in the moment of generating emotions, I am very uncomfortable. Whenever I think like this, the memories of a lot of painful bodies in the past come to mind, after all, it is a kind of pain, I really can't do a lot of acceptance, I want to run away and resist, I can't focus on myself, many times it is very uninteresting to brush Weibo to watch short videos, but it is to escape. I am afraid, I fall into constant thinking, and I will be anxious for the rest of my life.
So, sometimes, although I get new progress and gains, it will make me attack myself, why are you so incompetent? How much pain have I suffered because of your incompetence?
Secondly, I understand that some of the past choices have past reasons, and careful analysis is not unacceptable to the causes and consequences. But the idea still comes up very automatically, why don't you do it sooner? Resist seeing the truth of the facts and cannot accept yourself.
But enabling mindful thinking, I actually represent when you don't do this automatic cognitive generation sooner
1, I got new results and took a new step.
2, all the choices are the best choices that can be made at that time.
3, I also need to care about my uncomfortable feelings, I need to give me a hug, whether it was past or present.
So I wanted to replace the automatic "why didn't you do this sooner" with a kind of thinking that synthesized the above truth, but I couldn't summarize it for a while and wanted to hear the teacher's opinion.
Ming Su: Honey, you can try it from this perspective:
"Why didn't you come sooner?"
There is no such "you"! That "you" has disappeared in the time of history, disappeared, and the only thing that exists in the present is the present me.
The only thing that is causing me pain is the real feelings I am experiencing in the present moment. I'm suffering from not experiencing good things sooner. So, where is the "you" who "should have experienced good things in the past"?
The past is a story, a fantasy. A lot of pain can be easily seen through with just four words, "back in the present."
*Author: Raising small fish, Ming Shu
*Edit: The little assistant eats the hope of sugar-free taro puree