The woman who makes a man think about is not the one he loves the most
01
Wang Xiaobo once said in his book "Loving You Like Loving Life":
"If you want, I will always love you, and if you don't want to, I will always miss each other." 」
In men's hearts, there is often a cinnabar mole.
The cinnabar mole, as the white moonlight in their sight, had not faded for a long time.
Even after a long period of baptism, it is still a touch of brilliance in the heart of a man.
In the eyes of many women, the person who makes men remember unforgettable should be the person they love the most in their hearts.
But in reality, this is not the case.
The woman who makes a man the most memorable and long-cherished;
In fact, it was the woman they loved and paid a lot for, but to no avail.
Two people have a past, but there is no future, and the regret of loss is a long-term wound in a man's heart.
In the long life, it is always from time to time, and it comes out to exude some sense of existence.
Attract them and think about them.
02
The best one, often not getting.
It is often said, "What you don't get, you're always in turmoil." ”
This is indeed the case in life, whether it is people or things;
Those things that cannot be pursued are like carrots hanging in the eyes of rabbits, emitting a charming fragrance.
Again and again, it attracts people to move forward.
Even after that, I nibbled on other carrots.
The radish that hangs in front of you and does not eat it will also appear in your mind from time to time.
For men, the woman who used to love and could not be loved was the turnip that the rabbit did not hug.
No matter how long it has been, it has haunted the man's heart.
In the movie "Charlotte Troubles", Charlotte has such feelings for Qiuya.
When she was in school, Charlotte was very impressed with Qiuya, who was the class flower, and he wanted to pursue this beautiful and gentle girl.
But whether it is his grades or his family background, he is not as good as Yuan Hua.
Against this background, Charlotte's pursuit was fruitless.
Qiu Ya's gaze just looked at Yuan Hua, learning with herself.
Years later, Qiuya married a wealthy businessman, and at the wedding, Charlotte had a dream, dreaming of returning to high school and re-living again.
This time, his gaze was still focused on Qiu Ya's body.
This time, his quest was successful, and QiuYa became his lover.
But after the prosperity was over, he found that the person he loved the most in his heart was not Qiu Ya, who had never been able to ask for it before.
It was Ma Dongmei, who had always been with him.
In reality, Qiu Ya is the person that Charlotte always thinks about in her heart, but she is not his favorite.
His thoughts are only because of love.
After all, people or things that you don't get are often the best beings.
03
The so-called hanging thoughts are actually their own obsessions.
When people live for a lifetime, they always have many desires.
These desires are the adventure maps of life's journey, dividing areas into areas.
The map that successfully passes through the customs will become a memory in time, flowing into the years and rivers, without making waves.
But those areas that have no solution are just the opposite.
They will become a knot in people's hearts, and from time to time they will jump out and exude their own sense of existence.
The person who a man loves in his heart is the level in his life that has not yet passed.
In fact, he was not thinking about that person, but about the past that he could not focus on, and he had paid a lot of money before.
Just like in "You at the Same Table", Lin Yi's feelings for Zhou Xiaoyan.
The relationship between them is a green plum bamboo horse that began in junior high school.
After turning over decades of green years, the two men established a relationship at university and agreed to study in the United States together.
For this goal, they even limit the time of love every day.
But every day after graduation, Lin Yi succeeded, but Zhou Xiaoyan has been rejected by the United States and cannot go out to study.
The agreement between them ended in vain.
And when there was news of Zhou Xiaoyan again, it was the other party's wedding invitation.
At the moment when Zhou Xiaoyan said "I do", her love with Lin Yi ended in failure.
In fact, after several years, the love in a man's heart has long been polished by the years.
The reason why I still worry about it is because of the unwillingness in my heart.
The unforgettable memories in their hearts are not aimed at each other, but at the former self.
04
Time has passed, let go of obsession, fix your eyes on the present.
No matter how unforgettable it was in the past, people always live in the present.
If you think about the past with all your heart, it is unfair to people in the present.
Cherish the person in front of you, don't wait until the time of loss, and then incorporate the other party into your own obsession, which will be unforgettable for a long time.
To truly love someone is not to think about the past, not to fear the future, but to think only of the present.
After all, everyone has a past, but no one wants their lover to hide others in their hearts.
With a sincere heart, love your current lover.
In this way, it is good for each other.
As for the former person, he has loved, missed, and worked hard, and this is enough.
There are always regrets in time, and there are often encounters in the future.
For the rest of your life, respect the past and let go of the obsession in your heart.
From now on, free your heart, love the people of the present, and see the scenery of the future.
This is what should be done now.
