Chu and Han competed for hegemony, Xiang Yu was arrogant, did not look at people, did not know talents; Han Xin was "sent" to Liu Bang in vain, and as a result, half of the credit for the Han Empire established by Liu Bang came from Han Xin.
At the end of the Eastern Han Dynasty, Liu Bei, who had no territory, two silver, and three armies, finally established the Shu Han Empire, and divided the world with the invincible Cao Cao and the unruly Sun Quan.
It depends on a heart that knows people...
The biggest risk in this life is to meet people unladylike and not to know people well; to be friends with gentlemen can harvest real feelings, while with the little people, you will only get a bloody lesson.
How to discern the mind, how to recognize people?
In fact, the old ancestors have already told us about these 8 wisdom and experience of discerning people's minds...
First, the general principles are based on what they are
A person is rich and developed, depending on whether he can still be modest and courteous, gentle to others, and abide by the rules... Just like: Zhang Ying during the Kangxi period of the Qing Dynasty.
Zhang Ying, who was then a scholar of Wenhuadian University and a shangshu of the Ministry of Rites, suddenly received a letter from his hometown one day, saying that the old Wu family next door was building a new house to occupy the public horn alley, and Zhang Father hoped that his son could come forward to solve it, give the old Wu family a dismount, and warn them not to "step on the boundary."
As a result, after Zhang Ying read the letter, he directly wrote a four-sentence reply: The Qianli family letter is only for the wall, so why bother him to be three feet? The Great Wall is no longer there, and Qin Shi Huang was not seen in that year.
After Zhang Father received the reply, he immediately understood his son's meaning, so he took the initiative to give up three feet of open space for the old Wu family to build a house, and the old Wu family saw the situation and was deeply moved, not only dispelling the idea of occupying the entire Horn Alley, but also taking the initiative to give up the three-foot homestead... In order to witness the friendship between the two families, Horn Lane has since been changed to "Six Foot Lane".
Although Zhang Ying is in a high position, he can still maintain a normal heart and be kind to the people at all times... This is the good quality that a person of high moral character should have...
Some people, on the contrary, think they have two stinky money, and when they become a petty official, they have to not know what their surname is and who their name is, and they act arbitrarily and arrogantly... Deliberately pulling away from friends who once suffered, deliberately inflating their own value, willingly being the slave of others, and selling their souls cleanly...
To learn to know people, to know the general principles and observe their etiquette... Don't treat those bastards who are harmless on the surface, but are actually a false benevolence and false righteousness, as a rich and loving person.
Second, you will look at what you have made
A person is promoted, his status is improved, it depends on what kind of person he recommends, what kind of person he promotes, then what kind of person he is... For example: Li Shanchang ——
When Li Shanchang was preparing to tell the old man to return to his hometown, Zhu Yuanzhang asked him:
"Ai Qing, if you retire, who should do the position of prime minister?"
Li Shanchang replied even:
"Hu Weiyong!"
Who is Hu Weiyong?
That was Li Shanchang's student, although Juxian did not shy away from relatives, but Hu Weiyong still had an identity: like Li Shanchang, he belonged to an important member of the Huaixi Group.
Li Shanchang's purpose was simple: by recommending Hu Weiyong, he firmly controlled the position of prime minister in the hands of their Huaixi clique.
But the Hongwu Emperor was not a fool, the Ming Empire was surnamed Zhu, not Li... As a result, Hu Weiyong was sent to the guillotine along with Li Shanchang.
Li Shanchang is a selfish and greedy person, and the Hu Weiyong he recommended is even more selfish and greedy than he is...
Learn to know people, to understand that you are expensive and look at their progress... Things are clustered in groups, people are divided into groups, and what people recommend is nature or what "people".
Third, the rich look at what they have raised
A person has money, it depends on how he spends it, to whom he spends it, where he spends it... It's like: Gu Tianle
When Gu Tianle was booming, he was paid more than 10 million for making a movie.
However, since his debut, after decades of filming, Gu Tianle's car is still an ordinary Santana, living in a cheap commercial house...
Compared with those so-called first-line big stars in China who have millions of luxury cars and thousands of Marriott houses, it is simply a world of difference, the difference between clouds and mud...
Where did Gu Tianle's money go?
Is it the same as some Hong Kong stars: the gamble loses?
Of course not...... Looking at Gu Tianle's other identity, it is clear at a glance: Principal Gu...
So far, Gu Tianle has donated funds to build more than 100 hope primary schools in the mainland... Proper big philanthropist...
It turned out that almost all of Gu Zai's money was spent on out-of-school children across the country and spent on contributions to the country...
Learn to know people, to understand that the rich are looking at their cultivation... For the rich are not benevolent, no matter how much money there is, the rich one is only himself...
Fourth, listen and watch what they do
After a person finishes speaking, it depends on whether he is doing it accordingly, not afraid of not saying it, afraid of not being able to do it... For example: M Cloud.
"I am a person who has no interest in money, never cares about money, money, it is something outside the body, life does not bring, death does not bring ..."
This is M Cloud's "passionate" words at a symposium...
But as soon as the meeting ended, one of his treasures began to forcibly cut the leeks of the merchants...
Let me ask you: Is this a man who has no interest in money and treats money as dung?
Fortunately, the eyes of the people are shining, and M Cloud and his business empire have not escaped the severe punishment of the law in the end...
Learn to know people, know how to listen, and look at what they say... Words and deeds are true gentlemen, and words without faith are false good people...
Fifth, stop and look at what is good
A person's hobbies can see his essence... For example: Gao Li
It is well known that Gao Li likes to play Keju (ancient football), that footwork, a big foot out of the few people can carry, known as the ancient version of Robert Carlos.
To say, this hobby of playing football is not bad... Both entertaining and exercising... Why not...
That's right...
But it depends on whether this "hobby" is innocent and does not have any purpose...
If it is purely for the sake of kicking for the sake of playing football, it is pure entertainment, then there is nothing wrong with it...
But Gao Li is different...
He kicked the bow for a purpose.... Purely to get close to the emperor, because Emperor Huizong of Song at that time liked this thing.
It's called doing what it pleases...
In the end, Gao Li did gain the emperor's favor with his "hobbies"... As a result, the Song Dynasty was also governed by his "hobbies".
Learn to know people, to know how to stop and look at their favors... Love house "and Wu", through a person's hobby to insight into his quality, a hundred trials and tried!
Sixth, Xi looks at what he says
When you first meet a person, 80% of the words he says are "lies", only when you get along for a long time, and then listen to what he says to you, that is the "true words"... For example: Yue Buqun
Yue Buqun in Jin Yong's novel "Smiling Proud of the Rivers and Lakes", at first glance, saw his impression: humble and elegant, righteous and awe-inspiring, casual conversation with him can give people a feeling like a spring breeze, a proper "gentleman's sword".
However, the fact that Yue Buqun was a different face: in order to obtain the evil sword spectrum, he did not hesitate to persecute his disciples and his family, and even in the end in order to cultivate the evil sword spectrum, he did not even let go of himself - he wielded the sword from the palace.
Two sides and three knives, used in Yue Buqun's body is worthy of the name, but it is appropriate.
To learn to know people, to know how to learn to look at what they say... The road knows the horsepower, and the people's hearts are seen for a long time.
Seventh, the poor are not subject to it
It doesn't matter if people are poor, if they don't like to take advantage of small things, there will be a big show... Like: My classmate Zhao Qingyuan
Zhao Qingyuan is my college classmate, this person is actually good at everything, good at communication, strong in ability, since I was a child, I feel that the most outstanding person after our class must be him.
However, more than twenty years have passed, and at a classmate party, Zhao Qingyuan is the only brother who has no car and no house, and the worst mixture.
Later, after the party, my souvenir (a box of chocolates) was forgotten on the table, and I was just about to go back to get it, but I was dragged back by Zhao Gang (my table):
"Old classmate, don't take it, it must be Zhao Qingyuan who took it..."
I said: How do you know?
Zhao Gang patted me on the shoulder and sighed:
"He is my hair small, and now it is the same unit, I don't know... Love greedy and cheap, every company party is like this, always the last to leave, waiting to pick up the leftovers on the table, leftovers, even empty wine bottles are not spared....... In the unit is also like this, waiting for the swill water in the canteen every day, saying that it is taken back to feed the dogs... You say, your box of gifts, will he let go... The leaders have talked to him several times, but he always can't change... ay! It's really blind to his good skills..."
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For Zhao Gang's words, I was half-convinced, and finally I couldn't help but turn back... As a result, I happened to bump into Zhao Qingyuan rushing out of the meeting place with my gift box.
Perhaps, there are other reasons why Zhao Qingyuan is mixed badly, but I think that loving to take advantage of small things must be one of the most important.
Learn to know people, to understand that the poor are not subject to it... People are not short-sighted, take advantage of small and eat big losses.......
Eighth, the lowly look at what they do
It doesn't matter if people's status is low, they are not humble, they maintain their dignity, they live out of their own realm....... For example: Lin Xiangru
During the Warring States period, once the King of Qin invited the King of Zhao to drink, and after three rounds of wine and five tastes of tea, the King of Qin, who was on his head, teased the King of Zhao:
"Gu heard that King Zhao liked music, so he asked King Zhao to play a song for the widow."
King Zhao was afraid that the King of Qin would be mad, so he had to whisper his breath to cheer up.
However, after the song was finished, the King of Qin suddenly instigated Shi Guan to write next to him:
"On a certain day in a certain month of a certain year, the King of Qin and the King of Zhao would drink and order him to play a song."
When King Zhao heard this, he was very angry, but he had no choice.
Just at this moment, Lin Xiangru, who was accompanying him, suddenly walked up to the King of Qin and asked:
"King Zhao heard that king Qin is good at playing Qindi music, so please allow me to offer one for entertainment!"
Without saying a word, he respectfully offered one.
The King of Qin was immediately furious:
, who gave you the guts...
However, Lin Xiangru did not flinch, but took a step forward and threatened:
"Although I am low-minded, I also have dignity and need to be respected... Now you're so close to me, if you don't agree to strike, I'll immediately let you splash blood on the spot!" ”
The King of Qin was frightened and could only nod his head in agreement...
After the King of Qin finished his attack, Lin Xiangru immediately summoned the Zhao Guoshi official to write:
"On a certain day in a certain month of a certain year, the King of Qin struck a blow for the King of Zhao."
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Compared with King Zhao, Lin Xiangru really lived out his dignity.
Learn to know people, to understand that the lowly are not to see what they do... People can be light, words can be small, and dignity must not be practiced!
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What kind of people are worth associating with? The "8 Points" of the Old Ancestors:
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