Girlfriend Xiao Dan, 31 years old, works in a state-owned enterprise, nine to five, weekends and double holidays, free and willful. Every Friday night, I would hang out at my favorite bar and make fun of her latest blind date. Yes, this is my lively and mischievous girlfriend, the family urged her to get married, but she did not think about how to face marriage, and she could not find a suitable partner.
An optimistic and romantic girl with a free faith
Many years ago, when we were in graduate school together, we liked to sit on the lawn of the sports field at night and look at the running boys. I remember once, she once told me that one day there will be a boy she likes who will inadvertently fall in love with her, make her every day full of happiness, understand her happiness and freedom, be able to tolerate her unconditionally, and then step on the colorful clouds to marry her in a blossoming March. But now five years later, the boy she was waiting for hadn't come.
Because of the family environment from childhood, coupled with the fact that she is an only child, Xiao Dan began to live alone after going to college and getting rid of family constraints, unfettered, warm and open-minded, able to grasp all the free lifestyles within her ability. Xiao Dan almost decides everything by himself, and no longer accepts the arrangements of the family, and likes to be active and has leadership. In the student union to do a good job, after graduation every class reunion is her joint arrangement, leisure time a wide range of interests, like to play the piano, swimming, go to picnic and self-driving tour, there are many friends, more to the weekend about her people to greet in advance. It is such a lively and interesting girl, who has not been married until she is 31 years old.
Each relationship will not exceed a year, but there is no hurry
I remember when I was studying undergraduate with me, my girlfriend Xiao Dan didn't talk much about love, basically busy with her own studies and the student union, studying well every year to get scholarships. I've only talked about it once, and I guess that's not going to be talked about. Simple to go to the school cafeteria to eat, go to the study room to study, occasionally go shopping together on weekends, watch movies, and when she was with the boy for almost six months, Xiao Dan broke up with him on the grounds that she couldn't get the extra time to take the IELTS test.
The boy who talked the longest was during the master's degree, the boy looked clean and sunny, liked to play basketball, had several pieces of abs, and spoke very slowly and gently. It is such a boy, usually less talking but attracted the attention of girlfriends, they quickly together, slowly warmed up feelings, but also had a relationship in a specific period, that was the first time for girlfriends. Since then she has fallen in love with the boy, waiting for him to eat together, watching him play ball in the playground, and accompanying him to buy clothes. One night in April, almost before graduation, the boy told her not to contact her again, she was inexplicably blocked, and she could not find the boy again. This time it talked for eleven months and twenty-eight days. My girlfriend was hurt, she came to me, spoke to me, and began to become depressed.
After graduation, she went to work in a state-owned enterprise, worked regularly, lived a rich life, and did not see friends, and slowly she was no longer depressed, but basically did not fall in love for two years. Almost three years after graduation, when I saw her again, she looked a lot fuller and more beautiful, smiled and had a beautiful eyebrow, sweet and mature, and I think she had come out. In the following time, she began to fall in love again, but each time it would not be half a year, and each time she proposed to break up. She's talked about process men, finance men, sales men, IT men, in short, all kinds of boys. Long is half a year and eight months, short is ten days and half a month, Xiao Dan conditions are superior, do not worry about no boys chasing her.
Family members urge marriage, and girlfriends do not want to get married
In the second year after graduating from the master's degree, when Xiao Dan was about 27 years old, the family began to urge marriage, almost every year, to the age of 31, arrange blind dates, various dating groups to find suitable boys, and she also quarreled with her family for this. My girlfriend and I play well, I know her personality, she doesn't want her marriage to be arranged, in addition, she has developed a free life, a person can handle anything, even surgery is her own, stable work and money, married or not, when to get married is not important to her, and she does not look old, 31 looks 26 years old.
Once at dinner together on the weekend, she told me that the man she was waiting for was supposed to be someone stronger than her, better than her, better than her. I asked her, what you once said to me on the lawn when you were in college, looking forward to the feelings of such a person, the person who married you in the March of the Warbler Flying Swallow Dance, why is it not her now. She took a sip of her coffee and said to me lightly, "I probably don't need that person now, because that person is the other side of me, and I already have one."
Why don't you trace the matter during your master's degree to the source?
I asked my girlfriend, when I was a master, he blocked you silently, disappeared silently in your world, took away your first time and was not responsible, why don't you ask the root cause, now the network is so developed, what can not be found ah. She told me that she still loved him, and although she had not been able to understand why he had suddenly left her and had fallen into a deep depression for almost two years, she suddenly understood, understood why he did what he did, and wanted to understand why she herself had never met the right person and why she was always unwilling to get married soon.
Postscript: Many of us are reluctant to get married in a hurry, probably for various reasons, a thousand people have a thousand Hamlets, some people may feel that they have no money and bad conditions, some people may feel that they will be bound to marry too early, some people feel that the married family relationship makes it difficult for them to accept, in short, now too many people marry late, here, Xiaobian hopes that everyone can find their most suitable feelings, I hope that everyone can also leave me a message Why Xiao Dan is not married, what is the biggest reason.
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