On March 10, Zhu Zhu's husband Wang Yunjia posted her daughter's swimming photos on the social platform, soft and cute, while her father gently supported her daughter's chin, and there was no doubt that her daughter was a slave.
On March 9, mother Zhu Zhu was already filming with Huang Bo, and it can be speculated that dad has more time with the baby. As an outsider, Although Wang Yunjia is not busy with his wife, he also wears several jobs, not only as a fashion designer, the founder of the Italian men's clothing boutique Sartorial, but also an art teacher at Tsinghua University, who won the sixth place in the Longines FEI International Equestrian Competition, and is a proper business elite.
But since getting married and pregnant in March 2021, Zhu Zhu's husband has become a super daddy, not only cooking for pregnant mothers during pregnancy, but also taking care of the baby personally during the month, taking her out for a ride, basking in the sun, holding her daughter to see a painting exhibition, taking her daughter out for coffee...
It's super daddy!
Many people may say that Zhu Zhu is a thousand gold in the Beijing circle, and the family must be a childcare sister-in-law taking care of the baby, without parents to worry. But at the age of 0-3, the company of parents is indispensable. Parenting sisters-in-law can help us take care of our children's food and drink, but the high-quality companionship of parents is the main source of children's sense of security.
In 2006, scientists at Yale University in the United States conducted a 12-year follow-up survey of all ages from infants to teenagers and found that children raised by men had high IQs, they tended to have better grades in school, had more prospects for development in society, and were more likely to succeed in their careers.
And the super busy father Wang Yunjia has made a good example for the majority of fathers, drinking coffee while holding the child during the break, taking her to broaden her horizons on weekends, taking the baby out for a walk with a cart, and taking the baby out of the house with a safety basket...
In today's increasingly serious competitive pressure, the pressure of fathers can not be underestimated, especially those who want to have a successful career, the burden on their bodies is heavier. So, how do super busy dads spend time with their kids?
First of all, dads need to understand that high-quality companionship is the cornerstone of a good parent-child relationship
Many fathers will feel that they are very busy at work, do not have time to spend time with their children, and have their mothers to accompany them. This is a big mistake, high-quality companionship is not about long-term, not always by the child's side, but active attention and timely response.
Even if dads are busy with their careers and come home late, as long as we sleep next to our babies and respond to them in a timely manner when they need them; give them eye contact when they play, it is a high-quality companionship.
For example, Dabao likes to read when he is more than two years old, my father is in the study with Dabao, Dabao looks at his picture books, his father uses the computer to work, and his daughter feels very happy. When she couldn't reach the book, Daddy helped her fetch it; when she looked at Daddy, Daddy gave her a smile in his eyes, and they spent half a day quietly.
Companionship can be silent, it can be frolicking and playing together, it can be sports together, or it can be doing their own thing in a space. As long as there is eye contact and interaction, it is high-quality companionship.
Every child is an explorer and loves to explore, but they need adults to push a door for them, support them behind their backs, let them know that their parents have been silently observing them, giving them the help and support they need.
Therefore, as a father, whether you are a super busy father or a relatively idle father, you must understand the significance of companionship for the growth of your child. When the father is fully committed to the company, the child will feel that we are paying attention to them, there will be a very strong sense of existence and a high sense of value in the heart, and their sense of self-worth will slowly be established.
Second, dads should take the initiative to seek opportunities to interact with their children
Even for super busy dads, there's always a squeeze in time. As vice president of Fok Ying Tung Group and trust committee member of the foundation, Huo Qigang also holds government office, but he never neglects his children and wife Guo Jingjing because he is busy with work. Not only does he often take the children to cook, wash the car, but also go to the farm to experience life together.
During last year's Olympic Games, Guo Jingjing was a judge, and Huo Qigang took three children to the restaurant alone to order food, and the scene was warm and loving. He also posted a family watching fencing matches, and his son gave him a docent, really a good father.
If it were not for Huo Qigang looking for opportunities to interact with the children, the children would probably not be able to see the figure of their father. After all, Huo Qigang held several positions. But he knows that the child's growth is fleeting, and he will find ways to accompany the child.
As an ordinary person, dads often have no right to speak, not to take a vacation to accompany their children. Even if you can't accompany your child, dad can take your child with you at work and let your child accompany your parents to work. Companionship does not have to be a parent accompanying a child, it can also be a child accompanying a parent.
If the working conditions do not allow the child to visit and follow, the father can complain to the child in a limited time, seek the child's understanding, so that the child understands: they have always been in the father's heart, and will also leave the child with a loving exchange.
In addition, an exceptionally busy dad can participate in important moments of his child's development
If the father can accompany the child at the important moment of the child's growth process, he can give them more spiritual support and nourishment, so that they feel that they have weight in the father's heart, and they will harvest a good parent-child relationship. A good parent-child relationship is the foundation of education.
Former U.S. President Barack Obama declared during his presidential campaign that he was most proud of the fact that he had missed a parent-teacher meeting for his children during the 21-month campaign.
Not only that, but during his presidency, he would also have dinner with his children every night, patiently answering children's questions, and advising children on making friends at school.
Dad may not be as busy as the president, but he may have to travel for business and not be able to live with his children in order to make a living, but this does not prevent dads from participating in important moments of his children's development. Dad can take time off to attend the child's graduation ceremony or parent-teacher conference to learn about the child's growth with the teacher.
When the father cannot live with the child, the mother must act as a lubricant, explain the father's work situation with the child, let the child learn to understand the father; pass on the role model of the father, let the child be proud of the father.
Most importantly, companionship is not the same as companionship
If we were left in a space without any interaction or eye contact, would you think you would be able to bear it?
This is true for adults, and it is even more true for children. The famous expressionless experiment also tells parents that if we don't respond and interact positively, the child's heart beats faster and the stress hormone (cortisol) in the body rises. If the parent does not respond to the child for a long time, some brain cells in the child's brain may die.
Therefore, accompaniment is not the same as companionship, if our parents put the baby alone in the game corner to play, they play mobile phone next to themselves, this is not high-quality companionship. Companionship is about taking the initiative to pay attention to children, care for them, and make them feel that they are needed. When they experience self-worth, they will form a complete self-perception in our reactions, and they will grow into self-confidence and self-esteem.
A Jewish quotation once said, "A father is called a father not because he gives birth to a child, but because he educates a child." ”
May all children be accompanied and led by their fathers, even if it is a few minutes or hours, it will be a precious memory of children's love. You tell me?