Breasts and uterus are two major female symbols, and they are safely placed on their own on weekdays, and naturally they do not feel much. But if one day, you are going to lose these parts, will you be able to accept it?
Hello hola everyone, I am Little D, March 8th is International Women's Day, so Little D would like to take this opportunity to tell a real female hero: anti-cancer warrior Xie Sufeng.
"Before, my breasts were big, really big, and my friends said I was 'no one arrives, wave arrives first.'" Xie Sufeng did not shy away from mentioning the past during the interview, laughing that she was a big girl before she fell ill, with a large body and figure, and her breasts naturally became the focus of many people's attention. Perhaps some people are envious of her G-cups, but in fact this is a kind of trouble in her daily life, especially the need to face some different eyes and prejudices of the opposite sex.
"You can't wear tight clothes, you can't do sports... This society actually discriminates against women with large breasts. "Because her breasts bothered her so much, she didn't like this body part so much before, and even moved to make it smaller." That was the idea of being in your 20s, and then when you grow up, it doesn't matter, you can deal with it calmly. ”
In 2017, after a mammogram physical examination, she found a problem with breast calcification, and the doctor asked for a biopsy, and then diagnosed carcinoma in situ. So the doctor recommended surgery to remove the tumor tissue. "The tumor at that time was very small, too small to touch, about the size of a few cents of a coin." After the operation, the hospital happened to be collecting data for genetic mutation research, and she also did genetic testing. A year later, test results showed she had a mutation in the PALB2 gene. The doctor made two suggestions, one was to track the condition intensively, and the other was to remove both breasts as a prevention, and she resolutely chose the latter.
"Isn't a woman without a chest?" Gender is not determined by the chest. Many people hesitate when it comes to gender symbols, but Xie Sufeng immediately decided to remove her breasts as a precaution.
She believes that everything is insignificant compared to life, and everything is possible only if life is saved. "I just try to live, like my parents, they love life, even if they are sick, they don't give up, and they have to live until the last minute." She said bluntly that both parents died of illness for a while, but she did not lightly give up treatment and give up life. "This is not a fear of death, but respect and responsibility for life."
When deciding to cut off both breasts, Xie Sufeng also decided to do breast reconstruction during the operation at the same time. "This was a 'match' and when I decided to have this surgery, the doctor asked me if I wanted to do breast reconstruction at the same time. Of course, you can choose to rebuild or not rebuild. "Xie Sufeng once thought about not rebuilding, thinking that this part did not fully represent women, but then thought about it carefully, worried that after seeing that he did not have a chest, he would not be able to accept such a self." Gender has nothing to do with breasts, but I'm not comfortable enough to accept that I don't have breasts. I thought it was feasible when I imagined it myself, but I didn't know what my mental state would be after surgery, and I didn't dare to challenge it. ”
From the diagnosis of cancer, to learning that she has family genetic problems, to removing the chest, Xie Sufeng is in a situation of constantly adjusting her psychological state and doing psychological construction, and she admits that she cannot predict the psychological state of the moment of waking up.
Breast reconstruction can be done with autologous tissue or prosthetic milk, and Xie Sufeng's breast reconstruction uses the muscle tissue of her back. She laughs and calls herself "lazy" and is only responsible for deciding on reconstructive surgery, and it is up to the doctor to decide how and what to do with the surgery.
After the operation, she woke up feeling thirsty and wanted to turn around and take water to drink, but because she was tied with too much gauze, she couldn't turn around, let alone get water to quench her thirst. "At that moment, I suddenly felt that many things were not inevitable, especially those things that we were born with, were not inevitable. That's all grace. She said bluntly that she learned to look away and had more gratitude for life.
Ask what she thinks of her reconstructed breasts when she wakes up? She laughed and said that at the moment, she was just feeling whether the wound hurt or not, whether she needed to use morphine to relieve pain, etc., and finally remembered her body. Because Xie Sufeng's body is relatively plump, it is also necessary to shape the breast according to the body shape when reconstructing the breast, and the reconstructed chest is still not small, probably the D cup.
In the video interview, Xie Sufeng's posture looked no different from ordinary people, but she said that the reconstructed breasts were not "original" after all, and could not look as natural as the original breasts. "The reconstructed breasts actually come from the muscles behind them, so in the beginning, the breasts were hard, there was no feeling, and the position was not in the middle, just on both sides, and looked like side breasts." Nowadays, it is necessary to concentrate the chest with underwear, which visually looks no different from the chest of the average person.
Patients who completed this operation can generally recover and be discharged from the hospital in 5 days, but Xie Sufeng had a rare physical problem and intermittently treated for 2 years before recovering. Due to the reconstruction surgery using the dorsal muscles, two holes were left in the back, and the water of the body continued to flow in, causing that area to become inflamed and a seroma (seroma) effusion occurred. In this case, you need to go to the hospital regularly to pump out the accumulated water in this area.
She joked that from the loss of breasts to the reconstruction of breasts, the position on her chest had never gone through an empty window period. Although the breasts are not representative of women, she is still grateful for the appearance of the second breast, which makes her a lot less mentally disturbed. "I don't know how to describe it, it has helped me a lot psychologically, so that I don't have to do so much construction, I don't have to face the eyes of others, and I have a lot less psychological burden."
Xie Sufeng believes that breast reconstruction is a great help for breast cancer patients, avoiding those frustrating eyes. She said that if she did not have reconstructive surgery, she may also worry about the eyes of others and need to go through a period of painful psychological construction to face the outside world. She was worried that her situation would stop people who wanted to do breast reconstruction, and during the visit, she repeatedly stressed that she was a special case, that the recovery period of breast reconstruction surgery was short, and that her experience was only a rare situation caused by special constitution.
"I was 45 years old at the time, and I still needed to go to work and go out to meet people, so I felt that I needed to do reconstruction, and if I was 55 years old when I was diagnosed, I probably wouldn't want to do reconstructive surgery." People think differently at every age, and Xie Sufeng thinks that if she had been diagnosed when she was older, she might have made a different decision. However, she is still grateful for everything that exists, and the biggest gain from the illness so far is that she has more respect for life.
"I used to think that being alive wasn't a big deal, but then I realized that everything is not easy, and now I will respect life more, whether it is people or animals." After falling ill, she adopted 2 dogs and 1 cat, all of whom were adopted or picked up from the street, and one of the dogs had a serious disability, but it still did not prevent her from caring for it. Xie Sufeng said bluntly that she is single, her parents have passed away, and she is in a state of childlessness, fatherlessness, motherlessness, and no burden, and only needs to be responsible for her own life, but she believes that people need to be "needed", and raising these small animals just makes up for some of the deficiencies in her soul.
After 5 years of fighting cancer, Xie Sufeng has fulfilled her wish for many years to see the snow and the desert before and after the second operation. She laughs and says that everything she has to do before the age of 50 has been completed, and the next step is to concentrate on completing the master's degree in the Chinese department that she is currently studying. "Seriously, I'm not a person who loves to read, but I didn't find my goal at that time, so I went to school first." Ha ha! This goal can be maintained for several years! Having said that, Xie Sufeng is still working hard to complete her coursework and will be able to graduate at the end of this year without accidents. She believes the current goal is to prepare for retirement plans for the next decade. If you still have the heart, you hope to travel the world by ferry and start your doctoral career after the age of 60.
Breasts are certainly a symbol of a woman's appearance, but losing a breast does not mean that you cannot survive. Nowadays, medicine is developed, even if you lose your breasts, there are other ways to fill the gap in this regard, and the most important thing is how to actively face your life, so that you can still shine and live a wonderful life after losing your breasts!
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