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Editor/Little Love Letter
That year, Tong Dawei and his girlfriend Guan Yue had been together for a while, and the two were emotionally stable and ready to go home to meet their parents.
However, when it comes to Guan Yue meeting her mother-in-law for the first time, it is more dramatic.
The first meeting was not very formal, and could even be said to be a coincidence. Tong Dawei was not present that day, and Guan Yue met with Dawei's sister and another woman downstairs.
Looking at the woman next to Sister Tong, Guan Yue guessed which relative of her sister she thought was based on her appearance.
And here Tong Dawei's sister also interestingly did not introduce the two to each other.
Guan Yue chatted with them unguardedly, but the more they talked about it, the more wrong it became.
Listening to how the attitude of Sister Tong and the one next to her was different, I finally woke up suddenly according to the content of the conversation——
This is Tong Dawei's mother! Guan Yue's future mother-in-law!
"My mother-in-law is particularly young! And it wasn't introduced at the time. Later, when I listened to the tone of their speech, I found out, ah, this is Dawei's mother! ”
Very interesting "mother-in-law meets". Also the side of the reaction, Tong Dawei for the mother's easy-going and appearance maintenance.
For such a woman, probably in everyone's imagination, they are living a life of pampering.
However, the "young mother-in-law" in Guan Yue's mouth is actually a bitter woman, and her life is almost spent in a "widowed" married life...
01、
Flying misfortune
Many young boys idolize their fathers to varying degrees when they are young.
In the eyes of a small child, Dad was always full of strength, tall and mighty, and seemed to be omnipotent.
Others can't guarantee it, but in Tong Dawei's eyes, his father is the "hero of the world" on TV.
Tong Dawei's father was a people's policeman.
In the seventies and eighties, Dad rode a side-side motorcycle with a gun on him...
Whether it is an image or a profession, in Tong Dawei's heart, Dad is a living male protagonist in Hong Kong movies.
"My dad was very handsome, and he was one of the 'three talents' in their unit!"
In "The Venus Show", after twenty or thirty years, Tong Dawei describes his former father, and his face is still full of adoration like a child.
Dad is good-looking and talented - the article is well written, and the beautiful words in one hand are recognized by everyone in the unit! Can write is not enough, he is also good at painting, you say almighty is not omnipotent?
At Tong Dawei's house, his father prepared a small blackboard for him.
On that little blackboard, Dad had drawn many animals for him like a magic: zebras, elephants, monkeys...
At that time, riding on his father's motorcycle was Tong Dawei's happiest and most spirited thing.
Dual-career families, stable incomes, husband and wife love, and children are the labels of their families, and they are a happy home that people envy but do not envy.
Perhaps under the education and cultivation of such a talented father, Tong Dawei will be more outstanding and talented than he is now, and may even become an artist and live another life without becoming an actor.
But when Tong Dawei was six years old, their happy life came to an abrupt end because of a sudden accident. His father was in a serious car accident while on a mission and turned into a vegetative person...
When the accident occurred, Dad was riding the motorcycle that Tong Dada liked.
For a six-year-old, it's not clear what this is.
In his memory, it was just that his parents suddenly had to go on a business trip, and this time it was half a year...
02、
Women are weak, but mothers are strong
In those six months, Tong Dawei and his sister lived under the care of their grandparents and neighbors, except that their parents were not around.
But Bai Jie (Tong Dawei's mother) had a hard time, and her husband fell down and kept hovering in the line of life and death.
All the burdens fell on her alone, perhaps secretly one of them was about to dry up their tears, but in front of people they had to pretend to be strong and brave.
Later, the husband's situation was slightly stable, although it could not change the fact of "vegetative people", but at least one life was saved.
Bai Jie felt that it was time to tell the children the truth. It's time for the white lies to end.
After returning home, Tong Dawei was still wondering: Why did his parents go on a business trip together, and only his mother came back alone?
Like left-behind children who came to reunite with their parents, Tong Dawei was still very happy to see his mother come back. Bai Jie pulled her daughter and Tong Dawei to the front, hesitated for a moment, or opened her mouth:
"Daughter, son, mother has something
I'm going to tell you about it..."
How do you ask a child who is only six or seven years old to understand "a vegetative person who can only breathe"?
How should he understand that his idol father can only accompany him like a plant for the rest of his life?
Tong Dawei did not fully understand this fact.
But he knew it was time for him to grow up...
Since then, her mother, Bai Jie, has to work while going to the hospital to take care of her paralyzed husband, and her two children also need to be taken care of. Everything was piled up on her, and Bai Jie was eager to divide herself into several halves.
Tong Dawei saw that his mother was so busy and hard, as a little man in the family, he also began to learn to cook stir-fry.
In fact, for Bai Jie at that time, although there were only two children. But her age is not too old, her own conditions are not bad, there are other choices.
Looking at the paralysis of Tong Dawei's father, it has been nailed down, and many people have begun to comfort Bai Jie.
After a long time, more people persuaded, and the mediators also directly found Bai Jie's door. But Bai Jie never nodded her head, and her heart was firmer than anyone else: never remarry!
Two children, a paralyzed husband who can't be taken care of, an aging parent... These are all things that Bai Jie needs to face.
You don't have to imagine how hard it is.
Even in today's society, few people have the courage to make such a choice. Material pressure aside, when you are tired, you always want to have a close friend to care for the cold and warm when you come home.
This sense of spiritual isolation is the most painful.
Everyone says, "There is no filial piety before the bed." Taking care of a vegetative person is not an easy task.
Bai Jie scrubs her paralyzed husband's body every day, feeds and turns over, moves her limbs...
Just so insistent, intimately take care of her husband for twenty or thirty years! At the same time, she also looked forward to it with hope that one day her husband would wake up and slowly get better.
03、
Keep the vows of self-discipline and learn from your own
Although life is not easy, Bai Jie still gives everything to the two children. She didn't want to become inferior because her two children didn't have their father's love.
So in life and spiritually, she does her best to meet their needs and give them encouragement.
"In terms of material life, my mother never let me and my sister worse than the other children around me."
When I was in junior high school, once Tong Dawei saw a tourist shoe, and he liked it. Even in their class, only a few people could wear those shoes.
Because, expensive. But looking at the way her son liked it, Bai Jie inspired her son: as long as the exam was done, she would buy it for him.
But Tong Dawei's results in that exam were not ideal, and he did not reach the score agreed with his mother. Lost, he felt that he had lost his beloved shoes.
But in the end, Bai Jie still bought the shoes for her son.
In 1992, a pair of shoes for 480 yuan was a lot for the average family.
The reason why Bai Jie is willing to spend a month's salary to buy this pair of shoes for her son is not coddling.
This is actually an encouragement, a kind of cultivation education - although you can't have a father to give love, but you don't get less than others, so you don't have to be inferior, you should fight, even if it is difficult, you can fight.
At the same time, as a mother, I will not need you to care too much about the unsatisfactory side because of the burden, and I do not need to buy hardships in front of my son.
So when Tong Dawei got those shoes, he wouldn't have a big mental burden.
On the contrary, while his wishes are fulfilled, he is more grateful and encouraged
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Ten years of nurturing trees, a hundred years of educating people, there were three migrations of Meng Mother in ancient times, and now Bai Jie does not hesitate to spend a lot of money in order to educate her son.
Later, Tong Dawei embarked on the road of acting, and from the time he first received his first income, he would take the initiative to send living expenses to his mother. Even when he was working outside, he would not forget his mother's teachings.
After seeing her son participate in one film and television work after another, Bai Jie's concern for her son will not change because of his star status.
"Every time my mom watches a TV series I make, she also gives me some very sincere opinions. Where is the good, where is the good, where is the bad, where the bad is..."
After Tong Da became a father for himself, he also continued the education he received from his mother into his parenting philosophy.
Sometimes it is inevitable that the "strict father" image is needed, but more often Tong Dawei will choose to get along with the children with a soft side.
Therefore, a good wife in a family plays a great role, inheriting the trend of life for three generations.
There is no doubt that Bai Jie is definitely a good wife and mother, and such a woman deserves praise.
Because of her, Tong Dawei and his sister have their own families, with children and daughters.
Although the happiness in front of us has experienced many hardships, it is also because of the qualities of whiteness, virtuousness, strength and bravery that a family has always been cohesive.
Fortunately, Tong Dawei's father, under years of meticulous care, has begun to improve.
Regain consciousness, you can also sit up, although you still can't speak, but you can recognize people and make some simple responses with your eyes.
If Bai Jie had not insisted and chosen to leave, whether Tong Father could still support himself until the day he woke up, everything would become a variable.