I've heard the phrase like this:
"Living in modern society, in a sense, is living in consumption."
Indeed, as long as people live, then it will inevitably involve spending money.
But the difference is that some people will spend money and then live a graceful and beautiful life; some people will not spend money and end up running a mess of life.
Spending money is arguably the best way to spend limited resources on the most valuable things. Needed in work and life, but also needed in feelings.
In the relationship between men and women, we look at women who can make men's hearts can't let go, often women who "spend money".
"Will spend money" to run a life
There is an aphorism that says:
"Give time a life, not a life."
Whether time is beautiful or not is never about how much, but what you give time.
People who can live will live a beautiful life, and every frame is heartwarming.
In the TV series "Our Marriage", Li Xiaotian is an older woman in the single workplace, who often faces various marriage urges from her mother.
But even if she lives alone, even if her family is in a hurry, she will never be able to do it for herself.
He would buy beautiful clothes, paint delicate makeup, spend hours making himself a meal, paint when he got home from work, and give himself music classes...
When her male colleague Huo Liankai first went to her house.
Because of seeing Li Xiaotian's poetic lifestyle, he lost his mind in an instant, and his eyes were full of amazement and appreciation.
Someone said:
"No matter how old you are, no matter what your face is, as long as you are always willing to leave a habitat for your heart and always maintain a warm pillow for the world, you will always be charming." 」
In life, being a woman, either because she is lazy and confused about her own life, or because she enters marriage and does not care about her own life.
So as to make your life boring, then you must not be appreciated by others.
On the contrary, when a woman can always maintain a passion for life, clean up herself, and live her life elegantly, then naturally she will exude charm, which will make people feel heartbroken and pampered.
"Will spend money" to invest in themselves
Author Zhiqiu said:
"If a flower has incense, there are bees and butterflies to love; if a person has a product, he has a confidant to accompany him."
Worldly feelings will always have a very realistic side, when you are a mess yourself, then even if you pay more to others, you will be ignored.
On the contrary, when you are valuable and you are excellent, then you will find that even if you are not so sensible, there will be no shortage of people who love you.
In the TV series "Dear Myself", Zhang Zhizhi can be said to be a typical wife and mother at the beginning, not only the family is well organized, but also the parents of the children are well taken care of.
In addition, she has always been very critical of herself, and it hurts to spend 200 yuan for a thermos for herself, while what she gives to her husband is all the best.
But what did all this unwillingness to spend money and selfless efforts bring in exchange? In exchange for the disgust of her husband Liu Yang.
In fact, this is the most heartfelt reality.
When we look at the women in life who are pampered and held in the palm of their hands, they may not necessarily be gentle, but they must be shining in some way.
Writer Suzen said:
"The best way to love someone is to run yourself well and give the other person a quality lover."
The matter of feelings has never been that you are desperately good to others, and others will repay the favor, but you deserve to be good to others, and others will be willing to be good to you.
When you know how to spend money to invest in yourself, know how to learn to invest in yourself, let yourself increase in value, then naturally meet a better future, and people who love you.
"Will spend money" filial piety to each other's elders
Bing Xin said:
"A good family is the source of all happiness and strength."
For people now, the concept of family is very strong, and everyone will hope that the family will be harmonious.
A woman who can understand filial piety to the elders of the other party is particularly able to win the favor of men, and it is also the most able to impress men's hearts.
I have seen such a story on the Internet:
A couple returned to their hometown for the New Year, and because the man was very busy at work, all the gifts of the two families were purchased by the wife.
For the in-laws, the wife is not stingy, but everything she buys is the best, no less than buying for her parents.
When the husband saw that the gifts his wife had chosen for his parents were all used by his parents and were reluctant to buy them, at that moment he turned to look at his wife's eyes softly and affectionately.
Family is something that everyone values in their hearts, and each of us will hope that our other half can treat our family as family.
However, many times, many people are always thinking about what they need and what they want to buy for their elders, but they ignore the elders of the other half, so that some estrangement and rifts arise in each other's hearts.
A person who knows how to filial piety to the elders of the other half, although it may cost some money, is very worthwhile, because what you get will be a warmth and a man's gratitude.
Such a woman will eventually be respected and cherished by men.
Spending money is something that each of us does every day.
Spending money is an ability that many people lack.
In life, if a woman can spend money in these three places, then she will eventually become the best version of herself and get more affection.
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Author: Away from the rain slightly cool, a rational, emotional, like to use words to express personal views, bring you spiritual healing, emotional solution, life perception of the post-90s writer.