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Which kind of love do you prefer, or love at first sight?
Some people say, of course, the former, because marriage is not a long stream?
Of course, long-term love is the most important.
However, this is not the case, and the premise of long-term love is that there is no emotional basis. Just think: if you don't even have a basic heartbeat, how can you guarantee the quality of love?
The longer the time, the greater the risk of love.
It's like if you and the other person have been in love for three years, but the other person never takes you to see your parents, which is to consume each other.
There is a saying that says, "Love is not staring at each other, but looking in the same direction." ”
Deeply believed, the meaning of love is that two people work in the same direction, rather than one person resisting all the weights.
Unequal love is destined to come to an end.
1, the most nostalgic relationship, but also the most dangerous
Are roses beautiful? Of course it looks good. However, it is thorny, and the average person can only look at it from a distance, but cannot touch it.
After all, no matter how beautiful the flowers are, we will choose to stay away.
And in love, the same is true.
The relationship that makes people nostalgic is also the most dangerous, and the most appropriate example is the extramarital affair.
The other day, Xiaomei, a girlfriend who had just given birth to a child, divorced.
When the friends around her heard the news, they all expressed disbelief, after all, before marriage, she and her husband loved each other so much, how could they say that they were separated?
Everyone was trying to persuade Xiaomei that there was no misunderstanding. However, in the face of everyone's concern, Xiaomei just said lightly: "We didn't have love before, some were just respect between friends, so, during my pregnancy, he betrayed me." ”
Hearing this, everyone had an epiphany, it turned out that Xiaomei and her husband knew each other on a blind date, and they could get married smoothly only because they had reached the marriageable age.
As for the "love" that everyone sees, now I think it is just a scene.
When everyone has sympathy for Xiaomei, they also have a deeper understanding of love: it turns out that love cannot be delayed, and with love as the foundation, marriage will be long-lasting.
As the saying goes: "There is always a place, a person, that makes your heart move and linger." There is always someone who, a word of sorry, makes your heart ache, unforgettable. ”
Admittedly, there are thousands of kinds of love, and the emotional experiences that carry us are naturally different.
If you can, I hope you can recognize the relationship in love, so that you will have happiness.
2, a good oath, need to be proved with actions
There is a saying that says: "The years pale the oath, the oath pales and waits." ”
Indeed it is.
If the vow is not fulfilled, it becomes a "blank check", and if love does not wait for the end, it will only "lose both".
Commitment is important, but failure to act is empty talk.
I remembered seeing a story shared by netizen @Lily.
She said that she and her boyfriend are online dating, and the two usually have few opportunities to meet because they are different.
Every time I play with my boyfriend like any other couple, I almost interact on my phone across the screen.
Although the other party's love words can make Lily happy for a long time every time, but after a long time, she gradually discovered that the other party has been "drawing cakes" for herself, and has never implemented the promise.
Sometimes, the other party said that he would accompany her to watch a movie, but Lily had put on makeup, but the other party said that the company would work overtime;
In addition, the other party said that he would take her on a tour when he was on vacation, but in fact, he just took her to his own city for a walk.
There were so many things like this that Lily later lost patience.
After all, what's the point of not having vows fulfilled?
Aren't we just about enjoying the process of being in love? Since the process is not yo, why let yourself fool yourself?
3, the more long-term love, the less likely it is to go to the end
There is a saying: "In love, there is no long-term love at all, and the so-called long-term love is just a compromise on life." ”
It is true that long-term love is the final will of love.
If we still have a choice, who wants to waste their time forcibly cultivating feelings?
Just like now, many people don't fall in love when they are young, and when they are older, they go to find happiness.
You will find that the people you like, the other party can't look at themselves; people who like themselves can't impress themselves.
Eventually, when we reach marriageable age, we have to solve the marriage problem through blind dates.
However, in this way, there is less room for choice, either to choose or to marry first and then love.
This kind of behavior is bound to have too many risks.
After all, there are too many temptations in society, and no one can guarantee that a marriage without an emotional basis can finally not abandon each other.
We often say that the world is too complex. This is not the case. It's the human heart that's too complicated.
If there is no distrust and disloyalty between people, how can there be so much misfortune?
If you can, I hope that your marriage and mine are based on the inseparable feelings. In this way, we can accompany each other for life.
Xiaoyuan's message: The more long-term love, the less likely it is to go to the end.
After all, not all people can always be passionate about love.
The longer the time, the more each of us has diminishing expectations for love. It is better to be with someone who is compatible with your soul than to spend a long time.
People, when the heart is tired, the perception of love will also decrease.
Therefore, do not choose the love of long-term love, only at the beginning of the love of each other enough, in order to have happiness. Share!
Topic: What kind of love do you think can go to the end?
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